How do you know you've falling 4 the wrong person(e.g) ur boyfriend get drunk always but he is rich and has money 2 throw around,you feel he will change but that the case right now,(2) ur gal nags alot and keeps late nights,how do you tell urself it time 2 break off and look 4 another gal,am talking about when you are really in love with that person,is it easy 4 u 2 leave someone you really love or do you stay and let ur feels be tomemented.IT UP 2 U

When she randomly asks you to dig a hole in the back yard that's exactly 6'x 3'x 6' for no apparent reason......

Now thats funny right there!

When you start posting threads about falling for the wrong person.

Online... it's easy to fall for "aspects" of another.
We see attractive things that excite us and think that this is what we want, see?
But time will have it's way with us... and after a while we begin to see other aspects as well.

Then we have to decide. Are we going to go with what we originally saw, or take in the scope of the whole person?

Most seem too scared to retract their original perception... I'd suggest not to fall for this.
While the original remains true... the additional info has significance too... it's not a contradiction to change your mind based on the newer info, see?

You fell in Love with what you saw... then saw something else. You stop and hesitate.
Crap happens... and you're left alone.

Don't wonder if your your love was real... or try to figure if theirs was too... that's a fool's errand.
Know yourself... they are gone. Move on.

But learn from the pain... players exist and if they played, you... so what?
That says more about them than it does you...

Can you pick-up and move on? I hope that you do...
Being in love... or really, really in love simply doesn't matter to them... but what's it mean to you?
Are you falling too quickly... why are you "falling" at all?
Try a controlled decent instead...
If they love at all... they will wait while you try to figure it out.
If they don't love.. they'll be grumbling everytime you're trying to get ready for the next date.
And the next date is the rest of your lives together...

Many times these things are just communication problems. Sometimes that includes when your partner has fallen out of love with you, but s/he cannot find a comfortable to tell you. Other times, we convince ourselves that we are in love when actually we aren't.

There is only one hard-fast rule for this question: the answer lies in your heart.

Only you know what you want from the relationship. Only you can decide whether you still have faith and trust in your partner. Only you know your partner and your history together well enough to pass judgment. You have all the answers you need, but maybe you feel there is something escaping you....being overlooked. Maybe it is something you are afraid to see. Or maybe you are afraid to start over. Who knows? Only you do. So take time to evaluate the situation from your own personal objective level. You'll find the answer to your question, and then know how to respond.

Love means sticking with him or her. When you are not married, you should develop agape love - give without seeking any advantage for yourself. Filial love is for married couples - Husbands, love your wives and be prepared to give up your life for her. Wives, submit to your husbands. Outside this, love does not exist -romantic love is usually selfish. It is essentially lust. If you understand this, you won't be bitten a second time. Friendship is good; it's agape love. This is wisdom, be wise.

I agree. Your the only one who can choose. Choose Wisely. :)

Damn good stuff...



$.02

I feel that one is falling for the wrong person when that person constantly becomes the source of your agony, of your heart being broken again and again no matter how you try to have a discussion of the feelings he/she causes in you. In other words, being in love to someone who keeps on hurting you is pointless... no reason for you to stay together. I know it's no easy thing to leave someone you love but it is also not easy to be hard on yourself.

a wrong person will want to change you, they will read things into everything you do and make you feel like you're doing something wrong when you're not. they will even conspire with others when they know you well enough to just listen to you. they will disappear on you for no reason other than their own. they will expect you to be there when they get back. they will not let go, they will always fault you, even when they know they were loved.

I always know when there is more
crying than laughing.

well im with someone whom i thought i love?? Hes 16yrs older than i, different nationality and religion, is legally married to another woman in another country with 5 kids. Hes been with me in australia for 6yrs now, we have 2 beautiful kids together and no he hasnt seen his other kids overseas since 2001. mmmmmm love huh? For me it was exciting from the start of our relationship...i fell pregnant quick and then i had problems with my family and then he had problems...anyway to cut a long story short i sufferred with my mental health and now i have schizophrenia!! lol!! Love, to be in love....for me i think love is unconditional and forgiving...always communicating and understanding and to accept the other person with their good and bad.....i think i stay with him because i dream to be in love...but am i in love??? Tell me what does love feel like? Does it feel like pain or feel like your stomach has butterflies in it? I think my love is afraid to be alone...mmmmmm hes my longest relationship and i think its hard to get a partner in the real world...everyone wants just sex or money or both....i just want a good partner, a great dad and to grow old with someone who likes to have a laugh once in a while and to talk about anything and or anything. But i think if the person you are with has too other commitments and baggage...how can they love you completely and honestly??? Yeah well i have to go do my homework now.......i will answer your question about real love when i find it...lol

if he doesnt love u back the way u love him