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Sat 03/09/24 11:39 AM
Even though I'm feeling a bit under the weather I've painted a bit.
I corrected the hairline, worked on the background (that needs another layer here and there) and started with the dragon.
The latter is a bit of trial and error to see what works and what doesn't, and how to get the effect I'm after.

What remains for the girl is some fine detail and the tiara. Although I'm not sure anymore whether I want that or not.
I might get rid of it altogether, not sure.


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Fri 03/08/24 02:50 AM
Happy International Women's Day!

Wishing that one day very soon we are truly equal so we won't need a special day to remind ourselves of this!


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Thu 03/07/24 10:05 AM
I've been working on my new painting for a number of sessions now and feel like sharing how far I've gotten :)
It is obviously not done yet.
I'm beginning to get real excited about it! The hardest parts are yet to come, hihi. Seriously going to challenge myself tongue2
And I'm seriously not certain I can pull it off. Fingers crossed!


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Thu 02/29/24 01:57 AM
Thank you, Julie!

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Wed 02/28/24 09:42 AM
I finished it this afternoon :)
I'm really happy with it, I love how the snow turned out, and I love the intense colours.


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Wed 02/28/24 02:46 AM

Tiny homes are becoming popular in my area ... 500sq feet of space ... very compact , but good enough for one person and an occasional guest ... Problem is it's expensive to build a community of Tiny homes ....and so far there is no Group of developers doing the needful ... So seasonal trailer parks are putting aside large lots , for people to put a Tiny home on ....and charging ridiculous amounts. as yearly maintenance fees ...and it still will be designated as a Mobile home ...

Many of the tiny houses I've seen are even smaller than a mobile home.
Mobile homes, or permanent caravans as they're called over here, tend to have 2 bedrooms and reasonable living space, some even have a larger bathroom.
The tiny homes don't have any of that.
I'd go nuts in one of 'em. I don't need a huge house, but a tiny home is too extreme.

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Wed 02/28/24 02:41 AM

Crystal is needy and controlling at the same time. Slim gym and Crystal should be together.

What a peculiar thing to say. Certainly odd coming from a recluse and socially very awkward woman. I don't think you're in the right place to make any sound judgements, nor is it your place.
You don't even know me.

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Mon 02/26/24 04:18 PM
Thinking...it's been a great day, now time to sleep!

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Mon 02/26/24 03:49 PM
There are also a lot of benefits to moving in together which I don't think anyone has mentioned...

The joy of seeing each other every day, cooking & dining together, sleeping & waking together, having someone to talk to, to laugh with, to watch movies with, do fun stuff together, the intimacy of course. Not just sex but also daily hugs and cuddles and kisses, fleeting touches maybe.
Someone there to talk to if something is up, to help you out with XYZ...

You're really together in every sense of the word. You can furnish the one place together with things you both love and enjoy.
In that sense it offers so much more emotionally & psychologically etc.

When LAT-ing you miss out on all that good stuff, you only have it occasionally...

And then there are the financial benefits: only 1 rent/mortgage instead of 2 meaning you save a helluva lot of money each month that you can then spend on the great things in life.
Insurances for only one house too... maybe it's possible to only have one car...

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Mon 02/26/24 03:41 PM
I too watched The Beekeeper the other day. I liked it a lot!
No nonsense action, no woolly storylines, great!

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Mon 02/26/24 03:40 PM
2nd season of Halo is out, and that of Fire Country as well.

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Mon 02/26/24 03:39 PM
Thank you so much! :D

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Mon 02/26/24 11:53 AM
Thanks, Julie!!

More work done today :)
That bay window is a real git to do. Had to Gesso over it 3 times already, hihi.
Hope next time I work on it I get it right!

What's left to do is that window, the trees, and some finishing touches around the lake.


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Sun 02/25/24 04:17 PM

@crystal !!!
Perhaps you were that exception .... come to think of it ... pretty sure you were !!!
My point was we all lose something in the break up of our relationships , so why the risk of doing that again !!
Hence , the living together apart relationship, could be considered the ideal kinda one for people with that mindset . It has nothing to do with man versus woman .....

In a way, yes, but then you got two damaged people in a relationship which thus can never be whole. It could be enough if both aren't willing to work on healing etc.
I mentioned all that in my post on pg 1, and the thing is that if you want a truly healthy fulfilling relationship you have to be willing to risk getting hurt again.
If you don't you keep most of your heart closed, protected and shielded.
That does keep you from getting hurt up to a point (not entirely!) but... it also keeps you from being able to feel love and to receive love.

Love is simply a thing that requires an open heart and with that the willingness to risk get hurt.
It's the only way to experience love.
Everything is just a shallow thing, not a full on love relationship.

That's not to say LAT relationships can't be that. But then it'd be between 2 healthy people with open hearts that for another reason wish to not move in together.
And financial reasons are also based on fear of losing & lack, so these don't count in that sense.

An okay reason could be that one for instance needed a house with garden in a village or small town to feel fulfilled and at piece, the other hates that, wants to live in an apartment in a city.
That's totally not related to any fear of lack, losing, etc. that would have the heart mostly closed.

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Sun 02/25/24 03:10 PM

IMO It appears this kinda relationship will work out quite well, if both parties have been seriously hurt , in all ways , including abuse , multiple times . so the experience is there and it's real ...
So why take the risk of going thru all that again !!
From a man's point of view ... why would he want to lose half his stuff again ... Women also have their own point of view , but There , I am clueless !
The point being , if you are happy living this way ... just enjoy and do it !!!!

Men have such blinders on when it comes to such matters.
How does a woman not lose half her stuff, but the man does?
I have never lived with a man who had proper stuff. I was the one who basically owned everything that was decent & good, from furniture to towels, pans, curtains etc. etc.
Yes, when I moved out his house was bare, but that was because he didn't have Jack chit when I move in but threadbare towels, settee that his dog dug a huge hole in etc.
I just took what was mine. All things that I myself bought after my divorce with my own money so this 2nd partner had no right whatsoever to any of it.
I took nothing that was his, wouldn't have wanted it either.

With my husband -which is longer ago- we divided things when we split up. So I lost half just the same.

Men always think they're the ones that get done over, but it's the same for the woman.
Men usually also think they're the only ones that got hurt. Women got hurt just the same, sometimes worse.
So typical men feel the need to make out that they're worse off and women gain by breaking up.

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Sun 02/25/24 01:54 PM
More work done tonight :)
You can now tell where's it's going.


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Sun 02/25/24 02:30 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž on Sun 02/25/24 02:31 AM
It's not for me, wouldn't make me happy.
I want the whole enchilada to be and feel fulfilled.

I think for Lat relationship to work both would have to love each other as much to begin with so both have an equal desire to spend time together.

I also think many choose for this form because deep down they're afraid to open up fully as they've been hurt before.
It can be -and I suspect often is- a form of relationship to keep the other at arm's length and to maintain a built-in safety in case it goes wrong.
But having that sense of 'in case it goes wrong (again)' is not a healthy premise in a relationship.


Since some ask abut this... I have once read of a married couple who had a LAT relationship.
There's no reason you cannot choose this form and get married as well.

But it wouldn't work for me.

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Sat 02/24/24 02:20 PM
Thank you so much! :D

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 02/24/24 09:41 AM
I've been painting again today :)
I believe the 3rd session for this one.
It's not done of course, but wanted to share what I have so far :)

Emerald Sky, Emerald Lake


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Wed 02/21/24 02:24 AM
Get a better profile photo...

Get a decent write up.

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