You paid them basically $6.67/hr.
That's not a living wage.
You are perpetuating the child-adult age wage gap and keeping them in poverty.

Did you at least contact all other snow removal companies in the area in order to determine an industry average?
As well as your lawyer to determine whether or not you were in violation of FLSA by hiring children?

Not to mention, you never really said they actually shoveled your driveway and car. You could have asked them to do all sorts of weird and twisted things for an hour. You've shown you're already the type that will employ underage children to adversely affect a naturally occurring environment, possibly using metal and plastic tools that dirty snow which melts and becomes groundwater.

I think we're going to need the transcripts of all conversations you had with those children and please send your neighbors who might have overheard your conversation or possibly witnessed child labor to testify, otherwise you will be obstructing justice.

You will be impeached!



Only matters if the kids think you paid them enough.

If not, expect the possibility of some broken frozen eggs on your door.

What about them? I wouldn't want either one as a neighbor?
Are those the only choices available?


Making some assumptions here since the OP isn't all that clear...but do you think Trump or Obama were elected to (rule?) the world?

Well, a quick google search comes up with:
"The legal code of the United States does not specify an official national calendar. Use of the Gregorian calendar in the United States stems from an Act of Parliament of the United Kingdom in 1751, which specified use of the Gregorian calendar in England and its colonies."

So, based on the OP wording...UK parliament?


I do. And everyone near me should tremble in fear as the Ofsola of Fitsor Nyuk Nyuk is almost upon us. Yet don't despair too long, but revel that the Zlarganth soon follows! Buttons!

I don't see profiles like picking characters for a video game.

Where if they put "hangout" they've chosen to play as a dwarf so are completely incapable of playing an elf character.

Profiles don't really matter.

Getting offline, going out, meeting up, hanging out, spending time face to face matters. Until then it's just relatively meaningless. Profiles don't define people. They aren't legal contracts forcing behavior or beliefs.

it doesn't mean anything because you're an adult.
You know what's going on, what things do, how to prevent pregnancy and STD's, have access to porn, and most likely masturbate or have done so at some point.

IMO with the knowledge of sex available today, saying you're a virgin, or people that espouse virginity as being virtuous, is tantamount to saying, at best, "I've always kept up walls with people and made sure others conformed to my boundaries and beliefs," and at worst saying "I've never really tried having an adult relationship," or, "I might be hiding something from myself like asexuality or schizoid/autistic scale mental/emotional problems."


Great.
You get married, you have sex, now you are no longer a virgin.
What then?
What meaning did it have? Is it something that helps establish and/or strengthen the bond/relationship? What about all past relationships you've had?
Could that have changed things? Isn't it possible that having sex with them as part of the relationship could have the same effect?

IMO there is a huge "danger" here in "waiting for marriage."

Once you realize it was an arbitrary decision that doesn't grant anything whatsoever to anything and the only value it has is in your own head which you ultimately have to force on others to agree with you, how are you going to react?

IMO it's like saying "I'm a teetotaler. I am going to wait until I commit to a single brand/type of whiskey before having a drink."

My curiosity is more of why you value or continue to choose this belief has value, what you hope to get out of it, what you think it will actually contribute to your relationship/marriage.

I think all the findings are in the OP.
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...Good job. Here's a participation trophy:

To what?
To them? The "marriage?" Children?
Which responsibility outweighs the other and/or when?
Is that all marriage means? Responsibility? Not love, trust, acceptance, communication, pair bonding, purpose, goals, security, unity, or anything else?
Or are all things secondary?
Do some cancel each other out? Such as responsibility and loyalty?

Why do you think responsibility is the meaning of marriage?


I use the dictionary.
Otherwise, it's subjective to the people in the marriage.

Assuming you aren't living a normal fun life, then what you do is push yourself to go out and experience and learn new things.

Figure out which of those are fun, then normalize them via repetition.
Possibly realizing that pushing yourself, and/or pushing yourself to go out and experience and learn new things is fun.

If what you're doing isn't normal and fun, trying, pushing yourself, and/or the things you experience/learn don't lead to anything fun worth normalizing, might try seeking professional help of some kind.
Psychologist, psychiatrist, doctor, dealer, hooker, life coach trainer, librarian.
All sorts of professionals out there.

Uh-oh.

....What happens if that profile just happened to be where the internet became self aware? They just "woke up" and were all "wtf is going on? What am I? Where am I?"
And due to a lack of understanding or experience it reached out to the nearest (in internet terms) self aware entity and was asking "what am I? Male? Female?" For some simple answers and contact that it wasn't alone.
But being recently born into awareness its communication skills are lacking.

Now it's going to self identify, and feel bad that the only other entity blocked them, shut the door, snubbed and ignored them in their time of agony and growth.

You might have doomed us all!

Because people are raised (socialized, indoctrinated) and gain experience which creates, evolves, strengthens, biases they use to deconstruct, categorize, compartmentalize, and label what they identify leads to fulfilling what is desired, its relative cost, and how to shift the ratio (benefit to cost), especially through rationalizing.


Don't understand why.
There are a lot of studies, textbooks, reference and self help books, not to mention innumerable dating and general website forums asking/answering the question.


You want to re-enact the "great taste! Less filling!" or "you got your peanut butter on my chocolate! You got your chocolate in my peanut butter!" commercials?

Commonly spouted on internet forums is something like "Insanity: Doing the same thing repeatedly expecting different results." Of course there's also the saying "if at first you don't succeed, try, try, again." And then you can go down the rabbit hole of "Do, or do not. There is no try."


I/we live in a society.


How do you know?
Do you know of a test you can give to other people that proves they are "really" in love, and the results can't be faked in any way, that you can take with you and feel comfortable making everyone you encounter take it?


Neither? Both? People aren't 2 static variables in either/or situations?

No.


Why would anyone trust/have faith in government?
That's not its purpose or role.

Not having trust/faith in government doesn't mean there's something necessarily "wrong" with (the) government.

To me this is like asking "Do you trust/have faith your monthly credit card statement is accurate so you never check it? If not, why?"

Yes.
I see them walking up and down the street all the time.
Sometimes they come up to my car and ask if I want company, when I say no thanks they ask for money, and when I say I don't carry cash I only use cards they say they're fine with just 20 bucks and there's an ATM at the gas station up the road,and as I look at them incredulously and say no, they then yell that they're not on drugs, they got 3 kids and not like the other girls, then call me very bad things when the light changes and I can drive away.

There is no such thing as a "good" relationship.
There is only a relationship.
A relationship is simply/only defined by how two (or more) people interact with each other.

Whether that interaction is "good" or "bad" constantly changes but is ultimately in the control of the two people.

So "what are the things that destroys 'good' interaction between two (or more) people?"

That should be pretty obvious.

Lots of reasons.
Such as:
1. They lied.

2. They cared to a certain degree, but then figured out a much greater degree of caring was required, and that was more than they were willing to care.

3. There may be expectations associated or engendered by stating they care, but they're not willing to assume or live up to or accept those expectations, they're only willing to care and behave like they care according to how they wish to express it.

4. Could be simple miscommunication. They say they care, and do, but how you or the other person understands "caring" and its expression is different. The person that said they care may not realize they're acting like they don't care.

5. Maybe they don't "really" or "truly" understand what "care" means. They think they do, so they say it, but they have no idea how to back up what they said.

6. They cared at the time they said it, things changed, they stopped caring.

I wouldn't name a rat or cockroach after an ex and have a zoo feed it to an animal.

What I might pay admission to is if the zoo made little movies where they build elaborate sets for the animals.

Like make a mini post apocalypse new york city where they send in a snake wearing an eye patch, calling it snake pliskin, and the rat is dressed like a gang member, and they make pchew pchew noises while the snake chases the rat, and there's voice overs for rat/snake interaction.

I'd participate in that.

But surrogate sacrificing animals pretending they're my ex, naw.

Death. Life. Change. Identity. Communication.

Any feeling can be a "gud tig."
Feelings can engender positive changes. Positive or negative feelings.


Beats me.
I don't know her.
I have no idea if you're talking about your wife of 20 years, or some woman you're thinking about sending an email to ask her to meet you.

Maybe ask her?

Can be both and/or neither.
Too vague/simplistic of a question.

For the girl of my dreams...to do what?
Be in a relationship with me?
Be made into an actual real person rather than existing only in my dreams, but she's a citizen of another country and I have to travel the world and try to find and woo her turning my adventures into bestselling novels and a movie?


Other than that, to assume the inherent bias in the question then I'd answer "I would give up masturbation. I will no longer masturbate. Because the woman of my dreams will be able to appear wherever I'm at as soon as I close my eyes and think about her and she'll fulfill whatever fantasy I have."

Any?
None?
Depends on how you're defining "lifestyle?"
This question isn't going to answer anything, especially from people you don't have a direct face to face/interactive relationship with already.

It can be a complex question. I might not give up certain beliefs that define my "lifestyle" whereas I can adapt my expression or behavior of those beliefs with no issue whatsoever.
From a third person perspective, they could easily say "Oh! You gave up your values/beliefs/whatever!" because I stop/start doing something, when really, not much has changed at all.



Or are you asking from like a Faustian perspective? "What lifestyle things are you willing to sacrifice in payment for your ideal relationship fantasy to be fulfilled?"
Then..hmmm...half my income. But I want the contract written in blood, notarized, recognized and enforceable by U.S. law.