Being married and looking for another is a very good example why genders have the problems we have.........it creates distrust for someone that is actually honest and looking for a great life with someone. Because somewhere later down the road, the same thing happens to the innocent person that wanted the best and thought they found the best...( chain reaction )......STOP CHEATING!!!!!!!!

You got that one right bro!!!

I guess I don't understand why you have Separated in the topic of this...separated is not cheating...separated is none of your business...not cheating.

NO. IT IS NOT MY BUSINESS, BUT IT IS THE BUSINESS OF THE PERSON YOU CHEAT WITH.............

If you are openly relaying the info that you are not officially divorced, but well on the way, which is separated, then it is not cheating. Separated is not with the other person, so free to do as you please. It is up to the other person if they want to get involved.

i totally agree... not cheating at all... am separated... have been for a year and a half.... we are both free to date if we chose... just havent signed the papers... thats all... and i dont lie to anyone about that... if i wanted to my profile would say divorced... but it doesnt...

Exactly Tameka.

SROUNGE UP THE MONEY TO PAY AN ATTORNEY, THEN GET A DIVORCE, PLAIN AND SIMPLE.........THEN POST IT....WHY INVOLVE AN INNOCENT PERSON IN YOUR ISSUES ? COMMON SENSE SAYS LEAVE IT ALONE !!!!!!!!

Separated and well on the way to divorce is NO WHERE near cheating.

Give it up already.

My profile says separated. The divorce should be final by the end of the year. I certainly don't consider myself married or 'taken'.

I DO consider myself available.

What part of they know what they are getting involved in don't you understand??? And who is forcing them to get involved??? And divorce is just a signed peice of paper. Separated is the same mindset of divorce. It's still over. Why not move on? You act like the "innocent" party is left in the dark. They are not. Or at least, most of the time not. These are issues between those people, not to be judged by others, but discussed between the involved parties. Those are the people that matter. Not the outsiders. And that's all i'm going to post on this issue you have with it.

I agree...There is absolutely NO reason why if people aren't happy they can't break up with...divorce or leave the person first...Cheating is just cowardly...sneaky and selfish!!!!!!!!

ok.........I'm single and looking. it's hard to find someone that will be honest with you. My opinion coming from single and looking is if your married --then your married, you made a commitment to someone. If you are divorced -you have broken that commitment and should she others......if you are seperated you are still married and you still have a commitment to the other person. If you don't know what you want......figure it out because to many innocent people get hurt.

you wanna write that check??? And the reason im not divorced has nothing to with money anyway... we live in 2 different states, we are still friends, and we are more concerned with raising our children than going to court.


And because my profile does say i am separated i am not involving anyone into anything... they choose to talk to me... and furthermore, I havent hooked up with anyone here... if you look at my profile it states looking for friends... not looking for @ss....



But you have a great day being judgemental...

THANK YOU MARYMOGIE......YOU VALIDATED MY POINT.............

where did the puritan come from?

I still don't agree.

Separated is NOT the same thing as married. BTW, did I mention my husband (since we're still married) is moving in with his girlfriend this weekend? Maybe y'all need to be talking to him and not me, lol. So, there are no 'innocent' parties being harmed, other than me and my kids.

I'm completely up front and honest about my 'status'. What's the problem with that? He's the one that broke the vows, not me. I'm moving on. And that means right now, not when that stupid piece of paper finally makes its way through the legal system.

being seperated is just that, seperated...so i say just go out and have fun

here, here.

just cause we are only separated, why should we have to wait longer to move on than say someone who breaks up with thier significant other the day before they find thier next date?

SORRY YOU GUYS LIVE IN 2 SEPERATE STATES............WHERE ARE THE FAMILY VALUES IF THERE IS ALL THE CONCERN FOR THE CHILDREN? JOB CHANGE? HMMMMM..........SEEMS MONEY PREVAILS FAMILY VALUES...............