This instinct thing is interesting, first being a guy, I know there
could be two heads talking and both of those need to be set aside for
later.
Guess I’m feeling cautious. Now is that just my conservative logic or is
there some unhealthy vibes being picked up?
She made it clear she wasn’t pleased and she was hurt with several
aspects of what happened and what is going on. However, at the same time
the conversation did move on to dancing and she joined me in the next
lesson.

Our class is over but the dance community is quite small and we will all
see each other on a regular basis.

Boom - actually I’m hyper sensitive to that one and don’t think he has
it in him to think or do cross with me. I may be conservative in some of
my relationship thinking but he’s just plain conservative.

soft = & cuddly

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Hi nurse J - what are you agreeing to?

I do remember that!
Funny occurance now isn't it, taking into consideration what you told me
last night.

94 T-Bird - almost have 1/4 million miles on it. At that milestone I'll
retired it. I've totaled it, had it rebuilt and it still keeps cruzing.

Also have a full sized 99 Chev PU for camping.

It’s no fun being chewed up by life.
I choose to make choices that support my well being – When I’m dead then
I can see how it all turns out. Until then I’m moving ahead with
moderation enough to stay out of the overwhelm mode.

An iteresting situation occurred tonight and was wondering what folks
thought about this.

Several months ago I was taking a 4 week dance class and in the class
was a couple. They were both nice and since then I see them regularly at
the dance hall. The way these classes work is that you don’t need a
partner and everybody rotates so that as a leader, I dance with every
follower several times through out the class. When I got to know this
gal there was a nice connection, but she was with him and I obviously
let I go.

Tonight I go to the dance hall and the normal routine of two sessions of
classes before open dance is in process. I show up for the second
session a few minutes early. I wonder to the room where the first class
is being held and as I enter the room this gal spots me, runs over all
excited and drags me into the class – she needed a partner at that point
in time. The class ended and the instructor (who I know fairly well)
comes over and we all start chatting. Immediately the conversation
focuses on this gal and her bf not being together anymore. Shoot I
thought they were married, but no, just bf/gf for 11 months. Guess they
broke up several weeks ago.

She tells me he’s in the other dance room of this hall and he brought
someone else. She is obviously bitter about the situation and not liking
the fact that he is with someone. Well, unfortunate or not, that is how
communities work and in smaller communities it tends to be in your face
a bit more.
Anyway, it’s obvious she is interested in me and in fact we had the
first two dances tonight together. Also a buddy of mine there had
mentioned she is interested in me – dunno how he knows, but talk goes
around.

Now I’m looking at this situation and saying, hey nice gal, good
connection, BuT hold it. In my way of being, I put time between
relationships. I make sure I’m clean so that one relationship stuff
doesn’t get carried into the next. I’ll admit that I probable make that
gap larger than most.
And that’s where the hang up comes in. Am I getting in my own way? Is
she in reactive mode and will I become just a rebound effect or can she
be ready to move on? If I spent time with her, most likely I would be
able to figure it out by how she acts and what she talks about. However,
if I ask her out the relationship Will be a go. If I don’t, chances are
I’ll just sit and watch a relationship go on by.

Any imput? Thanks in advance for reading through it all..

Camp

forehead growing, looks to be getting closer & closer to the color of my
arm.

Church is an interesting word, to me it implies basic religious dogma. I
do think it’s important to have beliefs and a daily practice of some
kind. Folks can find “church” by sitting quite in nature or meditating
or floating down a river.

For me the question is, “Who has a regular spiritual practice?” But, to
answer the question more directly, I do. I’ll be going to the spiritual
center today, like I do every Sunday and sometimes during the week. I
just really like gaining the learning’s of a community that accepts all
religions and peoples.

4:40 am, Sunday

just looking for that insomina thread......
dreaming of ZZZzzzZZZzzzZZZzzz

Lazy I fully agree, maybe not with the threatening approach, but
certainly with the basic statement you’re making. Another hot button for
me right along these lines is a parent that uses their children as
leverage in a divorce situation, and puts the children in the middle of
parent/ adult stuff.

Something else to consider on this one. A parent needs to be complete
and stable in themselves to be able to demonstrate to the children
things like self confidence, internal strength, setting boundaries &
such. If the patent gives absolutely everything and never replenishes
themselves, they slowly degrade themselves as a responsible and
effective parent. Kids learn more from experiencing what you demonstrate
than anything you will ever say.

Now that was nice. Some real tallent there.

Have you seen the ones they do in China (?) out of ice? Some of them are
a block long. Can't find the site right noe, keep looking..

helicopter = man bird

tart

Snicker = doodles

spar

I come at it from the standpoint of a trained mind works better than an
untrained mind.
Our current state of knowing stands on the gains already made. Take this
thing we are communication on for example. All the intuition and
original thought one person could have would not build what we are using
here in one life time. Very few of us on here know how to design a PC,
design the internet, wire up our house and build the IC that run it all.
Yet we use it to enhance our lives.

It’s the same for psychology, philosophy and relationship matters. That
published information can be used to better our lives. Of course the
basic premise here is the we actually Use the info, not let it become
our sole guidance system.