What do you find to be the biggest turn off in a woman. What things
would make you turn and run from a relationship or committment to one
before anything else?

Serious replies appreciated...

Thanks

J

Hi J, that's a good.

I thought it would be good to get some feedback on the subject. Maybe
we'll hear something useful. I personally have had a couple experiences
where things seem to be going fantastic. And just before I thought
maybe we would take things to a deeper level. Out drops the bottom with
no warning and I'm just trying to understand why. How can you create a
loving caring bond between two people and suddenly for no apparent
reason duck and run??!!



J

men are typically bad a commitment, especially if they have been buned
in the past. Mabye the commitment stage just came too fast.

Mens take us as game or their personal things. I hate it when they
played their disappearing act on u. It be good to get advice on a guys
point view on this subject.

and your biggest turn off would be what Captain?

I just don't get it sometimes. I'm a very strong willed independent
woman as are many of us. We don't need someone to hold our hands 24/7,
we are not needy or clingy and have plenty of self confidence in
reserve. I keep my men on a long leash and give them plenty of room as
I am woman who needs that myself. I'm not looking for a ring in my
relationships but more over I'm looking for loyal companionship. It
chaps my hide then to hear a man tell me that "I just need some time to
figure out what I want" Screw that, I don't expect to spend every
freaking moment with them anyway. It's more of a shocker when that
statement comes after seemingly being on the same page for some time
with regards to the relationship. It's all very cofusing.

J

I dom't have any big turn-offs, just a huge fear of putting that much
trust into any one person again.

So you are saying fear of being hurt is an issue? Understandable...We
are all fearful of that Capn' because most of us have all loved and lost
at some point but some of us feel the fear and do it any because we
think it's worth the chance of getting hurt to find something
meaningful. With all this "hurt" floating about I'm beginning to wonder
how do some people make it seem so easy and so many others like myself
struggle with finding lasting friendships?

J

I appreciate your input Captain

You seem to be a very smart classy woman. Have patince that the right
man will come along. I'm pretty sure he will count himself lucky when he
does.

you are too kind Cap, but it all does make one wonder what they might be
doing wrong and want to change it. I would like to find someone special
before I'm too old to enjoy it. I would hate to see my boobs turn to
"soap in a sock" and still be chatting on dating sites!!

J

I think my biggest turn off or what would turn me away
is if the person is being fake about who they are or
don't accept me for who I am. Being honest, being real
is important to me. I need someone that I can be myself
around.

It would seem that I have the reverse situations..I always get "the
disappearing act"... MY worst pet peeve...Lack of communication....MOst
women I have dated seemed unable to muster up even simple courtesies...
WILL

Biggest turn off for me not to be interested in a lady has many
scenarios...but if I had to name just 2 or 3 they would be...

1) Being fake by not being themselves.

2) Constant nagging.

3) Not being on a communicative level or not being able to hold atleast
some decent convo...cause I'm not going to talk to myself all day or
night long...it really pisses me off to no extent... 0_o I don't go for
interviews...if I wanted that I'd go slave for a boss or company while
looking up the yellow pages lol.

4) Stupidity and all the mental games!! -_-

chismah,, well stated !!

Although there are some very nice and good women around.

Well SavationJane, you don't seem to be put out with the rubbish! You
seem to be a pleasant person. So what is it that your afraid of ??

If you know what you want and stay focused on that it will eventually
manifest it self.

BTW I'm from the Chicago burbs, where is it that you live ?

Go to P M if you want

Yeah there IS good women/ladies out there true that...

But some ladies need to relax and kick back sometime and have some fun
without all the drama and scenes...

She will come my way someday!! hopefully soon...-_-

You know, I'm not afraid of commitment at all. I'm afraid of being
burned my people period. I love being in a relationship with a woman.
It's a great thing. It's a thing that can lead to heaven. But when
someone wants me to rush into something without even thinking about the
drawbacks , and the trouble that it can lead me into, I'm going to have
to say no.

chisma said it best for me, just being fake in general, an unwillingness
to communicate how they feel or what they need, mind games and i'll add
being real needy.
i don't mind doing things for them especially when it comes to those
little things that you all think are romantic but i don't want someone
who can't do for themselves.

There he goes campaigning again...Pressin the flesh and kissin (ew!) the
babies...KINGBREEZE for PREZ o8....YEAH!! WILOL

I think so many men are afraid of being burned these days they have the
attitude, I better get you before you get me. Men I have dated in the
past are very taken back by my outgoing and friendly attitude and think
I can't possibly be faithful. I think some of it is a matter of trust
and insecurity. I have also been told that they felt they couldn't
"keep me" blah blah blah...I've been told so much shit. Who knows, but
I do know that a self sufficient out going, outspoken successful woman
can be intimidating to some.

J

aaahhh will, how was the vacation?
i'll keep my reply for a moment because i don't like the way you used
the word campaigning. i hope you don't have the same idea of
"campaigning" as i do, just something dirty bout the way it sounds lol