Sex on the 1st (REAL)date?I can tell you... guys may be ok with it at the "moment".... the next day they aren't thinking the same way. It was too easy for them and there isn't USUALLY further effort to be with the woman... I'm not generalizing... Some men aren't pigs... but when the woman is too easy... expect to be treated that way.

its happened to me to! now i know i'm not crazy.... wellll about that anyway! LOL

All silly-ness aside...

To have one's cake and eat it too or simply have one's cake and eat it (sometimes eat one's cake and have it too) is the instance of an individual consuming, exhausting, taking advantage of or using up a particular thing and, then, after that thing is gone or no longer reasonably available, still attempting to benefit from or use it. It may also indicate having or wanting more than one can handle or deserve, or trying to have two incompatible things. It is a popular English idiomatic proverb or figure of speech and is most often used negatively. The proverb's meaning is similar to the phrases, "you can't have it both ways" and "you can't have the best of both worlds."

As an example, an individual who is engaged to marry someone but is still dating others romantically would be said to be having one's cake and eating it too.


History
The phrase's earliest recording is from 1546 as "wolde you bothe eate your cake, and have your cake?" (John Heywood's 'A dialogue Conteinyng the Nomber in Effect of All the Prouerbes in the Englishe Tongue')[1] alluding to the impossibility of eating your cake and still having it afterwards; the modern version (where the clauses are reversed) is a corruption which was first signaled in 1812.

Paul Brians, Professor of English at Washington State University, points out that perhaps a more logical or easier to understand version of this saying is: “You can’t eat your cake and have it too”. Professor Brians writes that a common source of confusion about this idiom stems from the verb to have which in this case indicates that once eaten, possession of the cake is no longer possible.[2] Alternatively, the two verbs can be understood to represent a sequence of actions, so one can indeed "have" one's cake and then "eat" it. Consequently, the literal meaning of the reversed idiom doesn't match the metaphorical meaning.


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you are correct there... my best friend likes men who are 10 or more yrs older than her... and it IS an attraction thing....

IMO... its not just an attraction thing. some of us here are looking for the elusive LTR...

If there is a large age difference, it is difficult to be on the same page (life stage wise) with someone much older or younger than you.

someone lots older has been there done that.... and someone lots younger is exited over things the will bore the older one to tears...

this IS NOT ALWAYS the case, but i have seen irritation in an older mans face at my too young suggestions, and been drivin crazy by a younger man's desire to do things new to him, yet old hat to me.

maybe i am judgemental... but its the way its happened for me...

I like to stick with a 10 yr range from 5 yrs younger to 5 older... that way we will be able to relate better.... i dont mean to offend anyone here. but this dating thing is hard and scary and can be heartbreaking. everyone needs all the advantages they can get.

...

I figured out how to see my favorites...

The only time I see if anyone has added me to theirs, is when they add me.

Is there a link to where I can see who has added me to their favotites?

What is annoying me?

Men that come on dating sites claiming to be single... who are not really single.

Makes a girl wanna take up drinking.

I have never met any one from this site. I have from other sites though. There are dry spells... and sometimes... well, when it rains it pours.

Internet dating has to be the scariest thing I have ever done. ( I am not scared easily either, I am a trucker and have had to spend the night in some places that can sare you gray!!! )

I have been on here, ( JSH/M2 ) for over a year.

It seems to be that people are either here to play games, or have such high expectations, that no-one could possibly live up to them.

I'm not quite sure why I keep my membership here, except for the excellent forums, this is the driest site I have ever belonged to... With one exception... E-Harmony... that place is expensive and in 2 months I didnt get one reply.

Being a BBW in the dating world is hard enough without the high expections of men who want a mature, sexy, baggage free, kid free, smoke free, alcohol free, Barbie-Doll model.

OK. I admit that sounded harsh. Not all men are like that, but I seem to run into a lot of them.

So, NO. No luck here yet. I have gotten to the point where I am very cynical. I have gotten nasty replies, no replies, nice replies, and traded emails for a while then they disappear. I have gotten as far as chatting and phone calls that end abruptly.

I wish all the good luck for everyone here. Whether you have found your mate or not... Keep hoping... because when that is gone, there isnt much left but loneliness.

I have never been back with an ex either. Not men Not jobs. I dont get it either. Been Told this Twice now. So much time wasted on men who never wanted anyone else but their ex in the first place. Why start with someone else when you are in LOVE with your ex still? beats me!

I think the one I am most sick of hearing lately is:

"I'm getting back with my ex"

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GOOD ONE!!!!!!!!!

WOW. Even though you included yourself in that... DAMN that was harsh!!!

Having a crush, or being the object of one would be nice I think....

how did I miss this? I had no clue there was any kind of switchover...

yes and it sucks. he did it to me twice.

dont let it happen to you!!! if he disappears once he will again