As I look over the many profiles THAT ARE ONLINE the one thing that I see a lot is: Where are all the nice guys, or just looking for a nice guy, or are all the nice guys taken, etc… you get the idea.

So what happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: You did.

Think back, really hard and maybe you will vaguely remember a nice guy who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He would tag along with you when you went shopping. He would stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely, but didn't feel like going out. He would even sit there and hold you and listen while you sobbed and told him about how much of an ******* the other guy that you were ****ing was.

Perhaps at the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how much he was like a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him.

They may have even teased you a little because they thought he had a crush on you. Of course you denied having any romantic feelings for him, and claimed that you were "just friends. "

Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was maybe a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your nice guy buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, since you weren’t dating him.

More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship.

So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, What happened to all the “nice guys“?

Well, once again, It was you.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “nice guy“.

Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open, or make dinners just because, or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned that you really wanted five months ago, or listen when you were upset, or held you when you cried.

He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the ******* boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an ******* than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that.

I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of “nice guys” stumble into their lives, if that.

So ladies, if you're looking for the “nice guy“, here's what you should do:

1. ) Build a time machine.
2. ) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ***.
3. ) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a “nice guy“, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.


So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. After all your getting older. It's time to can the bull**** and deal with the reality.

You didn't want a “nice guy” then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you now.

On the other hand. The nice guy might still be right here, perpetrating a badass just to see what you will do.

There are a lot of nice guys still around because they don't want to be compared to the stupid boyfriends they have heard women complain about. Truthfully, I wouldn't give them the time of day if they did become the a-hole type because then they aren't being true to themselves.

I am sorry if you have been hurt by someone but please try not to hold it against the whole female population.

pms much.

Not all females are like that. Keep being a nice guy an you will find your woman sometime.

Like I'm going to read all that..............

Being bitter isn't going to make you seem like a nice guy.

I've seen that passed around often!! So true!! I had one of those...once!!! He so wasn't like all the rest & I overlooked him!!

good guy or bad,,,,I just cant get past the part where my mail i sent isn't deleted before it is read,,,lol,,i'm not even bitter about it anymore...of course I am not speaking of "friends" , anyway,, just had to post something I guess.
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Let me summarize.
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Add a little whining and you've got it.

thanks, that saved me a lot of time!

Thanks for the clarification!

Yeah, more like...''blaaaaaaah--waaaaaah--blaaaaaaah!!''

with a little QQ for the effort.

For the record... I did not write that. The topic states " oldie but goodie" which means its been around but I still like it.

I think it is so funny how people jump to conclusions...lol

Another ****ing nice guy topic...

Does that upset you??

You didn't provide a source or anything about who wrote it, so to some of us, it just seemed like another nice guy finishes last kinda thing.

I married a "nice guy" and we were happily married for 24 years until he passed away...My husband and I were "just friends" and "best friends" for 2 years before love and romance entered the picture...I'll admit that I had to "change my script" in order to see my husband as a potential boyfriend because he was a lot "nicer" than the men I dated and married in the past...But he "grew on me" and I fell in love with him and he loved me back...YEA! I'm so glad that I "changed my script" and stopped chasing after men who played games with women...It's sad that my husband is gone now. But I'm grateful for all the wonderful years we had together....He was definitely a very "nice guy" and super cute too!

Actual nice guys are fine. However the "nice guys" who constantly complain about finishing last and not being treated like they think they should be aren't really nice guys.