Omg!! I have a opinion and I'm the tool...lol
I am only being a tool to those people because they make no sense.
Why is it that when a person posts. they are automatically complaining? Can't a person just voice a opinion without judgement from someone who knows no better then me.

This is funny !! i am really getting a kick out of stirring this pot. MORE!!! PLEASE!!!

For the record... I did not write that. The topic states " oldie but goodie" which means its been around but I still like it.

I think it is so funny how people jump to conclusions...lol

smartest response so far!!! I like this guy.

lmao!!!.. ok you have 12424 post!!! I have news for you.. You are the giggly texting teenage type with that many post. And if your life is to busy to repond to the emails .. maybe you should cut down on your post and respond to the people who are interested in you.

As I look over the many profiles THAT ARE ONLINE the one thing that I see a lot is: Where are all the nice guys, or just looking for a nice guy, or are all the nice guys taken, etc… you get the idea.

So what happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: You did.

Think back, really hard and maybe you will vaguely remember a nice guy who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He would tag along with you when you went shopping. He would stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely, but didn't feel like going out. He would even sit there and hold you and listen while you sobbed and told him about how much of an ******* the other guy that you were ****ing was.

Perhaps at the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how much he was like a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him.

They may have even teased you a little because they thought he had a crush on you. Of course you denied having any romantic feelings for him, and claimed that you were "just friends. "

Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was maybe a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your nice guy buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, since you weren’t dating him.

More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship.

So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, What happened to all the “nice guys“?

Well, once again, It was you.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “nice guy“.

Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open, or make dinners just because, or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned that you really wanted five months ago, or listen when you were upset, or held you when you cried.

He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the ******* boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an ******* than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that.

I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of “nice guys” stumble into their lives, if that.

So ladies, if you're looking for the “nice guy“, here's what you should do:

1. ) Build a time machine.
2. ) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ***.
3. ) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a “nice guy“, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.


So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. After all your getting older. It's time to can the bull**** and deal with the reality.

You didn't want a “nice guy” then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you now.

On the other hand. The nice guy might still be right here, perpetrating a badass just to see what you will do.

wow!!! is everyone a idiot..? I did not say anything about being obligated to saying yes to evryone who contacts you...? wth are you talking about?

I said " mutual match"... not just clicking yes to people who contact you. If 2 people both say "yes" for a mutual match.. they should talk.. thats what I said . Its called mingle just like the sight.

Lmao!!! what kind of bs was that? I do know why YOUR!.... single..lol
I made a simple statement without attitude. You jumped to conclusions about what I meant. Typical of a women that will be single for alot longer then me....lol go run in that derby...!

Well first off I am not alone! I have alot of friends and companions to keep me company. I do not know why I come on here....? It seems like a waste of time. Especially when you have a match and they don't respond!!!!

So my comment was correct!! I did have the right insult.. " that is why your single and alone"


Speak to someone when they talk to you or your never going to meet someone.

Why say yes when you are in search mode if you are not going to respond to the person you said yes too....? I mean seriously .. if your going to be stuck up then just say NO!!! Or don't get on here when your drunk....lol. No wonder your single and all alone. This sight is called "MINGLE" ...!!! So , don't you think you should?

advise is good...keep it coming ..I have decided to just sit back and let her think about things. we need spend some time apart.i know we had words yestrday but. I think gona have to give up the idea that she is who I should be with.

only time will tell I guess.

I I think dating some one else just isn't gonna happen. When I love some one I am not interested in any one else.

well kinda hard when we are together all the time.. So I picked a fight to get some space for now.Until I can try figure it out. Didn't know what else to do

Hello All,
need little advise , I basically fell in love with my best friend . Her ex is out of the picture. they had a little boy and I have basically been raising him since he was 1 he is 2 1/2 now. She has a major commitment issue. She has a wild side she wants to get out . Evrything she invested in the last relationship blew up on her. I don't blame her for not wanting to be in another relationship. I was that way too.. why I had been single for 6 years. But, so my problem.... I feel a love so.... deep for this women that it hurts! and bring tears to my eyes not to be with her and her child which I love as much as it were mine. We messed around in the beginning but, she said was getting too serious. She didn't want that . Which I understood. She tells me that I mean the world to her and she would be lost without me.. But, we are not together.. don't kiss don't sleep together. She says she knows I would be great man, the best man, but she just can't commit. I don't know what to do about these feelings I have for her . I mean wow..its not a puppy love thing. It is a love, you can't control..one that takes over your whole body gives you chills makes you cry makes you feel every emotion all at once. I have told her that and more but still can't get her to commit. She says she isn't even happy with herself...so how can I make her happy? I just don't know what to do....? I am up for any solution or ideas on how to deal with this. By the way this is my neighbor ...so can't just stop coming around.
Edited by romancingu on Tue 07/27/10 01:56 PM

Have been on a couple dates. Your not going to meet some one overnight here. This is not purchase a wife week at mingle.com.

Give it a chance you will find someone. I know its hard sometimes to be alone. I go through it alot. But eventually you will meet someone that makes you smile. .... At least thats what I keep telling myself

I wana meet one those hotties at the bottom of the site pages lololol

I was in a relationship for about five years . I dunno why I left.. I was younger and dumber. I thought I could do better. So ,I left her. I never did better and I have never loved another women as much as I did her. I didn't know that then but know it now.

My point is... You get one shot to do most of the important things in life. If you mess them up you don't get another shot at the majority of things. All you do is just improvise from then on out. Very few get second chances. but good luck anyway.

LOL WAS THINKING THE SAME THING. PUNCTUATION IS A GOOD THING!!!

Well the simple answer is this. a large percentage of the availible men are pigs.They are not concerned with what you want or even if you care. Although their is a small percentage of us great guys around yet. We are just in the back ground hoping you notice us behind that guy driving the corvette.

If you like her it is ok. Of you think she is special and not out to confuse you or take advantage of you. Then go for it 2000 miles away though... I still think the love of my life is in another country.

Lol lol

Well.....on that note.... I hope everyone has a crappy day tomorrow words from a nice guy