Sorry to hear that, sir.

That's one of the other problems that men and women face. A man can make 70% of the income in a marriage, but after a divorce, walk away with 50%.

Women can make 70% of in the income (though in lower percentages of married couples), but a man will be less likely to try to get the "his share" of the joint property.

Maam, you rock! I guess I need someone to work on my wording. :)

I am speaking for real men. Sorry to offend the folks in the John Mayer camp. I wish you well in a relationship with someone who tries to show that she doesn't need a man, or shows you how much better she is than you.

Maam, you rock! I think women in their 50's could be included in this group. But, it seems that women in their 50's might have been influenced by the culture of the 50's. Consequently, they would be more pre-disposed to thinking that they should not try to show up a man, in a relationship.

Very interesting thoughts here.

Women may have become more "masculine" because they saw that as a way to get ahead in the business world. And, through cultural interaction, passed this trait along to other women. That may explain how we got to where we are today.

This cultural change has created a fundemental problem in the relations between men and women. Men and women are now both competing for the same prizes, which in some ways makes them competive against each other. However, the problem is, for a man to be attracted to a woman, or to have a successful relationship with her, he doesn't want to compete with her.

Sir, you have a good point. I do stay away from women that:

1.) Want to give me knucks
2.) Want to bounce chests after a particually good pass of the football
3.) Want to show me how successfull they are and compare their success to mine
4.) Play basketball
5.) Brag about how much they don't need a man.

My thought here is that a women, who could brag about her position, or try to compete with a man, should not do so in a relationship. It's not attractive to men.

The results of almost all athletic competitions suggest that men almost always win.... Perhaps being beaten by a women, in a physical contest doesn't bother some men. And perhaps, her coming home every night talking about how she is more successful than you at work wouldn't bother some men...

There's no inferiority complex here. It's just how men are wired. We don't want a women, who we are involved with sexually, to try to "one up" us.

Some men may not be wired in a manly way, sorry to hear that. For them, I have two tickets to John Mayer.

Maam, you rock!

In this case, I will only speak for manly men...

Sorry chief

There's nothing threatening about a successful women. I admire anyone who is successful, a good politician, or makes a lot of money, regardless, of race, creed, or gender. The point is: most men, even John Mayer fans, will agree that deep down we want a women - no matter how successful - to be the women in the relationship. Even if she's 100 times more successful that us, we don't want to compete with her.

As a man, we biologically (blame it on Darwin), don't want to be beaten by a girl. It's hard wired. So, if a women is very successful, she can find success in dating by not being so manly, and by not trying to show her worth to us. There are certainly many chauvinists, who don't respect women regardless of what they do, but, in general, successful women can find greater success in a relationship by being more of girl than the guy their dating.

You may be on to something here... Not depending on a man may the best choice for a women in her 30's and 40's, considering the posibillity that a man may "trade up". But, it's a paradox... How do you find a man, who by nature is looking for someone with a soft, non competetive side, and yet maintain your independence? (rhetorical)

I think you will find great success in dating because you "get it". You realize that men completely respect your position and success, and we don't need you to be chained to the stove, but at the same time, we don't want you high fiveing us during the super bowl, or trying to compete with us.

Maam, you rock!

I love it when women point to the calendar and use that as an excuse. "It's 2007. That's old fashioned". It doesn't matter if it's 2007 or 2207, women and men are biogically different and a man, a true man, doesn't desire a women, who wants to compete with him. It's hard wired into us. Men are the hunter gatherers, and women are the support staff. That's not to say there's anything wrong with being on the support staff, but the point is: it's hard wired. We each have a role to play.

The point was not to say that women should be in the kitchen and not contributing. I work with many professional women that I respect, and admire, however, the point I am making here is not to compete. Don't get into a relationship with a guy and try to show him how you can do everything he can (or better). We all respect the accomplishments of women. However, when it comes to an intimate relationship. Blue is for boys and pink is for girls.

Unless you're interested in the same sex...

Having worked in the credit card industry, I can tell you why rates are going up...

It's really not the fault the of credit card companies. It's simple math. More and more people have become irresponsible with their credit debt and are defaulting on the cards. Guess who has to pay back the $5000 credit card debt that someone defaults on? You do. All of the people who have cards pay, in the form of higher interest rates, for all the people that default on their cards.

Sorry guys, it's the american consumer, and their lack of responsible spending that's driving up the credit card rates.

It seems that you come across more "career women" these days. Women who are in their thirties and forties, with looks fading fast, that still don't quite understand what men want.

For some reason, with all the intelligence and value this group gives to themselves, this miss a fundamental truth. Men are not attracted to women who try to compete with them.

Men, for the most part, excepting for contentious objectors, peace-niks, and fans of John Mayer, tend to like women to be feminine, soft, sensitive, etc - qualities that men typically do not (except as above) possess.

Why can't these women, take off the suit, stop watching Sports Center, and just be a girl?

Ear - Rear

Thanks Rodney Dangerfield....

Back from the grave.

a first date?

It seems risky to me. Is it really safe?

Gay porn?

I so have the answer to this one - having done this many times myself...

The reason men do this is simple: SEX.

If a guy leaves you and immediately moves on to another girl that he's hot about, you're forgotten.

BUT... if the guy finds a girl that sucks in bed, or is not that hot. He might start thinking about the great sex he had with you and want you back.

THAT GOES DOUBLE... if he's solo for a while. A few months without sex and suddenly... "I have to have her back" (translation) "I have to have sex with her again"

We're basically animals.

My advice. Never go back to some guy who wants you back. Unless it's within a week of the break up.

Maybe a take some of the RED out your photo...

Maybe try the ball thing on your next date...