I did wonder that, that's also why I wanted a second opinion.

god, now you have me second guessing again KB...

and I have to tell you - I also thought a lot about some things you said
in other topics. You have certainly changed my view on some things.

KB - you are a gentleman and a scholar!!

J

I think so many men are afraid of being burned these days they have the
attitude, I better get you before you get me. Men I have dated in the
past are very taken back by my outgoing and friendly attitude and think
I can't possibly be faithful. I think some of it is a matter of trust
and insecurity. I have also been told that they felt they couldn't
"keep me" blah blah blah...I've been told so much shit. Who knows, but
I do know that a self sufficient out going, outspoken successful woman
can be intimidating to some.

J

Laughing my ass off!!

Jaime

We have to have somebody to pick all the rotten fruit in California!!


Just learn English Please!! For the love of God!!

you forgot something Will, what about having to push one for English two
for Spanish before you enter the last four digits of your phone number?
WTF??!! this is America - you want to live here learn the language!!!
It used to piss me off so bad to turn on Seaseme Street when my
daughter was little and the whole freaking episode would be in Espanol.
Nothing wrong with learning another language if you want to. That's
great but it shouldn't be an alternate language to English if you are an
American....

which reminds me of a hysterical video I seen on the net. A family of
foriegners, two kids and their parents, come to the U.S. get in a car,
turn on the radio and there's a song playing with the words "I wanna
fuck you in the ass" and they all start smiling and bebopping along
with the tune.

Get my drift? This is America...we all come from somewhere, but English
is what is spoken here! Learn it! You don't go France or Germany and
expect them to speak English NO!! You learn their language.

Part three (trace) of the rant will...sorry, got off on a tangent
myself...I'll leave quatro up to you...

J

Red flags are often times hard to spot when you are looking for someone
who's attracted to you and wants you for just you...he is delicious
looking as well T!!

I love what nenasmom said...my profile is very short. He read it 14xs?
And the fact he even put a number to it? What a joke and to be so
infatuated from a very informal description of myself? NOT!! For all
this guy knows, I killed my exhusband and he's buried in my backyard!!
I'm not into writting a bunch of dribble and putting it out there on the
net for people that don't even know me. Chatting is a good tool to
use for that after the intitial introductions.

and as far as grammer, I shutter at the thought we have so called
professionals out there that can't even put together a simple
sentence!!!


Thanks for the clarity guys!

J

you are too kind Cap, but it all does make one wonder what they might be
doing wrong and want to change it. I would like to find someone special
before I'm too old to enjoy it. I would hate to see my boobs turn to
"soap in a sock" and still be chatting on dating sites!!

J

So you are saying fear of being hurt is an issue? Understandable...We
are all fearful of that Capn' because most of us have all loved and lost
at some point but some of us feel the fear and do it any because we
think it's worth the chance of getting hurt to find something
meaningful. With all this "hurt" floating about I'm beginning to wonder
how do some people make it seem so easy and so many others like myself
struggle with finding lasting friendships?

J

I appreciate your input Captain

and your biggest turn off would be what Captain?

I just don't get it sometimes. I'm a very strong willed independent
woman as are many of us. We don't need someone to hold our hands 24/7,
we are not needy or clingy and have plenty of self confidence in
reserve. I keep my men on a long leash and give them plenty of room as
I am woman who needs that myself. I'm not looking for a ring in my
relationships but more over I'm looking for loyal companionship. It
chaps my hide then to hear a man tell me that "I just need some time to
figure out what I want" Screw that, I don't expect to spend every
freaking moment with them anyway. It's more of a shocker when that
statement comes after seemingly being on the same page for some time
with regards to the relationship. It's all very cofusing.

J

I thought it would be good to get some feedback on the subject. Maybe
we'll hear something useful. I personally have had a couple experiences
where things seem to be going fantastic. And just before I thought
maybe we would take things to a deeper level. Out drops the bottom with
no warning and I'm just trying to understand why. How can you create a
loving caring bond between two people and suddenly for no apparent
reason duck and run??!!



J

What do you find to be the biggest turn off in a woman. What things
would make you turn and run from a relationship or committment to one
before anything else?

Serious replies appreciated...

Thanks

J

Already past it T

There were two more messeges from him the morning, but I deleted them
without reading them. God, he looked good tho, if that was indeed his
photo.

J

It was a gas the way she ran all over the stage screaming and throwing
herself on the floor when Maury reveal the results of the 29th test...

Apparently, she was the caboose at the end of an extremely long train!!
ALL ABOARD!

You got to hand it to Maury tho, he's determined to find this guy. Way
to go Maury...it makes for great day time television!!

J

I appreciate your comments "momma" and you gave me plenty of food for
thought. As I said, this is by no means my first trip to the rodeo. I
am glad I posted that as you brought out some very important points I
had not thought about. I have not answered this man...after reading
your comments, I will not be doing so. It's very helpful to have an
objective point of veiw on this stuff sometimes. I had the same thoughts
about it, but at the same time wasn't sure if I was maybe being too
sinical.

Thanks again,

J

What woman wouldn't say chocolate? I love the real expesensive kind. I
have to take a trip out of town to a shop that has the real deal. The
chocolate caviar!! Funny tho, my favorite ice cream is vanilla.

For the love of God!! The Maury show, they had a girl on there that had
been on the show like thirty times to find her baby daddy...I'm guessing
she's still looking!!??

J

I'm gonna close on that note...thanks KB

Looking forward to our next debate

J

I'm going to give some thought to things before responding to Jerry's
email...

I dunno...I'm not too hyped. That's why I wanted input. Funny for a
Civil Engineer his grammer leaves a lot to be desired...but who knows.
You confirmed what I was sorta thinking KB...if he wants to talk it will
only be through the sight for a while. Go from there. I didn't just
fall off the brocoli truck and this by no means my first trip to the
rodeo. I'm not looking for a fairy tale ending. I'm also not looking
to try to bond with someone who is undeserving of me. This online
dating thing is a whole lot more complicated than I first imagined it
would be. But the bottom line is I would like to remain open to
possiblities, but it can be a fine line between reality and fantasy.
And just which fantasies do in fact have the possiblity to become
reality?

AND

Just how many licks does it in fact take to get to the center of a
Tootsie Roll Tootsie Pop?....

The world may never know.

J

I live in a small county called Knox in Illinois. We have lost over two
hundred yound men to this war already. I was astounded by that number
when I first heard it. That's unbelievable to me for such a small
region. The majority being under the age of 25. Is that even old
enough to understand the complexities of what they were even fighting
for??? I wonder.


All the same - they are heros to me.

J

I do get put out by the fact that we are spending money to help them
rebuild when we can't even rebuild Louisiana after Katrina for god
sakes!! We are not only giving them money but are educating and feeding
them as well...all the while our own public school systems are crumbling
and our own people are starving...

with the Poppy Crop doing very well this year - they should be able to
take care of themselves. Then we will be free to become herion
addicts!!

J

Normally, I would never post an email sent to me from someone. I'm only
posting this one as there are some here who's opinoins here I value
greatly. I'm from a small town of about 50K and it's very difficult to
meet people here. I've been trying this online dating thing almost a
year and am currently on one other site. I've dated a few locals - but
nothing has come from it. Often times I am approached by men that live
quite some distance away. It never pans out but that's not to say it
couldn't in the future. I guess it would all depend on each of us and
the dedication we would have to see it through. My kids are grown and I
could get a job anywhere. It's just that at this point I feel it's too
much energy and much too big a task to bridge larges gaps of distance.

So here's the mail...this guy is gorgeous. He has a lot of qualties
that I'm looking for according to his profile. (that is to say if it's
truthful) I would be very interested should he live closer...BUT 700mi
is a long way. The question is do I respond to something like this and
invest anything of myself, my time and my energy? Do I pass by a
possible chance at real love and happiness for the rest of my
life??...or is this just a scammer and a gamer?

You decide....I've removed his last name and addy for privacy.

My name is jerry i am a civil Engineering with my doctorate degree and i
work with Shell Oil Company..i have taken my time to go thru your
profile and it seems favourable to me to the extent that i had to go
thru it like 4 time .....and your pics was very good....how i wish you
are mine...u have all it takes to make a man want u more and...pls add
me so we can talk i wont want to lose a queen like u .. ,,,,and i have
also read through ur profile say 10 times and thats why im taken this
medium to reach u ...i have a lot to say about myself, though i am very
new on this site ..........and thats why i will like to leave here
pretty soon .......remember i wouldnt want to remain here for too long
...i need a serious relationship last and a woman with values and
respect for her man ........and i will treat her like my Queen.you can
get me through yahoo and kindly get back to me with yours, so that i can
chat with you online. A love can weather most things and thrive in thin
soil -- but it needs a little mulch of letters and phone calls and small
silly presents every so often -- just to save it from drying out
completely.pls love
always add me to your yahoo IM.ALWAYS I WANT YOU FROM JERRY.

He's from Flordia.


J