Thank you. This gives me anothr prespective on it. I highly doubt I will date. I am soooo emotional right now. One min I am super happy and bouncy, then I am tired and irritable.... lol, not to meantion that is pretty much any guys worst nightmare :p

Well thank you ddn. I def understand the devil's advocate. I have to admit.. I have done it once or twice myself. I really wish it wasn't like this, but I am trying to make the best of the situation. On a lighter note, my daughter is thrilled she will be a big sister soon :)

Thank you everyone who replied. I pretty much figured I would need to get a lawyer. I hate to drag it through the courts, but if I don't and something happened to the baby in his care....

I think nobody is bothering to respond to that because it is obvious you just think I am some loser who doesn't care about my kids. I don't have to prove anything. I am simply asking others if I should seek legal advise or try some new approach.

The father of my daughter? Yes, he has proven that he is a good person. He loves his daughter and has only her best interest in mind. He pays for her schooling so she doesn't attend a public school here. SC is 50th state for public education. Her father has maintained contact with her when he couldn't see her via phone calls. He was around for the first three years all the time cause we were still together. I have no doubt she would be taken care but he feels it is best for her to live with me. I am still more stable and able to spend the time that is required with her.

I don't want to deny a father the right to se his child, I just feel he has too many problems to be allowed to keep a child alone. This is the same man who thought it was ok to leave my sleeping six year old alone in the house for TWO hours. FYI, I kicked him out the same day he said that. Told him it was over.

I know that is not much. I don't deny her father the right to see her whenever he wants. The amount of time is his choice.

It is the same here. Unless he is there at the birth and agrees he is the father, they put unknown. This is also a very mother oriented state. Fathers have no chance unless the mother is a crack whore. Which I am def not! I don't even smoke cig and rarly drink.

He started out as a good guy. It quickly became apparent that I should watch him carefully. I was very careful when he was around my other child. I tried getting him to go get help. Finally realized that we needed to part ways.

I am not really worried about him getting custody. I own my own home, have lived here for five years. had a stable job for two years, and the previous one was seven years. My daughter is a wonderful student is a private local school. I have always had full custody of her. Her father and I are very amicable and even borderline friends. He sees her a couple times a month.

My ex on the other hand, has not lived in one place for more than a year, he has a history of drinking, is divorced, hasn't paid taxes in five years, has not held a job for more than a year.... plus all the other things.

I cannot believe how much I didn't see. I try to see the best in people and believe in them. There really is no excuse. I made a mistake but I will not allow it to be taken out on the baby. I love my daughter and am quickly falling in love with the baby inside me.

Ok, this is a little long. I will try my best not to drift either.

I am recently out of a very short term relationship with a friend of the family. We dated for three months. Well, I was stupid and trusted something he said, now I am pregnant. I already have a six year old (by another man). We split up and things were amicable enough until..... he asked me if I was going to give the baby his last name. Big fat NO!! I was of course much nicer about it to him. I explained to him that we are not married and not even dating. I am the one who will have to get up every night with the baby, miss work if he is sick, explain to him why dad is not there, etc etc.

Another issue I have is that if he is to see the baby I feel it must be supervised or at my home with me present. Here are my reasons..... He is a convicted felon, has a drinking problem, has a sexual problem (and I mean that he needs to have counseling), cannot handle a six year old without drinking, thinks it is ok to leave a child unattended for 2 hours alone in the house, has depression issues, and has never had any children of his own. I honestly fear for the baby's life if he gets him alone. He could get totally stressed and shake the baby and kill him!! He knows NOTHING about children.

It may seem I am stretching the truth or that I am crazy for even dating him. I probably am. I had no idea of any of these issues until recently. I broke it off immediately.

What should I do? I am thinking get an attorney. I don't want to deny him seeing his child, I just think it should be strictly monitored.

Thanks everyone. I am focusing on my family right now. Daughter, baby, and myself. Like I said, I am not dwelling on it. I was up late one night (a joy of pregnancy lol) and just making conversation on a random subject that occured to me.

My family is totally supportive of helping me with anything they can. It is a huge help. Have several friends who are as well. Guess I like the thought of "takes a village to raise a child"

:)

Although scientist say that birds evolved from dinosaurs.

Just adding my two cents :p

Like I said earlier, I am just focusing on my daughter and one to come right now. Mostly on my daughter cause she has been an only child for this long and I am nervous how she will adjust to not having me to herself.

I don't really think it will be an issue because how often is a pregnant woman even asked out. But curiosity got me thinking about it.

A really good friend of mine met her husband while she was pregnant with her daughter. He ended up being like her father and the little girl still daoesn't know that he isn't.

The real father has never seen her.

Wow, that is really situational. What are the circumstances?

No ring. Never have a guy around.

So I want to know what everyone thinks. I recently broke up with my boyfriend (long story short, he ended up being a total loser) welllll.... I am also sixteen weeks pregnant. While right now I am just focusing on that and my five year old child I do wonder, is dating while I am pregnant wrong? Should I be worried that guys will not approach me, or if they do, that they are just after one thing?

Discuss :)

Pft, when you find out, please... enlighten me as well. My best friend is one of those. Guys flock to her, but she has never managed to stay in a relationship for more than 6 months. Me on the other hand, I am the shy one. I have been in several relationships, all very serious and usually long. No idea what dating is though lol.

Oh, a puppy and a littlest pet shop is a sure way to end in a tearful little girl.