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Why not have open Marrages? Why get married in the first place? |
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Consider the type of women that I attract and am attracted to. See Lilith.... She's up there somewhere.
To think I could handle more then one of her? I may as well reserve a room in the State Mental Institution now. |
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Edited by
lilith401
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Fri 03/14/08 05:45 PM
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Why get married in the first place? because not everyone marries for sex.  Hiker~Ohhhhh.  You fornicator you! That is living in sin!  Jist... I'm down here! 
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and clearly, you are speaking for yourself. I won't marry someone I would cheat on. If I get to the point where I am not happy, I leave. Not everyone cheats, or "thinks about it a billion times". Only someone who is not happy with what they have. Agreed. Why bother to marry if you can't be committed to the one you're with? |
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I've known people that have been involved in an "open" relationship like that before. In both cases the relationship has ended in divorce. i think there was more wrong with the marriage then. i have a couple friend that have done it for years and very much in love. to them...it makes them able to open up and closer with the partner. not saying it's right or wrong...it's a choice they make as a couple |
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I've known people that have been involved in an "open" relationship like that before. In both cases the relationship has ended in divorce. and I have know dozens of people in "closed" marriages that ended in divorce. There is no guarantee. |
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If you really want a relationship like this...why not stay single? Why would you want to drag other people into your tangled web?
I think this is why so many people are afraid to get into a committed relationship because so many people want to cheat before the relationship is even started!! 
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I've known people that have been involved in an "open" relationship like that before. In both cases the relationship has ended in divorce. and I have know dozens of people in "closed" marriages that ended in divorce. There is no guarantee. yep |
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I've known people that have been involved in an "open" relationship like that before. In both cases the relationship has ended in divorce. and I have know dozens of people in "closed" marriages that ended in divorce. There is no guarantee. |
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I'm feelin Jistme's point. If that's the case, then marriage seems like an awful waste of time and energy. The whole point of getting married is to enter into a monogamous committed relationship legally (and spiritually binding). So if that's not the intent, I guess I see no logical reason to do it. 'Open marriage' is an oxymoron. Kinda like 'government organization' committment is in the eye of the beholder. Some people enjoy sharing their love with others in the context of their marriage. Would I do it? No. Would I judge someone else for doing it? No. Next topic. |
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it's not cheating if both approve. like I've said...it's like using toys to them. it's all about the thrill and love with an extra person isn't involved.
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One of my best friends is in a marriage like that. They've been married for 7 1/2 years, and they did set up a few basic rules going in. She explained the arrangement to me, and, frankly, it's too complicated. Both of them have violated those rules on multiple occasions. They're still married and they have two kids.
It would never work for me, though -- not like that. |
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I'm feelin Jistme's point. If that's the case, then marriage seems like an awful waste of time and energy. The whole point of getting married is to enter into a monogamous committed relationship legally (and spiritually binding). So if that's not the intent, I guess I see no logical reason to do it. 'Open marriage' is an oxymoron. Kinda like 'government organization' committment is in the eye of the beholder. Some people enjoy sharing their love with others in the context of their marriage. Would I do it? No. Would I judge someone else for doing it? No. Next topic. 
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sorry but there has to be rules and if they are broken, then there is a problem
it's not for everyone but doesn't make it wrong either. it's a choice and as long as both are ok with it...why judge? no one is getting hurt |
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Why not have open Marrages? People are going to cheat, or think about it a billion times. Just let the other person know before you do it. Have a cheat contract. Before you cheat, you let the other partner sign off on it. I've known people who tried that. It NEVER ends well. A committed, three or four person Poly relationship seems to actually work better than the open marriages. I'm not poly myself. But I've known people for whom it worked out very well. More like the group marraiges you find in a few cultures around the world. I'm to selfish. I don't want to share. |
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I'm feelin Jistme's point. If that's the case, then marriage seems like an awful waste of time and energy. The whole point of getting married is to enter into a monogamous committed relationship legally (and spiritually binding). So if that's not the intent, I guess I see no logical reason to do it. 'Open marriage' is an oxymoron. Kinda like 'government organization' committment is in the eye of the beholder. Some people enjoy sharing their love with others in the context of their marriage. Would I do it? No. Would I judge someone else for doing it? No. Next topic. when they do it together, it's love. Believe me. Nuff said. |
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Why not have open Marrages? People are going to cheat, or think about it a billion times. Just let the other person know before you do it. Have a cheat contract. Before you cheat, you let the other partner sign off on it. I've known people who tried that. It NEVER ends well. A committed, three or four person Poly relationship seems to actually work better than the open marriages. I'm not poly myself. But I've known people for whom it worked out very well. More like the group marraiges you find in a few cultures around the world. I'm to selfish. I don't want to share. i wouldn't say never because for some it does. it's not about a relationship to them. it's no different to them than adding toys or movies etc. |
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I'm feelin Jistme's point. If that's the case, then marriage seems like an awful waste of time and energy. The whole point of getting married is to enter into a monogamous committed relationship legally (and spiritually binding). So if that's not the intent, I guess I see no logical reason to do it. 'Open marriage' is an oxymoron. Kinda like 'government organization' committment is in the eye of the beholder. Some people enjoy sharing their love with others in the context of their marriage. Would I do it? No. Would I judge someone else for doing it? No. Next topic. when they do it together, it's love. Believe me. Nuff said. i think he's saying it's not being in love with the extra person. you can still have wild and crazy sex and make love....love is a feeling...not the action
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Edited by
rtaylor74
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Fri 03/14/08 05:55 PM
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I'm feelin Jistme's point. If that's the case, then marriage seems like an awful waste of time and energy. The whole point of getting married is to enter into a monogamous committed relationship legally (and spiritually binding). So if that's not the intent, I guess I see no logical reason to do it. 'Open marriage' is an oxymoron. Kinda like 'government organization' committment is in the eye of the beholder. Some people enjoy sharing their love with others in the context of their marriage. Would I do it? No. Would I judge someone else for doing it? No. Next topic. No I hear ya, and I know what you're saying. I just guess I subscribe to a different point of view. It's like Ayn Rand's view of sex (objectivism). Sure, sex satisfies a primal physical urge. So does food. So, using that parallel, one could make the conclusion that it's perfectly fine to eat a pound of cooked meat in a cave by yourself and satisfy your hunger... Or... One could share a beautiful meal of say, Fuitt di Mare or Filet Mingon with a bottle of wine, candlelight with someone you love. Same thing with sex. You can bone the first chick you see (and most of us men have) or you can share something hot, beautiful, nasty, erotic, wonderful with someone you have more of a connection to than a couple nights at the bar. Just sayin, if you're gonna get married, then get married. If you know you're not done f**kin around, then do it til you've had enough. Again, my opinion only. The more people think like that, the more the sanctity of family and marriage will be eroded. And trust me, this aint comin from some religious or conservative point of view. I'm bout as unreligious and liberal as a person can be. But at some point, common sense and decency has to appear. |
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Why not have open Marrages? People are going to cheat, or think about it a billion times. Just let the other person know before you do it. Have a cheat contract. Before you cheat, you let the other partner sign off on it.
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