I was able to (through a few friends and business connects) get a lavish weekend getaway, for myself and a lovely woman I've been seeing periodically, up in Estes Park, CO. It included a 5 Star hotel, dinner at a very fine Banquet, and a free tour guide on some of the back country trails. Needless to say it was completely awesome!! But, when she came to realize that it didn't cost me a thing but gas and tips, she thought that it lost some of its appeal....WTF?? I still had to put it all together no matter how much it cost. So....Am I Cheap.....Or Am I Genius??

whatever it cost, it was either lovely or it wasnt

if it was lovely when she thought it was expensive, it should still be loveiy even if it was ten cents

in fact, in the case of the latter, she should be excited because you are more likely to be able to do it again sometime

Haha, A Lady of quality! ^.^

Wow...Seriously??? I wouldn't complain if a man planned something great like that! The cost doesn't matter...the fact that you pulled favors for a great get away is awesome. You have great friends willing to help you show someone special an amazing time....money can't buy good friends!!!!

unappreciated...what a biotch.

ha ha right

That doesn't say much about your lady friend if she was upset because it didn't cost you anything.

Actually it does :)

cheap or genius? i'd say, neither. you just took the wrong person. an appreciative person would find that awesome. besides that, fun doesn't have to cost a dime.

Well, perspective is everything, right?
Are you going to sit around and try to guess hers, why she thought whatever she may have thought... or move on knowing that you did the best with what life handed you?

I don't think you did a bad thing... so move on.

It is indeed a grand place to be at. Estes park so very beautiful by all means a grand place.

I say it was genius and heres why. Great weekend for little to no over head leaving yourself more money to spend on her later. However she looked a gift horse in the mouth which is kinda stupid on her part cause now the money you saved wont be spent on her but on a new plasma tv for your man cave.

Genius!

It speaks volumes!

..i would say frugal..no genius or else you would have been smart enuf to know how she would react ..genius..

Yes it does!

At first reading, I felt the OP's frustration, then I began thinking about it more...

There could be another side of this story - one that hasn't been brought up. We haven't been told in what terms "it lost some of its appeal". That part has been left open to interpretation by a lack of detail.

Does she think you were trying to impress her when she felt it unnecessary?

Does she now think you are a bit of a mooch or a phony?

Have you ever led her to believe you had more money than you actually have?

For this woman to be a gold-digger, she needs to have the impression there is gold to be dug.

So, I am thinking there may be some miscommunication going on here. Therefore, I have no way to judge where the blame should be laid.

Of all the answers, you are what I feel most correct.