Zippo.

I'll second that. LOL
Hi Missy!

I have the same problem when looking for the perfume.

If I like the perfume, I don't like the design of its bottle. If the package is perfect, perfume is usually quite the opposite.

So I ended up with a collection of perfumes that I never intend to use, but purchased them because of a fancy package design, few perfumes that I like and favorite one that comes in a bottle that is anything but fancy. It is not easy to find that one, but whenever I do I buy it.

If I had to pick and choose just one perfume to use I know exactly which one it would be.

I used to think so too and tell it to other people to encourage them not to give up and to keep looking.

However, after living alone for a while and carefully observing people around me I stopped saying that.

There are many middle aged people who live alone much longer than me. Most are divorced or separated and few never got married. Also, most of them have children, but some grew up, left home and live their lives, while others are still with parents.

They all have one thing in common. It's called habit. People are creatures of habits and it's hard to change them.

Once they got used to living alone, they began to enjoy some advantages of that life style. They would like to keep it, not to adjust to anyone, but, at the same time, they look for someone who will satisfy their needs and wants, whatever those may be.

So, they settle for convenient easy come - easy go type of relationships, not really looking for anything serious, but hoping it still might happen, just like a lottery winning.

Meanwhile they enjoy their pizza just the way they like it and share it with someone who gives them what they need or want till it works for them. When it stops working, they move on and find the next person.

Good things do come to those who wait, but not to those who aren't honest to themselves and others about what they really want or those who are not ready to accept them once they come.

Perhaps I am wrong, because not every one of us defines "good things" the same way. If I am wrong, that means they already found good things they were looking for. So, there is no need to encourage them and wish them luck. They are already where they want to be.

Why is it so hard to find the one you are looking for?
Because many people play games. Some even do not know what they want, so they don't actually lie, but honestly believe what they are saying. First they lie to themselves, than they lie to others.
Some know what they want, but are aware they won't get it if they say it. Games, games, games ... that's what makes it so hard.

I agree. If it is leading nowhere, better forget it and move on. No need to waste anyone's time, because time is not money. Time is life and we can make the most of it with the right person.

Comedy

Cold

Clever

Cunning

Cheater

Cover

Celestine

Church

Concept

Conveyed

Confrontation

Counterpart

Clearness

Clarity

Calmness

Ceased

Communication

Comic

Closure

C U

If I find out I'll let you know. LOL

Welcome to Mingle!I wish you to that special someone.
The best of luck!

I am looking at the last post on one topic and thinking how getting used to being alone is not that hard as I might have taught. Being single and alone is not the worst thing that can happen. I wonder how lonely must it feel living next to the better half to make someone look for another woman by using a deception, knowing that it is not something she would be willing to accept. It's suddenly much easier to live without a virtual hug, compared to a real hug without true emotions.

Thanks for your replies.

I started a thread where pet owners can help each other with any information or an advice they might want to share, not because I needed an advice, but because I know some people who do and have no idea how else to help them.

Are there any Canadians on Mingle who have experience and advices on travelling overseas with their pet(s)?
What paperwork should be taken care of in advance?
How to prepare a cat(s) or dog(s) for travelling?
Any experience with pet friendly hotels?
Would you rather leave your pet here? If so, how would you manage pet sitting?
Other pet owners are also welcomed to discuss their experiences and share helpful advices here. :- )

Sounds interesting. Thanks for recommendation.

allergic to B.S.

You neither evoked imagination, nor left anything to it. Anyone capable of using basic logic can read what you wrote and come to the same conclusions majority here already came to.

OP wrote: "I'm a sort of an overdue male of 51 year. I've been through three +4 year long relationships and one marriage of seven years. Not a great deal of points in the "€œgame" of life, huh? But anyway, now I want to know something from you females.

During the years before getting married, there were no questions asked if there were any papers confirming end of relationship. Now when wife and I separated 2010, I've been meeting women who had interest in me until question of marriage and divorce papers to prove the end of relationship occurred.”

The current year is 2014. If seven years long marriage ended by separation, not divorce, in 2010, when did those three 4+ years long relationships happen? One four years long relationship (let's not address that "+" in a "4+ years long relationships" now) might have happened between 2010 and 2014, while he was separated, not divorced.

What about the remaining two 4+ years long relationships? WHEN did they happen? Before or after 2007?

And why did OP ask:" What is it with the idea of a person that has a paper that says he is married is not trusted when saying relationship is over, when at the same time, there are so many married couples that go over the domestic borders all the time. No matter he, she or it;o)"?

After reading our replies he concluded:" Me as a male, I would not claim any proof of finished paper work before entering relationship. (Observe not marriage! I'm not that stupid to enter bigami as some believe;o)"

I am sure he knows how entering any relationship while still married (not divorced, meaning over with that relationship) is called. If he doesn't know what it's called or doesn't like when he is told it is called cheating, that's his problem.

He is not the only one who didn't get justification and encouragement to go ahead with it from other people on online dating sites.

If he still doesn't give up looking for justification and doesn't restrain himself from insulting those who denied it to him, that can't be excused by English as a second language. It has nothing to do with command in any language, but all to do with arrogance and lack of manners.

Some people have neither empathy, nor conscience. However, they can be very good at pretending they have both.

All things have a begging and the end. One who starts the battle isn't necessarily the one who will finish it. That too shall end one way or the other...

You don't know when it is time to draw the line, do you?