I have 2 kids I'm not looking at supporting someone else

So you have a job or are able to fully support yourself

I do enough driving shuttling said children around, I am not going to be a soccer mom carpooling driver for you as well

You must have your own place of residence and if you're my age still living like an 18 year frat house than no, it's not going to work

No drugs

And if you're into beating women, I hit back

Are you up front on what you will and will not put up with in a relationship? So what are your rules?

u got rules? um what exactly r rules in a relationship>

Rules of dating Lily, if you find these to be harsh, you're not the man for me, no need to email me to tell me this.

1, You must say what you mean and mean what you say.
2. You must not be intimidated by me, hence you must be a strong man.
3. You can be negative at times, but NEVER with yourself.
4. You must be honest, a white lie now and again is acceptable, as long as no one is hurt in the process.
5. You must know yourself, your strenghts AND your weaknesses.
6. You must take what I say, and know that I follow threw with it. THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY.
7. You must know that I give as good as I get, if you disrespect I WILL retaliate, and it will be over the top, and much nastier than you can dish out, so be ready for that.
8. I am kind, caring, loving, and above all loyal, but you MUST never mistake kindness for weakness, for that I AM NOT.
9. If you are honest with me, I will be honest with you, if your sentiments come from a place of truth I will never be angry about it.
10. No mama's boys need apply. I have a child, I won't take care of you. However I will do caring and wonderful things just to make you happy, if this turns into something you EXPECT, if will cease quickly and rapidly.
11. I am independant, not the kind of woman who WANTS to change my tire, but I CAN change my tire, if you do it for me, I will gratiously accept it, but don't think I NEED you to do it for me.
12. I'm a generally happy person, you must be also, no whinning, no crying, no boo hooing..... If you want to talk about something I will gladly talk it out with you, if you are looking to make yourself a victim, go get counceling somewhere else thank you very much.
13. If I tell you that I want to talk that means I want to talk, if I tell you I want to be alone, it means I want to be alone. You must have the same stance, I don't play games.
14. I am a smart woman, I know when I am being lied to, please refrain from insulting my intelligence.
15. If you want to date a bubble head size 0...GO FIND ONE. Do not assume that I am going to agree with everything you say, simply because you say it.
16. I have guy friends, they love me, and I love them, they aren't going anywhere, GET OVER IT.
17. I'm Irish, I know this should come tatood somewhere on me like a warning label. No one EVER wonders where they stand with me. When I'm happy, you'll know it, when I'm angry NO ONE will doubt it.
18. I like to drink and have a good time, I am never sloppy or forget who I came with. Neither should you.
19. I flirt, you should flirt, there are however boundries and lines that DO NOT get crossed. If you do not know these, let's review them.
20. Last but certainly not least, BE YOURSELF, Do not put on a fake front as to who you are. I certainly will not.

Sounds like you've put a lot of thought into this.

Rules of dating Lily

7. You must know that I give as good as I get, if you disrespect I WILL retaliate, and it will be over the top, and much nastier than you can dish out, so be ready for that.

That almost sounds like a challenge , you might want to rephrase that.

34 years one marriage and three engagements worth of thought was put into it...

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17. I'm Irish, I know this should come tatood somewhere on me like a warning label. No one EVER wonders where they stand with me. When I'm happy, you'll know it, when I'm angry NO ONE will doubt it.
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Are you up front on what you will and will not put up with in a relationship? So what are your rules?

Well, there you go... That's a deal killer for me.
Don't get me wrong. Irish girls are pretty and I go to the Irish fair every year and my best friend across the street is Irish and spills Red Wine on my carpet and tells the same Irish Jokes over and over again when he is drunk...then send his drunk Irish ass home.

It is the Irish attitude I can't live with. hehe
They are IMPOSSIBLE!!!

Rules of dating Lily, if you find these to be harsh, you're not the man for me, no need to email me to tell me this.

1, You must say what you mean and mean what you say.
2. You must not be intimidated by me, hence you must be a strong man.
3. You can be negative at times, but NEVER with yourself.
4. You must be honest, a white lie now and again is acceptable, as long as no one is hurt in the process.
5. You must know yourself, your strenghts AND your weaknesses.
6. You must take what I say, and know that I follow threw with it. THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY.
7. You must know that I give as good as I get, if you disrespect I WILL retaliate, and it will be over the top, and much nastier than you can dish out, so be ready for that.
8. I am kind, caring, loving, and above all loyal, but you MUST never mistake kindness for weakness, for that I AM NOT.
9. If you are honest with me, I will be honest with you, if your sentiments come from a place of truth I will never be angry about it.
10. No mama's boys need apply. I have a child, I won't take care of you. However I will do caring and wonderful things just to make you happy, if this turns into something you EXPECT, if will cease quickly and rapidly.
11. I am independant, not the kind of woman who WANTS to change my tire, but I CAN change my tire, if you do it for me, I will gratiously accept it, but don't think I NEED you to do it for me.
12. I'm a generally happy person, you must be also, no whinning, no crying, no boo hooing..... If you want to talk about something I will gladly talk it out with you, if you are looking to make yourself a victim, go get counceling somewhere else thank you very much.
13. If I tell you that I want to talk that means I want to talk, if I tell you I want to be alone, it means I want to be alone. You must have the same stance, I don't play games.
14. I am a smart woman, I know when I am being lied to, please refrain from insulting my intelligence.
15. If you want to date a bubble head size 0...GO FIND ONE. Do not assume that I am going to agree with everything you say, simply because you say it.
16. I have guy friends, they love me, and I love them, they aren't going anywhere, GET OVER IT.
17. I'm Irish, I know this should come tatood somewhere on me like a warning label. No one EVER wonders where they stand with me. When I'm happy, you'll know it, when I'm angry NO ONE will doubt it.
18. I like to drink and have a good time, I am never sloppy or forget who I came with. Neither should you.
19. I flirt, you should flirt, there are however boundries and lines that DO NOT get crossed. If you do not know these, let's review them.
20. Last but certainly not least, BE YOURSELF, Do not put on a fake front as to who you are. I certainly will not.

My phone is my phone no 1 goes threw the almighty phone,