Please, define decent. Does it mean a lot of money? Over sexed?
Cannot drive a yellow Yugo? Cannot know anyone who has driven a yellow Yugo?

Ladies, please share the secret formula, because I am looking. I live in Jersey, I'm a Jersey Guy, I'm not perfect, I am far from it, but I think that comes from living life.

What am I missing? I think everyone is decent until they prove themselves otherwise. I don't think I am being Naive. What is the difference between a Jersey Guy and a Guy from Rhode Island, Long Island, or Biloxi, MS. Answer is nothing until you begin to relate, then that old baggage kicks in and the effect of crushed fantasies take hold.

ok ok I give up!

My idea of a decent guy is someone who's honest, dependable and an all round stand up guy. A sense of humor and easy going nature is a must. All these things are hard to come by and then just to make it that much harder there has to be chemistry and I can't explain that it's either there or it's not. Needless to say I'm not having an easy time either! Good luck!

ok Trust Me I have a better bottle of wine at my place It's only an overnighter what do you think could happen?

A Great Guy is a guy that is honest and good hearted and treats a woman like a lady and doesn't insult, beat, cheat, or neglect the relationship... has nothing to do with money, looks or what kind of car he drives...

its the o'BA Lind side ... sneeking out the door ..

Apparently there's nothing wrong with you. There is hope for you yet.

Correct me if I am wrong. Shouldn't that work both ways? If it doesn't then you're saying there are all of these New Jersey girls hiding out there from Men. I notice that there isn't a lot of Jersey guys either. Does that mean...?

There have been a lot of women wronged by men obviously ( I know that there are men out there too that have similar issues with women) but as i see it a guy doesn't like a woman unless she treats him like crap... and I am tired of being the one that loses out every time my guy meets a girl that has a better body or is a bigger biatch then me. So I am someone that believes if I treat you well I want the same... if you want a biatch go with the biatch and leave me at peace... dont play games and dont use... that is just wrong....

Well, that is the first time I heard that. I wouldn't let any woman treat me like crap. Of course, maybe that is why I am still looking. The way I look at it is simple, if you have a problem we can discuss it, but no you are not buying my wardrobe, choosing my haircut, deciding which of my friends are cool and which I can't see, and no I am not becoming a vegetatian because you think cows are cute.

On the other hand, I won't tell you how to dress. Your hair is your business and if it is brunette one day and lime green the next because Oprah said it should be then you might want to think before telling anybody what to do. If you want some space away for two weeks so you can think and refresh, don't come back, let him pay for you.

There, you see both sides might have valid points, but one side is no better than the other. Men are alsways looking for a good piece, and so are women, but women want you to feel guilty about it so they don't have to. The answer is very very simple, you get what you give and you reap what you sow. Mutual respect in all things is what makes a relationship. If you can't give respect or demand respect you need a therapist not a relationship.

By the way I hope we are still friends because I am sure you are a really nice person and so am I.

Well I respect your opinion and you are right no one should tell you how to dress or how to cut your hair... but what about if your woman was to go to a dinner with your family and friends wearing hoochiewear (i.e. a belt that shows the world her world if your know what I mean) I mean wouldn't you have an opinion about that ... I know that If I were a man that I would... Like you said Mutual Respect is a nessecity.. oh and by the way we are friends I love exchanging opinions with all my friends.. even if they do no agree with me... that would be too boring dont you think...

You are right about hoochiewear, I guess the same applies to guinea tees and tight jeans and "mullets" UGH!

Anyway, I was brought up to be an individual and to respect that others are as well. I know that sounds lofty but it isn't, because I was also taught that you have an obligation to contibute to the common good, to ensure your time here isn't wasted.

I seen a lot of bad things and a few good things. But I believe the good outweighs the bad. Sometimes something that looks bad just needs some serious dusting to bring out the hidden good.

Socrates! You Rock!

The problem is allot of people here have been hurt before and are leery of someone who comes off as nice and decent they don't believe it's true and he must be a bull sh***ing player.
If you are a nice decent guy some people mistake your good nature for weakness and try to take advantage and test you by pushing you and your buttons to see how you really are.Personally I am tired of the games people play.People come on here say they want a relationship and maybe take a message out of context and ignore the person.It's just like making a 1st impression. What if you meet someone who is having a really bad day and it effects your impression of them our society is so closed minded that they don't give people a second chance they go by that 1st meeting>such a shame that people can't get beyond the the facade our society puts up.

A great guy defined: "one who is at the beck and whim of a woman's mood-most especially one who will be willing to come running when she snaps her fingers!"

A decent man has nothing to do with the state he lives in, how much money he has, what he does for a living- what kind of car he drives or what his friends drive- none of that

Ive dated plenty of Jersey men- the good and the absolutely horrible-

Its about character- who is he is, how he was raised. Its about how he treats the woman he is with. Its about mutual like and respect. You treat someone the way you want to be treated. Its open communication, its trust. Sure some women like the Bad Boy- but I believe that the majority of women out there are looking for a nice, polite, considerate, loving man who is going to love them forever. Most women tend to look for a man who is like her father. I am

Yeah. I know a few like that.

Yeah. Know a few like that.