Well, you can date them, but definitely don't marry them.

Cuz 15 years and three kids later, they leave you for the new female singer in the band, WHILE you're going through chemo.

Nah, I'm really not bitter..... LOL!!

Pente

Heya Geek, I find that funny, but true. The only guys that wanna talk/email live entirely too far away to be a reality.

Such is life, I guess!

Thank you Lord. I *love* a man with a sense of humor. Why oh-friggin'-why do they have to live a continent away???

Oh yeah. Humor. I'm getting it.

hehehe

What he said.

Look at all three responses, posted at the SAME time!!

It's a sign......

Pfffft. Take her if you want to take a friend.

But don't have any expectations. That way, you won't be hurt if nothing happens. And you can have a fun vacation with a friend, which is *always* good! I've never had a bad vacation.

So do you! (Sound so alive and positive.)

You inspired me too.

I've had two major ones Dragoness.

The first involves my middle child, Michael. At 9 days of age, he just wouldn't eat. I didn't think anything about it cuz the 2 year old just got over a stomach bug. Then he started turning gray. We rushed him to the hospital. Driving home that night without my new baby was one of the hardest things I've ever done. Two weeks later he had his first open heart surgery, with two more and a pacemaker implanted by the time he was two. He didn't start walking until he was four. He's now 12, and is also autistic. He doesn't talk and still wears a diaper. He's a beautiful child and I wouldn't trade him for the world. After posting this, I'm gonna add his pic to my profile. The autism has affected our lives more so than the heart condition. My lessons learned deal with how people treat you in public when you are 'different'. Michael is very different in how he acts. You can certainly tell he's not normal. He doesn't care in the LEAST what people think. I don't even notice folks reactions to him anymore, because now I don't care what strangers thing about him -- and that leads to my next story, cuz I don't care what people think about me in public -- now that I'm bald!!!

Second life altering event, of which I'm still smack dab in the middle of. Married 15 years - I thought happily, three kids. Diagnosed with BC in March '07, surgeries Apr, May '07. Chemo Jun-Sep '07. On July 5th, I got up in the middle of the night cuz I couldn't sleep and went to his nightstand to get the remote. There was a red phone on the floor. He doesn't have a red phone. I took it to the bathroom and proceeded to get my guts wrenched. I woke him up and confronted him. He sat on the end of the bed and calmly told me he was in love with someone else, he didn't love me anymore but wanted to help me through the cancer. After treatment, he planned to leave to be with her. Mind you, I have three kids at home and still have 4 chemo sessions to get through. My family is 3 to 4 hours away and I'm in a place I've only lived one year, so no close friends. At first I thought I 'needed' him to get through this. It didn't take me long to kick him out. When I did, I told him that no man is gonna live under my roof that doesn't think I'm the BEST thing that EVER happened to him. My lesson on this one -- I'm alot stronger than I ever realized. I made it through those 4 chemo sessions with very little help. I have a great support group in family/friends that really came through for me on the emotional support end of things. I came away from this realizing how blessed I am to have such good friends and a family that would do anything for me.

I'm all finished with treatments, and my hair is growing back!! My prognosis is excellent and life is GOOD.

I'm happy to hear you're doing so well Dragoness!

at Jistme!! Where's my script?????

I think Goofball nailed it.

It's hard to feel like you're being 'mean' and rejecting someone. But I've found it's far easier in the long run to do just that rather than lead them on.

Two dates. And then I decide yay or nay. So far, I've gone out on two dates with four different guys, lol. No connections yet. But I'm gonna keep trying!!!

Hi again.

I'm OFF WORK TODAY!! Think I'm happy, lol??

I haven't seen snow in so long.... I did live in North Dakota for four years though, so am VERY familiar with the white stuff and actually miss it. It's great for summer bug control. I hate the deep south bugs. Especially chiggers. That's just wrong.

For the most part, I hate TV.

I have two shows though... this one and ER.

They need to bring it back, or that big ole electronic box will just keep gathering dust!!

Hello56, I'm with you. The day I found out he was *still* in contact with 'her', I was single. It was over, NEVER to be again, and I wouldn't have him back if PROMISED to finally figure out where that 'G' spot is.

It'll do til you can get another one!

At least you can see your face.

Your pic is fine, niceguy.

The body language though..... ya know, with the arms folded and crossed, it doesn't say friendly or approachable.

Another HOT topic!

This is my first experience dating with kids. I've already made the decision that my dates are not going to meet my kids anytime soon. I'm not looking for a father-figure, I'm looking for a friend and for companionship. AND, like someone said earlier, their Dad already ran out on them, I sure don't need some 'new' fella doing the same thing. I've also seen lots and lots of step-families that are a disaster, and I don't want that for my kids either. I probably won't get married again, and I definitely don't want a man living under my roof until the kids are gone. Cold hearted b*tch, aren't I??? Nah, I feel like I'm protecting my kids.

I love my kids dearly, but they aren't my whole life. And they won't be under my roof forever. But I will say having kids changes the whole dating experience.

Btw, my exerience in this realm is SHORT!!

Hi gang. I also have an autistic child. Michael is 12, non-verbal and still not potty trained. I'd give my eyeteeth to get that boy out of pull-ups!! He also has a congenital heart defect (tricuspid atresia) and has had three open heart surgeries and a pacemaker implanted.

My soon-to-be-ex was a stay-at-home-dad (we reversed roles 2 years ago), and now that he's been kicked out, I've had to put Michael in public school. What a pain, but he is doing so much better this time around. I may be pumping some of y'all for IEP advice. That's the next step for us.

Cool to see this 'support' group for single parents with special kids. And I'm like y'all, I wouldn't trade Michael for a normal kid... EVER!!

That's what set me off too.

Notice the backstroke? Nice.

DING DING DING!!!

I think Gams hit the nail on the head.

I'm loving those debating skills......