ElaineSeekingJerry


ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Wed 07/16/08 11:13 AM Topic: is this better?
Light and easy breezy - you sound young and fun ... however, the comment about 'coaches being gay' may not be particularly amusing to some readers - ya may wanna can that line.

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Wed 07/16/08 06:50 AM Topic: JSH crushes - part 6
Taking a leave of absence from crushing

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 08:25 PM Topic: Do 'breaks' work?
idk...I suggested a break from my husband (now "ex"), just to gain some perspective on things - to not be agitated by the very sight of him and really dig into myself to see what I was willing to give or give up. He refused, saying that was the first step toward divorce. I don't know if the break would have helped or not, but NOT having a break certainly accelerated the final "break". Same here ...

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 08:21 PM Topic: FICTIONAL REALITY
Wow ... amazingly powerful.

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 08:04 PM Topic: I could really use some advice
Divorce, even when 'simple and amicable' is a really, really long, hard road - harder than I ever imagined. When there are children involved you will be tied to this man forever regardless, so my 'advice' would be to get professional help, exhaust every resource you can to make it work as a couple - and if that fails, do everything in your power to stay positive throughout the process - your children need to see you handle yourself with dignity and maturity - even when ... especially when, things get tough. Gather your best support systems around you and hold on tight ... my heart goes out to you!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 07:55 PM Topic: I'm not sure
Scary part is that SO much (more drama) can happen in 4 weeks and it sounds like you're already close to reaching your max with it all! I feel for you - it's hard to know when to cut your losses ... I'm always the one there 'til the bitter end, but I'm not so sure it's wise in the long run. Trust your gut - regardless of what the rest of us are saying, your intuition has probably already given you the answer you seek. Hoping for the best for you ...

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 07:49 PM Topic: since we're on the topic of deciding fates..
A year off to clear your head, re-group and rejuvinate can be a good thing - done it myself in the past ... sounds like you've been very dedicated to academia - a change of scenery and pace might invigorate you! Best of luck either way!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 07:23 PM Topic: Talking to a very sexy woman
It's allllways somethin' isn't it?!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 07:14 PM Topic: Help? lol
Love the profile pic - great smile ... I think you've described yourself well - honest, to the point, 2 thumbs up!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 12:37 PM Topic: Looking for True Friendship and Love??!!
I find the more time you have invested into a failed relationship the more time it takes to heal. There's nothing wrong with your feelings and your priorities are in the right place. Pick and choose your freinds wisely and you will find out you don't have many freinds. But the ones you do have will be damn good ones. Pick and choose your relationships wisely and you will have less grief to begin with. Don't bring your past into the present. Learn and move on. Good luck. Wow, I needed to hear that too ... thank you!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 08:49 AM Topic: gifts
Think the gifts are gonna stop now?!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 08:47 AM Topic: Hope I can be forgiven somehow
Self-awareness and humility are brilliant qualities to hold ... well done.

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 08:44 AM Topic: Why do SOME people give up so easily?
Just thinking out loud here and I'm not applying this to everyone.... Why is it when someone posts a problem they are having in their relationship, there are replies like: Move on.....he/she isn't worth the trouble...dump him/her...etc. I can understand replies like this if the poster was stating that the person was cheating, disrespectful, or abusive. But when a person is saying something to the effect of "I haven't heard from him/her in a day or two" or "They are so busy with work and kids, they don't have time for me" or something along those lines, those replies really make me wonder. Don't people realize that it takes hard work, effort, and patience to make a relationship work? Why would you advise the poster to give up so easily? It makes me wonder if those people that give those kind of replies are really putting an effort to make a relationship work themselves or if they give up just as easily? I come in peace... I see your point here. For some it is a sign to the other person that they have moved on. Thinking if they are not further responding with a simple "I am busy, will have time to chat in...” after a few days, this would show more of a sign. Now granted something may have happened in their life, but why could they not give a short email to say hi? And chasing someone seems a bit desperate; this is what I have made from viewing post on this site. How would it make you feel when someone does not take a few moments to reply to your sending email to them after a few days? I would also feel the need to say that a day or two is not that long, So no real reason to give up so soon. I have seen were people post as to wait a few days before responding so as not to seem desperate. I have not dated in many of years, so I am not sure what the time line should be to respond back and fourth. Its a crazy mixed up world. Thank you for posting this ... this is sort of where my thoughts were at. I tend to be the one who hangs on toooo long - hoping, waiting, praying 'this one' is going to be different (so far, they haven't been). I guess the 'move on', 'NEXT' advice is something I have needed to be reminded of sometimes, b/c rather than being too selective, I settle too easily and wonder why I'm repeatedly disappointed when someone who 'seemed' interested in building a friendship/relationship suddenly poof vanishes without explanation after 3.47 days. shrug Just my random thoughts from the other side of the coin, I guess.

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 07:11 PM Topic: breakdancing in your karate pants
parachute pants - now THERE'S a fashion trend worth re-visiting ... or maybe not!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 07:01 PM Topic: Is it farther to Chicago...
I'll take Nonsense Questions for $200 Alex!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 06:19 PM Topic: so
Anonymously give them $ -- it would save their pride and help them at the same time?! Tough call ... you certainly don't want them to feel patronized, but you want them to know you care.

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 05:53 PM Topic: Needle Point...
Cross-stitch ... been a few years, but I used to whittle away the hours (back in the day when I remembered how to channel my domestic side)

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 05:17 PM Topic: HEY!
well i must say that u r most definately sexy i dont know y no ones been checking u out...i sure would awww... thanks - they do - it was just gettin' a little slow... decides to make JoeKur her new personal marketing rep

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 05:15 PM Topic: salt or sugar
sheepishly raises hand Chips, peanuts, popcorn ... mmm, mmm!

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 04:37 PM Topic: How was
Thrill-a-minute ... wonders if anyone's gonna buy that!