Dear Kitt if we all closed the doors to are heart out of the fear
Of pain.

We would all be alone for the rest of our life's
It's not them because we would never give them a chance
To hurt us fear is a bad thing it can hurt you more than


Your past in a way that is going to lead you to be lonely.

You must learn the past is gone you took care of that
And you do know what to look for now.


So the fear is controlling you now and you must face it
And take back control of your life . To live it to the
Fullest and best way you can .



You already know this and you see whats going on and what's
Holding you back so kick that fear's @zz and move on and be
Happy and smile once again for real in your life not the
Fake one you put on for the world to see you can do it
Dear just take back control and push it out of your life .

Wow, It must be what everyone does when they have been divorced at least once. I know every divorced woman I have gone out with since my own divorce has done that to me......and than they wonder why I never take them out again.


Throw away the list of pros and cons. If you love this guy, just let him know. Why make it so hard? Yes, you do have to be careful.......but you will never find a perfect man or woman. Your main concern should be how he/she treats you. Do they respect you? Is there chemistry? Do you have like interests?

Trust me....if you look for something wrong in anyone...you will find it. Stop looking for what is wrong and focus on what is right.

thanks guys i mean that xoxoxoxo

foxy i love ya!


this is the first time that i have really put my heart out there in a thread that was this close and personal. i was a bit leary knowing how some can be on here, but then i thought what the hell. all my pals came to help, how awesome is that?!?!?! i appreciate everyone's input....

(((madam)))

How are you doing tonight? Sounds like a bunch better than last time I was on.

(((mtn))) you are sooooooooo precious i love ya to pieces im doing ok...little by little...jeff is coming home tomorrow and looking forward to some "us" time and talking some more. he called earlier i told him about the thread i posted here and the support, he says he would like to read it. he is not on this site, but knows i come here to talk to my friends and act silly

how are you tonight darlin?

Kitt, you are one of the most cherished people on here. You have given so much to all of us. If anyone did try to give you grief 17 people would have hit "report post" at once.

A little sore from snowshoeing today and comfortably tired. I am thinking bed will call me early tonight.

I am glad you are doing better, from what I have read we are all her for you.

Amen

you guys really dont know what that means to me!!!

hiker i so love you babe, you been a true friend as well and someone i can always count on to laugh with and cry with i love you pumpkin!!!

you guys are so healthy for me...you just make my heart melt!

i actually had some emails today thanking me for posting this...both men and women were having these issues/feelings and didnt know how to express them. one had them and didnt realize it until reading this post, so im glad that i shared this.

madamx

((((Chevy))))

well "Creative Soul" as usual my post was unpopular and to keep people from hitting that pesty "report abuse button" is why I only repeated what madamk was saying to herself ..if someone truely wants someone they are not going to be doing things to push the person away unless they are playing games theirselves ..

madamx placed the walls up for a reason and the reasons are clear...she just don't want the guy and thinks he's an ass and those facts runs rapid through her posts...that everyone is telling her to jump into this relationship is the reason she should be scared ..don't "believe" you want to be with someone "know" that you want to be with that someone and until you do know then keep it as "friends" or "friends with benefits" or move on or whateverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr ..but atleast to thine ownself be true

What he said.

I will add that you should get your head together before even considering any kind of relationship with anybody. Nobody wants chaos in a relationship. If I was him, I would run, not walk, run to the nearest exit and never return.

JB

thank you for your opinion. i for one am glad that is isnt a runner...that he is willing to help me thru this. of course him have a degree in psych no doubt helps him to understand my fears and help me thru them. life without chaos, oh one can dream. nice thought, but doesnt exist, except for those who are constantly running from the problems instead of helping to solve them. i wouldnt want that sort of person in my life either. but, that is JMO

as for your remark about any kind of relationship with anybody...i am a great friend, one who is always there for those in need so you have absolutely NO right to judge me based on ANY RELATIONSHIP with ANYBODY!!!

Every relationship has problems and just because someone doesn't have their head together does not mean it is bringing chaos into the relationship.

Madam, Jeff is a wonderful man and you are a marvelous woman so you continue what you are doing and as I have stated before, Jeff and you will prevail because if he isn't a wonderful, caring, compassionate man you would not have allowed him into your life. He isn't going to run anywhere and you two will be fine.

I love you and this is JMO

jeff just read that he says you are a very kind woman and a good friend. he agrees fully with what you said.

You are the one who put your problem out there for everyone to comment on. If drama is what you want in your life or don't want, that is what you will manifest as long as you dwell in that place. Fear based decisions are never thought out well, and fear can keep you from living your life to the fullest, and sometimes it can even keep you alive. Living a life in fear is a miserable existence.

Like attracts like. Perhaps your guy likes all the drama. I don't know. I'm not going to comment on these kinds of threads anymore. They are just a trap. If you don't want opinions, don't ask.

that might be a good idea if you are going to throw out blanket statements. i asked for advice on the matter at hand. you on the other hand decided to take it a step farther by stating i should not have any kind of relationship with anybody due to my situation. and telling someone to run from the problem? i am the one trying to run, he is the one trying to solve it. there has been no drama here in this thread. just people stating opnions on the situation, yet you are the only one stating an opinion outside the discussion. i guess everyone could assume that no one walks around without fears. no one has their heads completely clear. no one has all the answers, if we did, then life would be a lot more simple wouldnt it? again, your advice on the situation is appreciated. anything further than that was not! have a great day!