Confidence is part of surviving honey. And you gotta survive to live. And if you want to LIVE, you gotta have confidence. Simple as that. ANYTHING you have to get through, move past, over come, say, do, have, fix, forget, let go of or hold on to. You have to have confidence in there somewhere.

You want to "live", really live the life you have been given. Trust me will find the confidence.

Neither turns me on because I'm not interested in a "boy", good or bad.

REAL turns me on. A real "man" that takes his good and.his bad and makes himself the best man he can be.
Now that's a turn on!

Invincible

I need and want to be a little of both.

A piece of whiting and fried oysters....yum

EXACTLY how I want my man to feel

They are not really. Because they are so broken, they can't be with a so called normal person. They have to be with someone even more broken than they are that will constantly feed their selfish, dysfunctional needs. So on the outside it looks like they are just being loved and given to and cared for. But really you got someone who doesn't know what love is because they are addictive and dysfunctional and then you have the person they are with that doesn't know how to love their own self enough not to be with an addictive dysfunctional person.

A so called normal person loves themselves and has boundaries and doesn't have to have and can recognize obsessive and compulsive neediness in their life.

Moneycd1 if I can help to give someone courage and support to hang in there I will. Friend here to talk to if you need it.

willing2 I see you are a handful and a half

You want to know how many kids are too many? 6
That would be the other 6 kids (plus our 3) my looser ex husband had with 5 other women during our marriage.

I can't give up. If I give up then he wins. I can't get back the 20 yrs I gave to someone who didn't love and appreciate me, but I have my future. If I give up then I'm giving him my future also. I can't give up or every negative thing he said about me will be true. I know what he said about me is not true so I have to live that way.

Can't give up. If a sorry, cruel man like him can be in my life for 20 yrs that didn't love me. Surely, there is at least one decent, loving man in this entire world that does.

Embrace your youth, you are still young and have a lot to learn and experience. Trust and believe white men love them some black women.

Yeah for us we have more to choose from.

I think for most men, an attractive woman is an attractive woman regardless of color.

Stage 3 breast cancer survivor. Diagnosed 5yrs ago. No greater prayer than for healing. All the love, strength and support to you and your family.

You wrote what was me. Your words exactly the moment in my life. Amazing!

There is no cure...I stood there also, dying with no way to be saved. No medicine, no words, no help. I simply just did not die. That pain, that moment that was there to end all hope, end all belief, end all faith, and end my life. It came, the death of me, of my spirit, of my mind, of my heart.

And I stood there with no cure. I just didn't die. All that was there to kill me, it just didn't. It came, I felt it. Yet, there I still stood. Even though there is no cure, I didn't die from the incurable.

Since i didn't die, I ask myself how would I live if there was a cure?

My confession...

My soon to be ex husband is a jerk and honestly I just want to meet as many nice people as I can.

No hidden agenda here with this chick

Having at least one good thought a day is proof that anger has not won.

That monster has visited me too. Now I am stronger and not afraid when he comes. I stab and wound him when he lurks back around trying to consume me. I cut his nasty thick skin with the peace I have of knowing the source of what brought the beast of anger to me I no longer have in my life. I smash the head of the monster knowing and believing that my life will absolutely be ok in spite of the wicked creature.

After surviving 20 years of a broken damaged marriage I will defeat any beast, monster or demon that tries to rise against me now.

Last night my husband told me he loved me.

After he told me I'm not worth telling the truth to concerning his affair but I'm a good woman and even though I've given him everything he asked I didn't give exactly in the way he wanted it (yeah he said those words) so he is not gonna give what he should in the marriage. He told me he loved again after that.

He is upset that I won't just dedicate myself to him like "she" does (oh yeah, she is in jail) and he's upset I have asked for a divorce because he doesn't want a divorce.

A day I could have gone without being told "I love you".

Feeling good about yourself is better than a 5 hour energy drink. When you let yourself just feel that you are worth it and valuable don't you just get a boost of energy you can't explain.

Yes indeed!...better late than never

I was going to write a post about how angry and mad I am at him and myself after giving away 20 yrs of my life to a man that never appreciated me and didn't deserve me. NOPE! Not gonna do that. When I thought about the fact that I already gave away 20 yrs I refuse to give away another second to him.

Everyday will be a day I give back to myself. Being angry is still giving too much. Instead, I am focusing on how good it feels to be free from hell and I feel like the smartest woman in the world because I think and feel completely different. I actually know and BELIEVE that I am way, way better than him and how I allowed myself to be treated. I know, should be something you automatically think but crazy enough I just realized that at age of 41.

I know it's because I loved this sad excuse for a man more than I loved myself and there was the root of it all. Now that I have become a Noble Peace Prize genius and rediscovered the wheel of "loving your self" I most definitely know better.

It is very empowering knowing that my value is worth a hell of a lot more than the sorry piece of nothing I thought was a marriage. And oddly I get a good laugh knowing dumb dumb thinks having a long distance phone relationship with a woman 12 yrs younger than him who is locked up in jail in another state is a better choice than me. Beautiful, college educated, insurance professional, mother of his 3 children and a dam good woman. Being a genius gives you confidence, can you tell. Oh yeah did I mention Mr.Dumb Dumb ironically is a correctional officer.

Me being the newly educated genius that I am has figured out, what in the world do I have to be angry about. Yeah, that's a make your side hurt laugh right there.