open marriages and cheating are different things

my friends have rules that they follow out of love and respect.

again...it's what they want to do, no one is getting hurt, so I won't judge

committment is in the eye of the beholder. Some people enjoy sharing their love with others in the context of their marriage. Would I do it? No. Would I judge someone else for doing it? No.

Next topic.


Its not sharing love, its sex


when they do it together, it's love.

Believe me. Nuff said.


i think he's saying it's not being in love with the extra person. you can still have wild and crazy sex and make love....love is a feeling...not the action


What I mean is that sometimes a married couple bring in a third person and what they do is an extension of their love for each other. I know wives who have brought in other females as a token of love for their husbands.

lilith I don't know how to do the quote thing - I keep screwing it up

Its not sharing love, its sex


when they do it together, it's love.

Believe me. Nuff said.


i think he's saying it's not being in love with the extra person. you can still have wild and crazy sex and make love....love is a feeling...not the action


What I mean is that sometimes a married couple bring in a third person and what they do is an extension of their love for each other. I know wives who have brought in other females as a token of love for their husbands.


i actually agree with you.

Getting married to me is being inlove with that one you made a commitment with and that is the only way i would ever get married again. having a third party is not being inlove and it takes away what the whole meaning is of being married away.

I thought I was losing my mind for a second...

when they do it together, it's love.

Believe me. Nuff said.


i think he's saying it's not being in love with the extra person. you can still have wild and crazy sex and make love....love is a feeling...not the action


What I mean is that sometimes a married couple bring in a third person and what they do is an extension of their love for each other. I know wives who have brought in other females as a token of love for their husbands.


i actually agree with you.


I knew you would

are you telling me that no one has taken pictures or movies or used toys or pornos during se with their loved one???


all i'm saying is a lot of swingers use the thinking that an extra person is nothing different than those.

and NO i'm not a swinger....just saying

I don't care how many excuses people come up with as far as being married and having a third party. to me it's not a marriage. It's just sex and like some said, whats the point?

Ur not alone... I agree with u too

i like swings.....they're fun...

and what i'm saying is that is your belief and nothing wrong with that. since it's not right for you then that situation wouldn't be good.

but as long as others don't get hurt...let them do it. it's how they view things and i'm not going to tell them they are wrong because it may not be what i believe

just because people may not agree with something doesn't mean it's wrong. That is why I love the USA because i can have my own thoughts and no have others tell me Im wrong for them. If they do...oh well

as long as it's not illegal or hurting someone....who cares. let them have their life. if someone cheats then it's up to their mate to decide to them that person or work it out. that's the beautiful of being able to think for ourselves.

but let's take cheating....is it wrong if someone stays to work it out because they made a commitment or wrong to leave and walk away?

it's our own choice to make these decisions and shouldn't have to be judged because others may not agree

Of course. That is how you feel. Some people feel differently. For you , it would not be love. For some people, it is. All people express love differently. There is not only one way.

My ex and I had a partially open marriage.....only problem was it was only "open" on his side....AND he forgot to tell me about it..........no need to marry if you want to screw around..

that was not what we were talking about. It was about a mutually agreed thing.

sorry that happened to you. but cheating and an open marriage are different

cheating isn't right an very hurtful

Ladies, it was a lighthearted statement......I do actually know the difference between cheating and "open marriages". I am a PSO, fo Pete's sake. I hear things that would knock your socks off. Open marriage may not but cheating, however it really shouldn't even be considered a marriage, either. It makes marriage a meaningless committment. Save marriage for those who want to committ only to one person.....foresaking all others 'til death do them part. If you can't call gay unions a marriage, you shouldn't call "open marriages" a marriage. Doing so makes makes that marriage an abomination. Why don't they rename open marriages " revolving door unions" ?

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