Topic:
Zodiac Signs On Mingle!
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Pisces.
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Thanks. I get what you are saying. I just wanted a smidgen of approval on something .. only because I don't think I've ever gotten any .. even as a teenager. But now that I am an adult, I suppose it's time to just deal with that factor and realize ... that it shouldn't matter. It doesn't matter! You can't please all the people all of the time and there's a point where you have to realize that you shouldn't have to... If people care about you they approve of you b/c they love you and if they don't then so what! Be true to yourself and approve of yourself.. That is all you need.. In the end, if you do all that makes everyone else happy are you happy? I am at that point of realization. I don't know. I've never found that end that has been possible to make everyone else happy. Maybe that's what has drained me all this time. |
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I have recently come to a conclusion. It is impossible to please anyone (especially family), by trying to be "normal" when it is clear you aren't. At the same time, it is highly IMPOSSIBLE to gain any approval when you decide that for old times sake you'd like to be even more different and step outside of the box a little. And just .. breathe It took me this long to start finding myself again. In a sense, I did loose myself ... what I stood for, who I was, who I was suppose to be ... for a few years now. And now that I start feeling like .. me again .. I'm going to be criticized, and shot down. I believe I am surrounded with enough negativity as it is .. why add more? Why are families the root of all things negative? Why do I deserve to be stereotyped and shot down when I decide I want to be a little darker some days? (appearance wise) I don't judge them OR anyone else for that matter. I think I am done trying to be approved by my own family. I'm finally realizing negativity will always reign over any positiveness with them. I should not care. I should worry about me. Am I wrong? Different is always hard to pass off. People do not like different, they are more comfortable with the same as them. I recommend, with as short as life is, you do what makes you happy. Happiness comes from within each of us, noone on the outside gives it to us. I hope that helps. I have found that even if you try to be like them ... it doesnt matter because there is still something you are doing wrong. I am realizing, after all this time that I should do what makes me happy. I have been .. it hasn't been approved, but yet I have not cared. I just wanted to take it up a notch to make myself complete. |
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<---------my parents, inlaws, brothers, relatives would cross the street to pretend they didn't know me, wearing this getup... ...and they would lose out on a hug, a laugh, and a moment of pure joy... ha ha thats great |
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Edited by
WolfEyez
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Sun 09/26/10 01:26 PM
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The problem comes in when you start using other people's standards as if they're something you have to conform to. The problem gets worse when you start using other people's standards as something you have to rebel against. See the common factor here? Other people's standards. You have to find your own. You can waste your whole life trying to please everyone else, and you'll never do it. Why bother? Do what's right for you, be who you are. I think it was always the fact that I am sensitive. Really, who wants to deal with sarcasm and criticism and harsh remarks every time you stop to see those particular people? I think it just hurts a little. It hurt worse when I lived at home. |
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Thanks. I get what you are saying. I just wanted a smidgen of approval on something .. only because I don't think I've ever gotten any .. even as a teenager. But now that I am an adult, I suppose it's time to just deal with that factor and realize ... that it shouldn't matter.
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Topic:
Re-Activated
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Welcome. Cali, huh?
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Topic:
A Funny Ad for Cat Lovers
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I wrote it simply because it works when it comes to my cat. It was like a blessing in disguise. Luckily, he doesn't need it all the time so he does not have an addiction problem.
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I have recently come to a conclusion. It is impossible to please anyone (especially family), by trying to be "normal" when it is clear you aren't. At the same time, it is highly IMPOSSIBLE to gain any approval when you decide that for old times sake you'd like to be even more different and step outside of the box a little. And just .. breathe
It took me this long to start finding myself again. In a sense, I did loose myself ... what I stood for, who I was, who I was suppose to be ... for a few years now. And now that I start feeling like .. me again .. I'm going to be criticized, and shot down. I believe I am surrounded with enough negativity as it is .. why add more? Why are families the root of all things negative? Why do I deserve to be stereotyped and shot down when I decide I want to be a little darker some days? (appearance wise) I don't judge them OR anyone else for that matter. I think I am done trying to be approved by my own family. I'm finally realizing negativity will always reign over any positiveness with them. I should not care. I should worry about me. Am I wrong? |
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Topic:
A Funny Ad for Cat Lovers
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Does your cat have an absurd amount of energy? Does he trade his toys for your bare feet? Does he randomly start play fights that are just too rough? Does your cat "talk" too much and like to get in between walking feet? Do you find he has a jealousy issue while you are on the phone? Maybe he even sits atop the fridge just waiting for you to pass by. Maybe this sounds all too familiar.
If night time howling and high speed chases sound familiar, your furry one may enjoy catnip. Just a small amount or few sprays is enough to create a momentarily burst of energy with satisfying results. Spray or dispose a small amount on any scratch posts, toys or other play items, and wait five to ten minutes. Extra energy, meowing, and floor rolling is temporary, but common. The ending result is exhaustion. Mission accomplished. Now get some sleep because morning is a different story. Catnip -- A burst of energy with exhausting results. ( Not a poem, but still a write ) |
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Topic:
Post a Quote
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"Best friends are like four leaf clovers; Rare to begin with, but a blessing in disguise when found." ~ ME
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Topic:
Nobody reads short stories.
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I love it. Write some more.
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stop playing with it. Just shut it off and take the battery out. leave it to air dry for a full day before you tempt to mess with it. The water will make more damage to the inside the longer you keep the phone on. and insurance on phones do not cover water damage and they can tell if there is water damage if you send the phone back and they will charge you a couple hundred just to get a new phone .. because it has water damage. so try and save it
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dont put it in the sun! I'm the queen of dumping water on my phone. take the battery out of the phone and leave it to air dry for a day or day and a half. you can also put it all in a bowl of rice ... works. my phones have always recovered 90% with minor damage.
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I find it rare nowadays that such kindness still exists. I am glad to know that it finds all of us at times ... probably when we need it the most.
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5
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Two of my friends today dropped everything (school mostly) to go to my grandfather's funeral with me.I thought that was very nice of them and appreciated it, but felt guilty because they did so .. ha ha silly I guess.
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Topic:
Post a Quote
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"Sometimes there are no words. No clever quotes to neatly sum up what's happened that day... sometimes the day... just... ends." -- Hotch from Criminal Minds (forget who originally said it)
"I could choose to be purely good, but I will not. I could choose to be purely evil, but I will not. I will be neutral. In that way I am free to be what suits me best, and no man can predict my actions." -Lycorne "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves." -- Confucius "Things are not always what they seem; the first appearance deceives many; the intelligence of a few perceives what has been carefully hidden." -- Phaedrus |
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Topic:
shenanigans - part 2
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people who've never had irish whiskey apparently.
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I'll remember that.
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