Normally, I would never post an email sent to me from someone. I'm only
posting this one as there are some here who's opinoins here I value
greatly. I'm from a small town of about 50K and it's very difficult to
meet people here. I've been trying this online dating thing almost a
year and am currently on one other site. I've dated a few locals - but
nothing has come from it. Often times I am approached by men that live
quite some distance away. It never pans out but that's not to say it
couldn't in the future. I guess it would all depend on each of us and
the dedication we would have to see it through. My kids are grown and I
could get a job anywhere. It's just that at this point I feel it's too
much energy and much too big a task to bridge larges gaps of distance.

So here's the mail...this guy is gorgeous. He has a lot of qualties
that I'm looking for according to his profile. (that is to say if it's
truthful) I would be very interested should he live closer...BUT 700mi
is a long way. The question is do I respond to something like this and
invest anything of myself, my time and my energy? Do I pass by a
possible chance at real love and happiness for the rest of my
life??...or is this just a scammer and a gamer?

You decide....I've removed his last name and addy for privacy.

My name is jerry i am a civil Engineering with my doctorate degree and i
work with Shell Oil Company..i have taken my time to go thru your
profile and it seems favourable to me to the extent that i had to go
thru it like 4 time .....and your pics was very good....how i wish you
are mine...u have all it takes to make a man want u more and...pls add
me so we can talk i wont want to lose a queen like u .. ,,,,and i have
also read through ur profile say 10 times and thats why im taken this
medium to reach u ...i have a lot to say about myself, though i am very
new on this site ..........and thats why i will like to leave here
pretty soon .......remember i wouldnt want to remain here for too long
...i need a serious relationship last and a woman with values and
respect for her man ........and i will treat her like my Queen.you can
get me through yahoo and kindly get back to me with yours, so that i can
chat with you online. A love can weather most things and thrive in thin
soil -- but it needs a little mulch of letters and phone calls and small
silly presents every so often -- just to save it from drying out
completely.pls love
always add me to your yahoo IM.ALWAYS I WANT YOU FROM JERRY.

He's from Flordia.


J

i would only contact him through this site til you get to know him,
something don't sound right but it's worth finding out anyway. i had a
female contact me wanting to talk through personal e-mail only lol. i
told her that i would love to get to know her but i would only talk to
her through this site til i got to know her because of the scammers, i
never heard back from her. the language in my e-mail and yours sounded
oddly familiar. i hope i'm wrong and it turns out to be something
special, good luck

I dunno...I'm not too hyped. That's why I wanted input. Funny for a
Civil Engineer his grammer leaves a lot to be desired...but who knows.
You confirmed what I was sorta thinking KB...if he wants to talk it will
only be through the sight for a while. Go from there. I didn't just
fall off the brocoli truck and this by no means my first trip to the
rodeo. I'm not looking for a fairy tale ending. I'm also not looking
to try to bond with someone who is undeserving of me. This online
dating thing is a whole lot more complicated than I first imagined it
would be. But the bottom line is I would like to remain open to
possiblities, but it can be a fine line between reality and fantasy.
And just which fantasies do in fact have the possiblity to become
reality?

AND

Just how many licks does it in fact take to get to the center of a
Tootsie Roll Tootsie Pop?....

The world may never know.

J

you sound like one of those great philosofizers, they are all questions
that will be pondered til the end of civilization. i know i've been
stuck on the tootsie pop one most of my life so i don't dare contemplate
the others yet

I'm gonna close on that note...thanks KB

Looking forward to our next debate

J

I'm going to give some thought to things before responding to Jerry's
email...

sounds like she has a bad case of it!.. lol!!

have a good night jane

jane ... ya better go 4 it.

jane,jane,jane,wake up to reality,this verything happen to my
daughter,shes 42, is on a few match sites ,well shes allways writing the
men in other countries,i didn't like that,there are men here well this
guy jabar hasan,you guessed it from iraq,but living in sweaden,well hes
sounds just like your guy,he said he was a civil engineer,has apt,was so
in love with her,wants to marry her make her daughter his,i tried to
tell her no but shes got togo,it takes a whole year to get to other
country,to marryyou have to get visa & permet to be there,so when i
wouldn't bless her & him,she gave him my e-mail well he started out hi
mother,i love you very much,i want to marry your daughter,so on & so
on,telling me how much he love & respected me,well i was so mad,told her
so,then he calls me,so i wrote him to leave me alone or i would have
someone look into his life to see if he is real,he never wrote me or
called,i don't know if he did my daughter as she got mad at me said i
disrespeced him she lives in a fantasy world,she don't talk to me
now,like she droped off world,i know some of them guys are just trying
to get here,shes had three guys from over there all pretty much the
same,so just be carefull write a lot at first,how can a man just say he
loves you when you never met yet?? you seem like a very nice person,good
luck i will pray for you,just be carefull,

hi,its me again sorry to bother you jane,i'm a mom of six,kids so it's
the mom in me,i read that guys letter again,first he said he read yous
4x's then 10x's,he writes the same as the guys did to my daughter,the
one writing her got his words from the dictionary,he allso spoke broken
english as your guy does,that why he talks like that he may be in fl,but
i bet hes not from here has he told you that yet,allso they all had
yahoo,the thing about theating like queen,gifts & all like a carbon
copy,of his letter,i think they are handed out a letter of what to
write,well enough from me,i'll leave you alone ,& where are all the men
from michigan???this is my first time on anything like this site,maybe
i'm just here to help,anyone els want to know anything,i'm a wise old
lady,been though a lot in life,could write a book,looks like i am,lol,
ok good nite,funny your profile is only two lines the one we see it took
him14 x's to read ,

sounds like something is fishy!!

I appreciate your comments "momma" and you gave me plenty of food for
thought. As I said, this is by no means my first trip to the rodeo. I
am glad I posted that as you brought out some very important points I
had not thought about. I have not answered this man...after reading
your comments, I will not be doing so. It's very helpful to have an
objective point of veiw on this stuff sometimes. I had the same thoughts
about it, but at the same time wasn't sure if I was maybe being too
sinical.

Thanks again,

J

that was funny nenasmom but you are right
there are alot of those little clues, had to read ir 4 x's then 10x's
and it's omly two sentences long lol.
i never understood how someone could say i love you right away either,
but there are plenty of people that fall for it so people are going to
continue to do it.it probably won't be the last one jane but i hope you
get more legitimate ones than fake ones

sorry j, but i didnt even have to read the entire letter..hes a
scammer..keep movin on..

Hi tretia

if its sounds to good to be true it is!!

Already past it T

There were two more messeges from him the morning, but I deleted them
without reading them. God, he looked good tho, if that was indeed his
photo.

J

hey chica!

good girl, j!

tretia, I received once this ass long love letter saying that he loves
and me. How can u love somebody only three days u chat with him on line
impossible. Then there were only time caught me online, acting out a
scene that he needed money right away because son was in the hosptital
and need some money to complete for his operation. I saw him here. At
the site. It felt like he was following my foot steps.

did you ask him how his son's operation went chica