Hummm, good question. It seems to me this is a place to just have fun
and connect with an on line community. I gave up on finding a date or
ltr on here several weeks after joining. Seemed like that is not the
focus of most folks on here. I do believe distance plays a big part, to
up root your life, new job, new community to build. I know I’m not
moving for another 5 years due to my kids. So until then, that challenge
exists.
One good thing is that if we all figured it out, there wouldn’t be this
community to spend evenings with.
Anyone have dates lined up for the weekend? Three evenings and my
calendar is open.

coconut yummmmm = tropical foods

red bud = roses

Use to have a reoccurring dream about flying in a valley. There was a
train track and a big long tunnel. It took me probably 2 years with that
dream to actually make it through the tunnel. I could go down to the
river through the trees and over the tunnel bit not through it. Couldn’t
turn 360 deg either. Anyway, when I finally was able to make it through
the tunnel the dream stopped. Dang I miss that dream, it was fun. I
liked skimming the water and looking at the fish then banking around the
hillside. Sometimes my physical body would move in bed as I did a
banking turn.

A neat thing to do is track your dreams and see how they relate to your
physical world, or your human experience. Edgar Cayce “the sleeping
phrofet” has some great readings about this. A cool little book to check
out is Wake up to Your Dreams” by Sandra Collier. It’s not focused on
lucid dreams or lucid dreaming, but interpretation of any dream.

So your discounting things like cleaning her nails with a switch blade
and spinning the revolver as she glares at little kids we drive by. So
that takes care of the “scare away “ thing.

Then for me, it comes to the basic question of what are my boundaries
around keeping me healthy and keeping the relationship healthy.
Integrity is a must, clingyness is out, she needs to be able to stand as
a confident individual. Inability to talk about intimate matters (ya, ya
it’s a guy saying this). Of course she needs to be clean and sober. And
be clean of X longings, as in excessive talking about or still attached
to. Also, I need to know that she is someone I can trust around my kids.

Talking out what is not working as well as what is working is just part
of a relationship for me. I’m still friends with most every gal that
I’ve dated. It’s all in how we end the relationship. More to the truth
is how we transform the relationship. Most times, time and space is
needed for that, with a good dose of honesty, respect and caring.
Just my view.

Sluggo’s going to give up his cell phone!?!!?
Oh, man now he’s going to go through major withdrawals, identity crises.

Welcome Kay,

There is also a guy with a cell phone fetish who now has a bee fetish.
And this dog that keeps attacking me….. gotta go, I’m hiding from the
dog and I hear the bees coming.

Now throw Mr phone up there with a irritating ring and in vibrate mode
then keep calling your buddy to how it’s going.

Welcome Lady,
It is a good place to be with some good folks.

I want to know is this thread real or is my computer lying to me??!

oh, bees wax I see three separate Q’s there……me anal? no not … well a
bit. Here’s answer one.

There’s this “golden rule” - to treat others as You would like to be
treated. I find that a bit misguided cause it doesn’t take into account
things like cultural differences. If I treat someone like I want to be
treated, that could be totally offensive to them. I reword that a bit by
treating others how they want to be treated.

hey sluggo, I see there are some good deals on bee suits in case you
just want to become a bee farmer.

Using my initals, it fits quite well;

M: makes dating fun
E: a GOD DAMN GOOD KISSER
B: people person

Ya, you could hang duct tape all over the place like fly strips and put
small pieces of spam on them.

Any bee problem I have I just send my son after em. He’s been catchen
and de-stingering the little critters since he was 2. Oh ya, been stung
many times and he’ll run in and show everybody, like a trophy.
I had ants move into the attic once. No stingers on them so the son
wasn’t interested. I got a couple of those cans of fumigation stuff and
put up there. Took care of them just fine.

moving up = mountain climbing

Oh the list I could create;

My two wonderful kids, friends, my house, my garden, nature, feeling
spirit within me, knowing and experiencing I do co-create my life, my
body, this human experience (most of the time), massages, a warm sensual
kiss, spooning, standing in integrity & more, I’ll just have to pause to
think of it all.

our secrets = public knowledge

Awh, your breaking my heart marie. I certainly feel for you.
The dog in my pic’s is not the one I have now. Well, it was a big drama
story and she is no longer with us. “boy, I really miss her.” Ohhhh, I
certainly do too. Been almost a year now, still a little painful.

doing good Marie, looks like there are just a couple of us left. I get
to sleep in in the morning yaaaaaaa