good advice. I dont disagree.Sometimes its over without paperwork though,,in that case I see no harm in making new friends.

In my case, we are on separate continents and he is reluctant, choosing (supposedly) to be indigent rather than allow me to serve him papers. It will be a long process and I dont plan to be hostage to it. I believe in finishing one commitment before starting another though. So for now,, I emphasize, that making FRIENDS is my priority until I am legally free to do otherwise. I would never allow anyone I loved to be the 'other' person. If I commit again, it would be the real deal,,divorce and all.

you are in the united states correct? quit making excuses (no offense intended) and certify a copy of those papers to his last known address.
one of two things will happen. They will come back undeliverable, which you then turn over with your court papers as proof of having tried to serve him and te divorce goes through uncontested. OR he signs for them, and yo get a receipt of hm signing for those papers (or one saying he refused to sign for the papers) and turn THAT into the court as prrof of trying to serve him.
If for some reason yo get no response, after so long, usually 30-45 days, you take your original receipt showing that you mailed the papers certified to his last known address, and that will serve as record of you trying to contact him.

The United States no longer requires both parties to sign the papers and be present in court. I had to go through this whole process with my ex-wife who was at the opposite end of the country and refused to come back for the divorce.

Good luck

oh and one thing about finding a friend before the papers are complete. Finding friends is all right, but until those papers are complete you are still married, no matter how long it has been and must respect your marriage vows.

Again, just mho

Daniel, I agree again. I explain to anyone I meet that I am seperated and not available for the 'dating' scene until I am no longer married. You are preaching to the choir danny boy.

3 months

Lol, who said I was preaching just to YOU hun? lol. This whole thread is about sex before marriage, lol

my mistake

It's ALL in the KISS!

I play it by ear no sense pushing anything. If meant to be will happen on its own.

where have you been hiding Tina

Sex on the 1st (REAL)date?I can tell you... guys may be ok with it at the "moment".... the next day they aren't thinking the same way. It was too easy for them and there isn't USUALLY further effort to be with the woman... I'm not generalizing... Some men aren't pigs... but when the woman is too easy... expect to be treated that way.

I like to hit it and quit it.

That usually is the first date here

you cant beat a good ride

I`m not into sex on a first date I might decide i don`t want to go out with her and then what?

I think it depends on the situation....how often you talk or see one another, how meaningful your communication is. I've gone out with some for a year before I felt like it was right, others it doesn't take that long, and still others not at all.

If your both adults....

Whenever ya want!!!

Ya make your own choices. Even with sex

1st time
3rd
One nighter
Never

Your an adult. Own your own sexuality!!

or how much u drank, what she was wearing and ofcourse would anyone ever find out.

I think I love you!

Haha. That's just the way my life works'!!