ok who is OP?

Wel thats not completely true ....because i am here...Hmmmm ...yep I am somewhat anyway

who exactly are you speaking of not needing them anyway??? Niceguys? or wine bags?

OMG THAT WAS THE BEST THING I HAVE READ ALL YEAR!!!!!

VERY WELL PUT i COULDN'T OF SAID IT ANY BETTER.
MATTER OF FACT I AM GOING TO COPY AND PASTE THAT AND EMAIL IT TO MY EX !!!!

Wow ,,, no responses huh. Is this too deep of a subject or what. I had expected some responses but, I guess no one has any advise???

Well after all this I don't think I willing to commit to anyone at this point either.


But , then agian what is wrong with just sex? I mean really? but, the problem is I don't know if I can just look at it that way. Is this a hump that we must climb or what.Am I just a patch until she gets the wound fixed? I still am lost about what to think . i mean my heart is!! involved which may make the situation a little hairy.

Anyway going to bed now . Hope to see some opinions here in the morning . I really need help on trying to figure this one out.

I had recently placed a post about a problem I had had which is on page 2 .You should prob read it.

So now I have been forgiven of acting like a fool. She just says that she was completely happy with the way that I treated her. That I would be the type of man she would want a serious relationship with. But,...she does not want that right now. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend.Doesn't want anything serious.

She says that if she is asked out she would go out with another guy if she wanted to. She says she wants to sleep with me .But I can't stay the night and I can't see the kids. Yah I failed to mention in part 1 that she had 2 kids Eric and Daniel which I became atached to in that time also.

I don't know what to do ? I mean I do have feelings for this women and I wanted a future with her. But how should I be acting right now with all this. I don't see myself liking it very much her dating other guys. But,then again she would only sleep with me? I am so lost on what to do I am afraid I will make the wrong decision. I really don't know what is going to happen or if I should even bother and just say that I am done with it.
I mean if I was great and treated her great and she loved it ??? What am I spose to think?

I will try my best to try and fix this but I just don't know at this point looking at it from that point of view if I can fix it. But' I will try to fix it.

not that day ????lolol how would that even happen . QUIt dwelling over the taxes. I messed up ok I realize that now.

ok i will do that .thank you all for your advise. Iam glad their are people like you around to smak me in the head when I have really messed up .

it was from 2006 and it was a 25,000.00 tax right off. I do not know the details but . I had a phone call from them . If your in acounting you know how big of a offense tax evasion is.

owell I will chalk it up as a loss.. because I have tried to talk to her. I don't know what to do . All you ladies say the same thing she said. if i react that way to that .How am I going to react to something big?

Well ok ladies ...What do i do to fix it ??? I don't want to give up..Do I have a choice??

See this is whr her thought is....... MAN it is not that... It isn't that she wouldn't see me!! It is because she said I wasn't any diffrent from any other guy. That no guy was coming between her and her friend. I didn't want to ruin the night .I didn't even want to leave . But i was far from normal and I didn't feel apreciated about the situation. And I wasn't worth her stopping by for 5 minutes. I was stressed out .My Tax lady had made huge mistake .It was far from little to me. I thought i was going to jail saturday night. I needed her and she let me down!!!

well i wasn't going out of my way at the time...I was just doing stuff that made me feel good. Because i was doing them for her and she liked it. I didnt start saying I went out of my way for her until after .I realized how much I had actually done for her . It is a after thought, not a thought I was thinking at the time.

I was playing a little game. And it completely back fired on me. I know why i did it but didn't think about being 31 and not 15 again . It was immature and childish for me to do that. But, I was stressed out about a situation also and had less then 4 hours of sleep to. I wasn't thinking ...like I said.

well I just don't understand it that is all.

I think this girl is really messed up in the head at this point. I don't understand any of it at all. Except that i overreacted and messed up when I took my things. But ,I don't understand why I shouldn't be forgivn.unless she was just using me for sex!! Which I don't mind being used for it . JUST DON'T TELL US U LOVE US JUST BECAUSE OF THE SEX !!! That is some bc for sure.

yes but, I am not the one saying what she said to me and taking it back. I understand that she could be being a ass to but at least I called and said "look I made a mistake I was mad and I truely do love you . I want to make this work ,let me fix this" she says" its not fixable" ???? If I meant anything to her why wouldn't it be fixable? I mean love is so hard to find why do we throw it out at the first sign of trouble? We do it all the time.

Bottom line is how could she just shut her feelings off like that?? How could I go from everything she wanted to not wanting to be with me anymore over our first tiss??? It is stupid... this is why it is so freaking hard to fall in love!

well i needed to be treated with the same respect in return. I guess this has happened for a reason. My friends all tell me I am to good to be treated that way. After all I do and have been thru I deserve to be spoiled ....I agree some what with that . But ,I want to make her happier then she had ever been. First.