Topic: Are you wondering where all the nice guys are?
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Wed 03/05/08 12:44 AM
Just had time to read page one so far, of this thread:

Thought this article below might help offer a different perspective.....

Hope this helps.:smile:

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"The Nice Guy Syndrome"

"I'm one of the nicest guys I know."
"How come I always seem to give so much more than I get?"
"All I want is to be appreciated, is that asking too much?"
"I can never do it right."

Sound familiar? These are typical Nice Guy sentiments. A nice guy's primary goal is to make others happy. Nice guys have been conditioned to believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, they will be loved, get what they want, and have a smooth life.

Who is a nice guy?

He is the relative who lets his wife run the show.
He is the friend who will do anything for anybody, but whose own life seems to be in shambles.
He is the guy who frustrates his wife because he is so afraid of conflict that nothing ever gets resolved.
He is the boss who tells one person what they want to hear, then reverses himself to please someone else.
He is the man who lets people walk all over him because he doesn't want to rock the boat.
He is the dependable guy at work who will never say "no," but would never tell anyone if they were imposing on him.
He is the man whose life seems so under control, until BOOM, one day he does something to destroy it all.
In general, nice guys share the following characteristics:

Nice guys seek the approval of others.
Nice guys try to hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.
Nice guys put other people's needs and wants before their own.
Nice guys sacrifice their personal power and often play the role of a victim.
Nice guys tend to be disconnected from other men and from their own masculine energy.
Nice guys co-create relationships that are less than satisfying.
Nice guys create situations in which they do not have very much good sex.
Nice guys frequently fail to live up their full potential.
If the characteristics listed above fit you or someone you know, read on. No More Mr. Nice Guy! presents a proven plan to help passively pleasing men stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in love and life.

"The Nice Guy Syndrome " by Dr. Robert Glover


© 1999-2008 Robert A. Glover, Ph.D. All rights reserved.


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Wed 03/05/08 12:53 AM

May I add.....

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a Nice Guy.... as long as a guy is being Nice for all the RIGHT reasons...and not the wrong reasons.....

I have met many wonderful Nice guys like this..and I would have it no other way.....

Be Blessed and Encouraged ...Everyone

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 03/05/08 12:58 AM
Morning Song you are beautiful.. I love you!!!

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Wed 03/05/08 01:20 AM
Edited by MorningSong on Wed 03/05/08 01:52 AM
Sometimes guys ARE being Nice Guys for all the RIGHT reasons, and still aren't appreciated for who they are.
This happens a lot, too.

And to these Nice guys out there ..... stay true to YOU , cause a RIGHT Lady WILL come along..all in due season.

But in the meantime, all the wrong relationships, can serve as steppingstones ,towards meeting that RIGHT one out there.....and can actually BETTER prepare YOU for that right person, still to come.

Trust me, there ARE still women out there, who WILL appreciate You ,for being a Truly Nice Guy !!
:smile:

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for Princess:
(awe Princess ,YOU are the Beautiful One, ..flowerforyou )

TheShadow's photo
Wed 03/05/08 01:23 AM
drinker :wink:

bad_girl's photo
Wed 03/05/08 01:24 AM
Well said (((morning))) and hopefully the right one will see and hearflowerforyou

Sometimes guys ARE being Nice Guys for all the RIGHT reasons, and still aren't appreciated for who they are.
This happens a lot, too.

And to these Nice guys out there ..... stay true to YOU , cause a RIGHT Lady WILL come along..all in due season.

But in the meantime, all the wrong relationships, can serve as steppingstones ,towards meeting that RIGHT one out there.....and can actually BETTER prepare YOU for that right person, still to come.

Trst me, there ARE still women out there, who WILL appreciate You ,for being a Truly Nice Guy !!
:smile:

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for Princess:
(awe Princess ,YOU are Beautiful One, ..flowerforyou )

chevylover1965's photo
Wed 03/05/08 01:25 AM

Sometimes guys ARE being Nice Guys for all the RIGHT reasons, and still aren't appreciated for who they are.
This happens a lot, too.

And to these Nice guys out there ..... stay true to YOU , cause a RIGHT Lady WILL come along..all in due season.

But in the meantime, all the wrong relationships, can serve as steppingstones ,towards meeting that RIGHT one out there.....and can actually BETTER prepare YOU for that right person, still to come.

Trst me, there ARE still women out there, who WILL appreciate You ,for being a Truly Nice Guy !!
:smile:

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for Princess:
(awe Princess ,YOU are Beautiful One, ..flowerforyou )
thank you !flowerforyou

Natethegreat22's photo
Wed 03/05/08 01:26 AM
I am proud to be nice!

drinker

papersmile's photo
Wed 03/05/08 01:39 AM
are you wondering what happened to the nice guys?


no, not really

Natethegreat22's photo
Wed 03/05/08 01:42 AM
you hurt my feelings pretty lady, NOT!..



Jim519's photo
Wed 03/05/08 02:20 AM
wow, this thread went a loooong time!

smuflicker's photo
Wed 03/05/08 02:37 AM
hell theres a nice guy right here. anyone want me. yea lol

joshyfox's photo
Wed 03/05/08 02:41 AM
Am I a nice guy? Maybe...

Am I a Bad Boy? Perhaps...



I think I'm really just... Me!


I just hope to find the girl who happens to be looking for Me... :smile:

smuflicker's photo
Wed 03/05/08 02:44 AM

Am I a nice guy? Maybe...

Am I a Bad Boy? Perhaps...



I think I'm really just... Me!


I just hope to find the girl who happens to be looking for Me... :smile:
ok, i agree with that

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 03/05/08 03:16 AM

wow, this thread went a loooong time!


um do ya think he p*ssed Princess off?

StatGirl's photo
Wed 03/05/08 04:08 AM


Could people stop quoting the Original Post? It hurts my eyes.


I think it's posted on the internet somewhere anyway..statsgirl got the scoop on that


LMAO @ "Original"

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Wed 03/05/08 07:44 AM
Just thought Id check in and see how everyone is this fine morning

chuck366's photo
Wed 03/05/08 07:44 AM
I am right here

curios789's photo
Wed 03/05/08 08:40 AM
This sh*t is still going?

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Wed 03/05/08 09:42 AM



Could people stop quoting the Original Post? It hurts my eyes.


I think it's posted on the internet somewhere anyway..statsgirl got the scoop on that


LMAO @ "Original"


haha I just got that.... I keep telling people to talk slow for me.....laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh