Topic: Why does everyone think Im angry?
franshade's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:07 AM
I am all for strong, opinionated women who stand by what they say flowerforyou flowerforyou

At times it's not what is said but how it is said (better yet how it is interpreted).

The sad thing is that once something is said, it is open to interpretation and there are soooo many people on the defensive that naturally would take an opinion that doesnt match their own to be taken as aggressive or claim that the person is mad.

Does not reflect the person speaking but rather the person interpretating the statement.

Speak up ladies and be heard flowerforyou

hikerchick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:08 AM


some people here seem to have gotten the wrong idea about my post...I am not asking for advice on how to change, nor do I feel badly about who I am..on the contrary..I am merely suggesting that when a woman states her opinion she is often labeled as angry...

I find it distressing that anyone would suggest I try to "back down, choose my words more carefully, learn when not to speak....". While I expect it from men, its even more sad when it comes from women....

These are the things we tell our daughters everyday and effectively steal their voices from them before they ever get a chance to speak for themselves.....


Absolutely... I teach my daughter to question authority, even mine...drinker

The more you talk, the bigger my lady crush gets on you...love love


I agree with you. I think Symbelmyne rocks. And naturally, a certain type of insecure male is going to get his knickers in a twist when dealing with this type of female. But real men..they love women like us.

Lily0923's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:08 AM

No I am, because I actually say the truth and don't fluff my posts with bull **** like some people do...I say it how it is (I got banned from this site once for saying it how it is, that's why I created this name).


Trust me when I tell you, you are not a maverick... TRUST THAT.

hikerchick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:09 AM


Someone ALWAYS is a dominant in the relationship; sometimes you can dominate the same amount of different things in a relationship but the scale always tips one way or the other. A "strong" woman is looking for a somewhat submissive man otherwise it doesn't work...

Several breakup because of arguing. Arguing that stems from one person wanting to control the other...

You're right it isn't rocket science.


It goes to the Alpha experiments, Strong doesn't have to mean arguementitive.

I can't be with a weak man, cuz I'm not a weak woman, it's called give and take, and it takes a strong person to do that. It takes a weak person to do all the taking...

In 10 years maybe you'll understand interpersonal relationships a bit better?? I'm hoping so.
Maybe they don't teach that in media law class.

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Fri 05/30/08 09:09 AM
there isnt anything better in my book than a lady who speaks her mind, You ladies ROCK!!!!!!flowerforyou drinker

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Fri 05/30/08 09:09 AM
this goes out to my sisters, who understand and find themselves often stuck in the same muck and mire I get sucked into.....I appreciate your support and you have mine.....flowerforyou Sisterhood is powerful....

Maverick... that double penetration photo suites you.:wink:

TheMaverick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:10 AM
Compared to what my generation is now; yes I am, you are a little out of touch with my generation so I would say you really don't know what it is like to be a maverick. Plus you are judging it from your own standards...

My standards dictate that I am a maverick.

Lily0923's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:10 AM

I am all for strong, opinionated women who stand by what they say flowerforyou flowerforyou

At times it's not what is said but how it is said (better yet how it is interpreted).

The sad thing is that once something is said, it is open to interpretation and there are soooo many people on the defensive that naturally would take an opinion that doesnt match their own to be taken as aggressive or claim that the person is mad.

Does not reflect the person speaking but rather the person interpretating the statement.

Speak up ladies and be heard flowerforyou


Again Fran it's like we share a brain...

When people react it speaks more of their character than the peron they speak about...

hunky62's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:10 AM

there isnt anything better in my book than a lady who speaks her mind, You ladies ROCK!!!!!!flowerforyou drinker


Says the wimp...as he puckers up to kiss A$$...I think I'm gonna vomit...

TheMaverick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:12 AM


Someone ALWAYS is a dominant in the relationship; sometimes you can dominate the same amount of different things in a relationship but the scale always tips one way or the other. A "strong" woman is looking for a somewhat submissive man otherwise it doesn't work...

Several breakup because of arguing. Arguing that stems from one person wanting to control the other...

You're right it isn't rocket science.


It goes to the Alpha experiments, Strong doesn't have to mean arguementitive.

I can't be with a weak man, cuz I'm not a weak woman, it's called give and take, and it takes a strong person to do that. It takes a weak person to do all the taking...

In 10 years maybe you'll understand interpersonal relationships a bit better?? I'm hoping so.

Maybe in twelve years I will already understand interpersonal relationships enough not to be on a dating site at 34 years of age...

hunky62's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:12 AM


I am all for strong, opinionated women who stand by what they say flowerforyou flowerforyou

At times it's not what is said but how it is said (better yet how it is interpreted).

The sad thing is that once something is said, it is open to interpretation and there are soooo many people on the defensive that naturally would take an opinion that doesnt match their own to be taken as aggressive or claim that the person is mad.

Does not reflect the person speaking but rather the person interpretating the statement.

Speak up ladies and be heard flowerforyou


Again Fran it's like we share a brain...

When people react it speaks more of their character than the peron they speak about...


That explains it...between the two of you...one brain...

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Fri 05/30/08 09:12 AM


there isnt anything better in my book than a lady who speaks her mind, You ladies ROCK!!!!!!flowerforyou drinker


Says the wimp...as he puckers up to kiss A$$...I think I'm gonna vomit...
Nice name ya picked!!! I can think of a better one though ( have fun vomiting!!!)devil

Lily0923's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:13 AM

Compared to what my generation is now; yes I am, you are a little out of touch with my generation so I would say you really don't know what it is like to be a maverick. Plus you are judging it from your own standards...

My standards dictate that I am a maverick.


Yes dear, I'm out of touch with your generation... My friends age in range from 20-60... I'm so out of touch... My two best friends are a 22 year old male, and a 26 year old male... I'm so out of touch with your generation....

Like I said, get in touch with me in 10 years when you have some real life experience under your belt, I'll bet your tune changes...


hikerchick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:13 AM



Someone ALWAYS is a dominant in the relationship; sometimes you can dominate the same amount of different things in a relationship but the scale always tips one way or the other. A "strong" woman is looking for a somewhat submissive man otherwise it doesn't work...

Several breakup because of arguing. Arguing that stems from one person wanting to control the other...

You're right it isn't rocket science.


It goes to the Alpha experiments, Strong doesn't have to mean arguementitive.

I can't be with a weak man, cuz I'm not a weak woman, it's called give and take, and it takes a strong person to do that. It takes a weak person to do all the taking...

In 10 years maybe you'll understand interpersonal relationships a bit better?? I'm hoping so.

Maybe in twelve years I will already understand interpersonal relationships enough not to be on a dating site at 34 years of age...


It's so cool how you know everything about everything. I hope it's working out for you.

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Fri 05/30/08 09:14 AM


there isnt anything better in my book than a lady who speaks her mind, You ladies ROCK!!!!!!flowerforyou drinker


Says the wimp...as he puckers up to kiss A$$...I think I'm gonna vomit...


that was totally uncalled for...Im sure you'd be surprised at how much more likely a woman is going to date the gentelman you just disrespected than go for a narrow-mined mysogynist like you.

hikerchick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:14 AM


there isnt anything better in my book than a lady who speaks her mind, You ladies ROCK!!!!!!flowerforyou drinker


Says the wimp...as he puckers up to kiss A$$...I think I'm gonna vomit...


Some men actually like women, some don't. You have made it clear which type you are.

Lily0923's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:14 AM

Maybe in twelve years I will already understand interpersonal relationships enough not to be on a dating site at 34 years of age...


Cuz at 22 it's so hard to find a date, I used to trip over dates on the way out the door at that age...

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Fri 05/30/08 09:16 AM
I think these 2"men"(?) were born twins joined at the head and when seperated each got half a brain!!!!smokin

hikerchick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:16 AM



there isnt anything better in my book than a lady who speaks her mind, You ladies ROCK!!!!!!flowerforyou drinker


Says the wimp...as he puckers up to kiss A$$...I think I'm gonna vomit...


that was totally uncalled for...Im sure you'd be surprised at how much more likely a woman is going to date the gentelman you just disrespected than go for a narrow-mined mysogynist like you.
It's amazing how many of the so-called smart ones (in their own minds, at least) don't get that.

They are on a dating site openly advertising the fact that they don't like women! It cracks me up.laugh

TheMaverick's photo
Fri 05/30/08 09:17 AM
I didn't say I wasn't in a relationship now did I?

In a previous thread, I said I am just here because I am fascinated by online dating culture and forums...which I am...

I study this everyday...