Yes, it sounds like a ridiculous question, but honestly, I'm clueless. I went from a 3-year relationship with someone who started out as a good friend, straight into a 4.5-year relationship with someone who I thought was my best friend... who subsequently cheated on me numerous times. Never married... and never really 'dated'!

And now I find myself feeling empowered to be single, and clueless at the same time. I look upon women who meet lots of people & go out on numerous dates with both admiration & envy. How do I become one of them?

I'm sorry to hear about those other guys!! But I'm still working on the dating thing myself

Just be yourself and make friends and it will happen.

I was married 15 years. Didn't date for another 6 after the divorce. I've dated for the past 4 years .. met 75+ men from online dating sites and been in 3 relationships. It's great.

Maybe that's why I'm here, I've never really been on a date myself.

what is....dating????

Dating rule #1...NEVER OFER TO PAY!!!

I don't know what dating is..I've only been on one in my whole life

You're askin' US?

relax be yourself. Don't be shy you'll meet someone.

god damm it i know i was doing summit wrong !!!!!

That is all wrong. Why would you say that. I dated a Gold Digger and she never offered to pay either. Are you looking for someone to take care of you? Are you a user. This is modern society. What is see is a one way sign.

with a credit card and a computer

Expecting a man to pay for the first date doesn't necessarily mean one is a gold-digger, for heaven's sake. Perhaps, she's looking for a gentleman who would be honored to pay for dinner for a lady.

Hi sweetie. I am on question #2 out of 5 (including a three part one) and it's due at midnight and yet I feel the need to check on you..

I never understood why guys were supposed to pay, honestly. I guess I am no lady.

Plus I never go on dates, so....

date? what is this...date you speak of??

Any real gentleman would be honored to pay for his first date with a woman. Anyone who argues that needs a reality check.

Hey (((((Hiker))))). Did you mean "check me"? I don't think guys are "supposed" to pay. I think if they are happy and willing to pay for the first date, it's indicative of their character. I mostly took issue with his statement that if the lady expects the guy to pay, she's a gold-digger.

And, as much as you'd like to deny it, you are a lady to me You are a woman of integrity, among other fabulous attributes (sorry - don't mean to tarnish your image ).

Now, get your butt back to work, young lady!!!!

Show your boobs... It always works on me.

Well said!

I always offer to pay for my own dinner/drinks/etc, unless my date has specifically asked "Can I buy you a [drink/dinner]?" It's nice if they refuse, but I always offer.

I'd say, just be yourself. Remember to think about whether you like your date, and not just worry about what they think of you. Be honest and communicate openly. If you have difficulties in the first month, it'll be nothing but drama. The most important: ALWAYS trust your gut!