Tryiing to understand whether or not its better to be a nice guy. not
that I can turn around and be an ass but I have so much trouble getting
into a relationship yet I see so many women happily with a man that
treats them like garbage. Does that make sense to anyone.....cause it
sure dont make sense to me. I understand the whole bad-boy thing but in
my opinion that doesn't give any man the right to treat women with
disrespect....or am I just retarded and don't know what I'm talking
about.

I just left a man that treated me like **** and I am having a hard time
just trying to find a nice guy. I live on a resort island and it's
really hard not to find a drunk. I want to know where are all you good
guys hiding? I hate meeting guys at bars because they are only after one
thing, and I can't count on church because my church is a small church
w/ mostly older people. i am reconsidering finding another church but I
feel like there's something wrong w/ just switching churches to find a
date? I don't know, all I know is that I haven't given up yet and
neither should you. there are plenty of women out there that want and
need good guys in their lives, we just can't find you. The assholes make
themselves readily available and they are everywhere.

I think being a decent person w/integrity is always the way to be.
Nice guys are all around, just like nice ladies. But both are poss.
quieter & less noticed, maybe in a bar look for the people setting back
watching, not being loud & obnoxious. I know where I go, I like to
watch the wild people & see what will happen. Biggest thing, go slow,
ask questions, get to REALLY know people BEFORE you get emotions into
it. If ypour in need of getting laid, ADMIT that. Do NOT think sex; no
matter how good; means that person would be good in a relationship.

nice guys wow and you cant get a date hummmmmmmmm sounds right

I have been told so many times I am a nice guy and also been told so
many times nice guys come in last

and guess what same truble here when it comes to woman

thay all say how thay want to meet some man whos trets them nice

but when a nice man comes along thay strotype you out every last time

so woman dont want a nice man thay lie so what do woman want guess
a ass hole not sure yet??????

Hummm well I think you shoud be yourself and don't worry what others
think why would anyone want to treat someone in a way they dont like to
be treated in the first place. And not all women want an ass in the
first place myself I want one that is real with himself and others.

Aww SammysDaddy...If it makes you feel any better- us nice girls have a
lot of trouble too... guys seem to only want the skanks and people who
will put out right away...but unfortunately I have scruples...and a
brain!

Don't worry- that special someone will find you when you least expect
it...or at least that's what EVERYONE tells me.

sure wish you was right that the right one would come along but how
many years must one be all alone bye them salfs be for any one would
give a ****

seems to me every ones only in to looks and game playing any way
ok may be not every one but at list 95 percent are all about looks
geting sex are mony but looks and mont top on there list

Granted people are into looks and sex and all and maybe I didn't make
that clear but....that ain't what I'm really talking about. Sex doesn't
make a relationship...people do. I guess I just get frustrated cause I
believe you treat women a certain way and see less and less of it. Then
when you do treat a woman that way she says your too nice......too
nice....thats an oxymoron isn't it. I don't know....one day, prob the
day before I die, I'll get the answer. Smile

I'm a NICE GUY... but did it get me the woman of my dreams as of yet?

Did most of the majority of ladies that I've come across see the
niceness that I have in my character, personality and appearence????

... NOOOOOOOO

Because again. Me being a nice guy got me NOWHERE in up to this point in
my life.

Most ladies out there are not being honest with me nor upfront in what
they MEAN by a NICE GUY they seek.

It's mostly about LOOKS at first before anything continues or develops
into something more meaningful.

.... Maybe if most of the majority of people out there would stop
STEROTYPING other people out based on their LOOKS. We wouldn't be having
such posts like this whatsoever.

Most ladies out there KNOW AND WILLINGFULLY sterotype out a guy based on
whether he is NICE OR NOT because of his APPEARENCE, COVER OR LOOKS!
there's no if's and's or but's about that fact because it's TRUE.

So my point is and I am NOT trying to be mean here at all. Because I
LIVED IT ok??? and still am. But STOP sterotyping out a person because
of their looks and maybe you will find the GIRL OR GUY of your dreams if
you'd just notice the heart of the character more than their own looks.

Sheeesh.... NICE got me nowhere in the end for YEARS ok!!!

thats right sex is not what makes it work sex is only one part

but so many I thank go with sex is love and sex is not love

so any way woman will not tell the truth and guys wont ether but do
no if you are a nice guy like I am and some others I know are you
will be alone always

woman will strotype you out for no reson other thn thay can and lie
to cover it up sorry to say it but its truth both sexss like
running only after looks and woman and men strotype but woman
strotype a lot more then men do

and force lonlyness on to ones whom dune nothang to them

I CAN ONLY SAY WHAT I HAVE LEARNED. ALOT OF WOMEN THAT I HAVE MEET WANT
TO FEEL SECURE. WHEN THEY TALK, LISTEN. IN A CONVERSATION LOOK INTO
THERE EYES NOT THEIR BREASTS. ALWAYS SPEAK WITH UNDERSTANDING..PICK YOUR
BATTLES WISELY BUCAUSE IF YOU DON'T THEY WILL NEVER LET YOU FORGET IT.
ALWAYS ABOVE ALWAYS SHOW HER THAT YOU CARE..NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING
ON..I HAVE DONE THIS AND HAVE HAD(SORRY TO SAY)THE HAD BEING PAST.. SOME
GREAT RELATIONSHIPS THAT I WILL NEVER FORGET..YOU WILL ALSO FIND OUT BY
TRYING THESE THINGS THAT SHE WILL DO ALL OF THESE IN RETURN BECAUSE
WOMEN LIKE TO BE CARE GIVERS..BE YOURSELF AND TREAT WOMEN WITH RESPECT
AND HONESTY AND YOU WILL HAVE SUCCESS..

Your Not Retarded Buddy...this is somethen I have
struggled to understand.lol...if you Do find the
answer Please!!! Drop it In another Post



Jonathan

women want a nice guy but not a pushover either, we dont want someone
who always wants to do what we want and always asks us how we are
feeling. make a decision once in a while and once in a while take
charge,be a man not a wuss. and mainly its about chemistry, you can be
perfect to someone its about chemistry thats really all that matters.
just because you arent right for one woman doesnt mean you arent
perfect for someone else.

truth be told think I'm better off not knowing why. That would prob
frustrate me even more.

well I think women are confused about what they want I have seen so many
say they want a nice guy but then turn around and date a bad boy.

Deep down we do want a nice guy, but as it was said before..we don't
want a pushover. I personally want a man that's kind of a bad boy but
knows how to be a good person, if that makes any sense at all. LOL.. Men
are the same way though, they all say they want a good woman, but when
it comes down to it, most men will approach the slut that's in the
room..(and I can't really understand this) I mean, if she puts out right
away with you..don't you think she does with everyone else? LOL

OK bad boys are for the younger years!! The good guys are the ones you
take home to meet mom and dad! Trust me I am way beyond the bad boys, I
would much rather have a good man!!
As far as looks go~~it seems like everyone is talking about looks, looks
fade away people!! Whats in your heart can grow, when you meet the
person you are suppose to be with, that love just makes your heart even
better
Stop worrying about finding the perfect woman because when you least
expect it..BOOM it will happen!! The question is, are you looking for a
woman who perfect in everyones eyes OR are you looking for a woman that
is perfect in YOUR eyes??
Happy hunting

Some women don't know how to have a relationship with a nice guy
but some do...is all about what they are use to dealing with and
comfortable with, nice guy doesn't mean dum, just that he is not a
bastard and cares for a woman..and some of us really think that a men
care about us by hurting us,, and then say, he hurts me because he cares
and loves me, seen it happen so many times, and is so sad!!!

Thank you all for your advice, input, and experience. i don't believe
I'm a pushover....just think I respect women the way the should
be.....And to those of you that chase the barscene girls that put
out.....she's going out out for someone else too

I think everyone should respect each other! The bar scene is something
that I have never been into, but some people seem to like it. I think
its because they don't want a commitment at that time, but sooner or
later, they will decide that life is about something rather then just
having a good time!