That's a shame that happened to her I guess she got too caught up in the excitement of 'feeling' again. Know what I mean?

I still believe with all my heart that friends should be valued and not disposed of. THE day will come you may want them back when they are left alone and then what? Like you said ,very hard to take them back and trust them again.
I might thought, depending on the circumstances.

Of for sure I do. But that is just part of life I think.
IT can hurt big time when it happens after awhile I realize THEY NEVER were a friend in the first place.

hi ,i guess i am nobody.i read your profile! you need to read the book -- act like a lady, think like a man.i think then you will understand better why people end up with the feelings they do over the friends issue. check it out, i could not put the book down. good luck, and i hope it works out for you.... cleve

this is a good post. and your view of things would make you more likely, I think to be a person who your friend would come to talk with eventually because you haven't been an interfering type.

the only thing I question is whose position it is to decide personal happiness. For me it is me. Someone else may think I am unhappy but if I feel I am happy I am. There may be some things we all tend to be unhappy about now & then....but it is the individual's choise to determine whether or not they are happy overall as a person, and if unhappy what if anything to do about it.

I will admit that there are some people I don't talk with because they either tried to make me discuss things I did not wish to discuss or gave unsolicited advice or told me without prompt (I did not ask) what my fault was in a situation (and they really did not know). I don't regret that decision at all and am not missing those individuals at all...jmho

Because you are talking about something special that you shared with someone special and I think that it being something that just the two of you share together is what makes it special. I agree with DaySinner that it can break the magic. What makes it romantic in the first place? I am interested in the psychology of romantic love and that is what I am trying to explore with this topic.

There is a difference between just telling other people that you love somebody and telling them why you love them. The former is easy to understand but the latter is not and it is just not going to be as meaningful to other people as it is to you. In some cases people will be unable to understand it at all and the process of talking about it might make you realise that you don't really understand it either or that what made it meaningful to you is conversely something that other people can understand but it isn't really that special or unique.

There is also the fact that when we do this we will try to put it into language that we think other people will understand. An example of this would be a guy boasting to his friends about how he had sex with someone. He is likely to talk about it in a way that isn't going to make it sound too soppy if he doesn't want his friends to think that he's soppy. Or if he is a soppy "romantic" he might talk about it in a soppy way because he is concerned about how he appears to others. We all wear masks in one way or another and have public personas. We are social beings and language always gets its meaning through the social context.

Good grief, have y'all hearts frozen solid?

Shouting it from the rooftops is your heart telling the world, "I LOVE this woman!" There's no ulterior motives or angles or whatever—it's just love and your heart giving it voice through you.

I think there's something to what you say here. We are social beings and we feel the need to express our thoughts and feelings publicly through language to make them meaningful.

I think there's something to what you say here. We are social beings and we feel the need to express our thoughts and feelings publicly through language to make them meaningful.

Excellent post Greeneyes.
What you said makes so much sense .I agree 100%
I know there are people like that and its sad, but the world is filled with them.

By the way..Happy Easter

Hi Green Eyes... Happy Easter... I just wanted to comment that I too often question my own posts and if I have gone too far. But, just like you, this is a new and first time experience for me, and we learn as we go and grow... I personally enjoyed all the conversations we had about your husband and sons, because we grew to know each other better, and for that I'm glad... I never thought you said too much, or in a wrong spirit, when all I could see and hear and feel is your love and loss of your entire family... and my heart goes out to you, it doesn't judge your passion to remember them, and share their memory with us... may peace always be yours, Claire...

you know you are in love when you still :
Cannot wait to hear their car pull up in the driveway
When that kiss hello is better than the kiss goodbye
When being in their arms is your safe place
When you can do his dirty laundry and pick up his smelly socks and not care.
When you make love you know he is the right one.
When you make his favourite meals ,even though you don't really like it but want to please him.
When you know he had a rough day and all you want to do is comfort him.

And when the time comes that illness takes them away from you are still missing them and wishing they were with you.
That's when you know.

I agree this is a big mistake when someone who brings their family into the relationship....in fact it is "his" family that scares me ....even when I do not even know who "he" is yet...lol