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Topic: Sex...1st date, 2 weeks or 3 months..
Nick1970 Joined Sun 10/12/08 Posts: 33	Wed 02/04/09 10:14 PM
Not until marriage for me. I'm abstaining until then.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Wed 02/04/09 10:22 PM
How long do you wait? Definitely not first date, men remember those kinds of things and if you get into a relationship with them after sleeping with them on the first date, it will come up later in the relationship and it won't be good when it comes up.

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Fri 02/06/09 08:28 AM
It's been my experance that a woman feels a need to wait to have sex for about 10 hours of time together with a man. That's how long it takes to build enough trust for her. That time could be spent all at once or over several dates. She needs to feel like the man has invested something in her. I take all my first dates to do the same things. I keep it fun for her and it always ends with her coming back to my place after about 8 or 9 hours. Then we watch a DVD and start making out. I've had sex on every first date sense I learned this.

chatznva2 Joined Fri 02/06/09 Posts: 2	Fri 02/06/09 12:25 PM
definetly will bea great time lol

Skjellyfeti Joined Tue 01/13/09 Posts: 108	Sat 02/07/09 08:24 PM
we're all adults here--if you crave it , do it--enough with the "what will he think of me" nonsense. we're all consenting adults--do what makes YOU feel good--life is too short for "when should I have sex?" debates we're so jammed up with political correctness nowadays instead of doing what makes us feel good and living our lives without hurting others. live in the moment--we don't have alot of them.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/07/09 08:41 PM
It's been my experance that a woman feels a need to wait to have sex for about 10 hours of time together with a man. That's how long it takes to build enough trust for her. That time could be spent all at once or over several dates. She needs to feel like the man has invested something in her. I take all my first dates to do the same things. I keep it fun for her and it always ends with her coming back to my place after about 8 or 9 hours. Then we watch a DVD and start making out. I've had sex on every first date sense I learned this. You've got it nailed down to the hour, huh?

phancyphace Joined Wed 02/18/09 Posts: 112	Sun 02/22/09 07:12 AM
More than likely if I give it up on the first date it means I am just interested in a casual relationship.

revolution Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 489	Sun 02/22/09 09:40 AM
Not until marriage for me. I'm abstaining until then. been there done that, dont know if I can do it again but I will try.....

special_guy Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 6513	Sun 02/22/09 05:53 PM
Whenever the mood strikes

Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541	Sun 02/22/09 08:52 PM Edited by Filmfreek on Sun 02/22/09 08:53 PM
Not until marriage for me. I'm abstaining until then. been there done that, dont know if I can do it again but I will try..... Test drive. Do you purchase a car without driving it first? It would suck to get married to someone...only to find out later that they are lousy in bed.

sthrnlady76 Joined Sun 02/22/09 Posts: 2	Sun 02/22/09 10:13 PM
If the feelings are flowing both ways then i say there is no st time to wait. Follow your heart...it wont lead you astray.

revolution Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 489	Mon 02/23/09 07:38 AM
Not until marriage for me. I'm abstaining until then. been there done that, dont know if I can do it again but I will try..... Test drive. Do you purchase a car without driving it first? It would suck to get married to someone...only to find out later that they are lousy in bed. hmmmm like I said Ive done it before and had no problems so that doesnt worry me at all...it might not be for every body but it has worked for me....

special_guy Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 6513	Mon 02/23/09 04:23 PM
I'll wait 30 minutes ... but that's it

Almondiiz69 Joined Mon 01/05/09 Posts: 219	Mon 02/23/09 04:33 PM
How long do you wait? Depends.....if he looks - I'll take him into the mens room and do him right then and there Now if he looks - Never But if I can deal with - then it would be 3 months

Mystique42 Joined Thu 04/12/07 Posts: 5045	Mon 02/23/09 06:11 PM
Been married w/0 intimacy or sex.... so I'm jumpin on the first normal and decent guy who comes my way. I said DECENT... put your clothes back on.

evilbabe277 Joined Thu 02/19/09 Posts: 2751	Mon 02/23/09 06:42 PM
I just go with the flow if I feel it I do it If I dont I run!!!

wooh Joined Fri 12/26/08 Posts: 5	Mon 03/02/09 06:43 PM
hold me im naked dont wait either dont hate me cos im naked i was born that way

Arcticrookie Joined Wed 02/25/09 Posts: 8	Mon 03/02/09 06:57 PM
chemistry should judge patience on this subject

santaclara76 Joined Sat 02/28/09 Posts: 1	Mon 03/02/09 08:06 PM
I tend to think...first date is for fun. Third date or longer...for the long term goal. Anyone agree? I think you are right and thanks for respecting your date(s)

newie2az Joined Wed 01/28/09 Posts: 186	Tue 03/03/09 07:40 AM
As the parent of a 15 year old daughter, I thank my lucky stars that she has developed the same attitude toward sex that I have. As she put it.... "Sex is not something you have to see if you could fall in love a person, it is the reward for the person you do fall in love with."