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 I guess that while it sucks that nice guys get hurt, it also sucks that nice girls get hurt. You should judge people by actions not gender! JMO |
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<<<<<<<sits in the corner drinking a beer.
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All the women are going to give this look  but in reality most are what this post talk about. Looking for something that isn't there and end up ****ing themselves once again I wonder how many will get mad and maybey they should..... Just women?? I've seen some pretty poor choices made by men also!!
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Edited by
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Tue 03/04/08 05:31 PM
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quite an interesting perspective. As much as I hate to admit it, I used to be a real butthole to women, felt they were for one use and one use only. I discovered that I did not like myself, so I changed. Since then, dates are few and far between.
 Hold the door for some lady that you do't know and you are likely to get "the look", offer to help them with something, and they are likely to call the cops. But, give her the finger and say "F*** off, biotch" and then ask her out. 9 times out of ten she'll accept. Like WTF? For myself, I no longer care. I will continue to be a "nice" guy, because I like myself lots better that way. and I am not "picking" on anyone in particular, just, a little introspection, and if the shoe fits, then wear it. |
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I met a "nice guy" and I am still with him. Now, is he "nice" all the time? Nope. Does he say he is "nice"? Nope. But neither am I.
Is he a doormat? Absolutely not. He stands up to me, as I need that in a man. Call me on my shyt or eat it. And I do the same in return. But I think he is more than "nice". He is kind and patient, courteous and loving, considerate, empathetic and warm. So there! 
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All the women are going to give this look but in reality most are what this post talk about. Looking for something that isn't there and end up ****ing themselves once again I wonder how many will get mad and maybey they should..... Just women?? I've seen some pretty poor choices made by men also!! No not just women, but if women are getting mad at this. That tells me a little bit about them..... why be consernd if it has nothing to do with you. Not you, just women in gerenal. I myself have never put a women through this and it's because I been through it so why put them through the pain if you were to say.
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<<<<<<<sits in the corner drinking a beer. Thank God you're back geesh the people looking for you! |
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<-------- nice guy here & still looking
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All the women are going to give this look but in reality most are what this post talk about. Looking for something that isn't there and end up ****ing themselves once again I wonder how many will get mad and maybey they should..... Just women?? I've seen some pretty poor choices made by men also!! No not just women, but if women are getting mad at this. That tells me a little bit about them..... why be consernd if it has nothing to do with you. Not you, just women in gerenal. I myself have never put a women through this and it's because I been through it so why put them through the pain if you were to say. I am not going to say that it doesn't happen because it does. What I am saying is that words like "all" or even "most" are very offensive to me because it making assumptions about a gender instead of a person. |
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As I look over the many profiles here, the one thing that I see a lot is: Where are all the nice guys, or just looking for a nice guy, or are all the nice guys taken, etc… you get the idea. So what happened to all the nice guys? The answer is simple: You did. Think back, really hard and maybe you will vaguely remember a nice guy who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He would tag along with you when you went shopping. He would stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely, but didn't feel like going out. He would even sit there and hold you and listen while you sobbed and told him about how much of an asshole the other guy that you were ****ing was. Perhaps at the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how much he was like a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They may have even teased you a little because they thought he had a crush on you. Of course you denied having any romantic feelings for him, and claimed that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was maybe a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease. Eventually, your nice guy buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, since you weren’t dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, What happened to all the “nice guys“? Well, once again, It was you. You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “nice guy“. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open, or make dinners just because, or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned that you really wanted five months ago, or listen when you were upset, or held you when you cried. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the asshole boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be. Fact is now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of “nice guys” stumble into their lives, if that. So ladies, if you're looking for the “nice guy“, here's what you should do: 1.) Build a time machine. 2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass. 3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it. I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a “nice guy“, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you. That is, if you were five years younger. So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. After all your getting older. It's time to can the bull**** and deal with the reality. You didn't want a “nice guy” then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you now. On the other hand. The nice guy might still be right here, perpetrating a badass just to see what you will do. The Outlaw Wolf Well the enlightenment was such a revelation to ALL women... I am so glad that we stumbled upon the well thought out (must have taken years) post so that you could tell us what AS$HOLES ALL WOMEN ARE... But it makes one think.. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm let's see that really nice girl that the guys wouldn't go out with b/c she was a little heavy or didn't dress so stylish or her teeth were buck... But you know NONE OF THOSE GUYS HAD THEIR HEADS UP THEIR A$$ES DID THEY?? Nope just women... It's unfortunate that you feel screwed over but here's the thing... IF you're friends with the opposite sex then you draw the line at interest and if you are interested then you need to grow the ba!!s to tell her otherwise she might be oblivious to the fact that you like her for more than a friend... One can't deal with something one isn't aware of.. Your post is no friggin different than guys wanting to date hot chicks with big boobs.. Did you really think you came up with something new? I suggest you get over yourself, pull your head out of your a$$ and go out with an ugly chick! Then when you've redone your house and taken out all the glass, you come back and cast a stone!!!! 
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All the women are going to give this look but in reality most are what this post talk about. Looking for something that isn't there and end up ****ing themselves once again I wonder how many will get mad and maybey they should..... Just women?? I've seen some pretty poor choices made by men also!! No not just women, but if women are getting mad at this. That tells me a little bit about them..... why be consernd if it has nothing to do with you. Not you, just women in gerenal. I myself have never put a women through this and it's because I been through it so why put them through the pain if you were to say. Sorry Shadow is says nothing except he got screwed over so he's generalizing all women... As a matter of fact I'd say he's one of those a$$hole guys he says ALL women like.. Let's see how many dates he gets from this post... |
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As I look over the many profiles here, the one thing that I see a lot is: Where are all the nice guys, or just looking for a nice guy, or are all the nice guys taken, etc… you get the idea. So what happened to all the nice guys? The answer is simple: You did. Think back, really hard and maybe you will vaguely remember a nice guy who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He would tag along with you when you went shopping. He would stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely, but didn't feel like going out. He would even sit there and hold you and listen while you sobbed and told him about how much of an asshole the other guy that you were ****ing was. Perhaps at the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how much he was like a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They may have even teased you a little because they thought he had a crush on you. Of course you denied having any romantic feelings for him, and claimed that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was maybe a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease. Eventually, your nice guy buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, since you weren’t dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, What happened to all the “nice guys“? Well, once again, It was you. You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “nice guy“. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open, or make dinners just because, or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned that you really wanted five months ago, or listen when you were upset, or held you when you cried. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the asshole boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be. Fact is now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of “nice guys” stumble into their lives, if that. So ladies, if you're looking for the “nice guy“, here's what you should do: 1.) Build a time machine. 2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass. 3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it. I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a “nice guy“, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you. That is, if you were five years younger. So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. After all your getting older. It's time to can the bull**** and deal with the reality. You didn't want a “nice guy” then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you now. On the other hand. The nice guy might still be right here, perpetrating a badass just to see what you will do. The Outlaw Wolf Well the enlightenment was such a revelation to ALL women... I am so glad that we stumbled upon the well thought out (must have taken years) post so that you could tell us what AS$HOLES ALL WOMEN ARE... But it makes one think.. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm let's see that really nice girl that the guys wouldn't go out with b/c she was a little heavy or didn't dress so stylish or her teeth were buck... But you know NONE OF THOSE GUYS HAD THEIR HEADS UP THEIR A$$ES DID THEY?? Nope just women... It's unfortunate that you feel screwed over but here's the thing... IF you're friends with the opposite sex then you draw the line at interest and if you are interested then you need to grow the ba!!s to tell her otherwise she might be oblivious to the fact that you like her for more than a friend... One can't deal with something one isn't aware of.. Your post is no friggin different than guys wanting to date hot chicks with big boobs.. Did you really think you came up with something new? I suggest you get over yourself, pull your head out of your a$$ and go out with an ugly chick! Then when you've redone your house and taken out all the glass, you come back and cast a stone!!!! Princess Id date a buck tooth chic they give good PFOOFFF JOBS |
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Good Sat night you and me....
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As I look over the many profiles here, the one thing that I see a lot is: Where are all the nice guys, or just looking for a nice guy, or are all the nice guys taken, etc… you get the idea. So what happened to all the nice guys? The answer is simple: You did. Think back, really hard and maybe you will vaguely remember a nice guy who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He would tag along with you when you went shopping. He would stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely, but didn't feel like going out. He would even sit there and hold you and listen while you sobbed and told him about how much of an asshole the other guy that you were ****ing was. Perhaps at the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how much he was like a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They may have even teased you a little because they thought he had a crush on you. Of course you denied having any romantic feelings for him, and claimed that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was maybe a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease. Eventually, your nice guy buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, since you weren’t dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, What happened to all the “nice guys“? Well, once again, It was you. You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “nice guy“. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open, or make dinners just because, or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned that you really wanted five months ago, or listen when you were upset, or held you when you cried. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the asshole boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be. Fact is now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of “nice guys” stumble into their lives, if that. So ladies, if you're looking for the “nice guy“, here's what you should do: 1.) Build a time machine. 2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass. 3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it. I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a “nice guy“, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you. That is, if you were five years younger. So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. After all your getting older. It's time to can the bull**** and deal with the reality. You didn't want a “nice guy” then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you now. On the other hand. The nice guy might still be right here, perpetrating a badass just to see what you will do. The Outlaw Wolf Well the enlightenment was such a revelation to ALL women... I am so glad that we stumbled upon the well thought out (must have taken years) post so that you could tell us what AS$HOLES ALL WOMEN ARE... But it makes one think.. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm let's see that really nice girl that the guys wouldn't go out with b/c she was a little heavy or didn't dress so stylish or her teeth were buck... But you know NONE OF THOSE GUYS HAD THEIR HEADS UP THEIR A$$ES DID THEY?? Nope just women... It's unfortunate that you feel screwed over but here's the thing... IF you're friends with the opposite sex then you draw the line at interest and if you are interested then you need to grow the ba!!s to tell her otherwise she might be oblivious to the fact that you like her for more than a friend... One can't deal with something one isn't aware of.. Your post is no friggin different than guys wanting to date hot chicks with big boobs.. Did you really think you came up with something new? I suggest you get over yourself, pull your head out of your a$$ and go out with an ugly chick! Then when you've redone your house and taken out all the glass, you come back and cast a stone!!!! Your so beautiful when you get angry Love it!..Right by your side baby! |
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Hey... quote heavies... lay off. Please?
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stlen from joke thread but pretty much sums it up
---------------- The Husband Store A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates: You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs. She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads: Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids. "That's nice", she thinks, "but I want more." So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking. "Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads: Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous and Help With Housework. "Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!" Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads: Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. PLEASE NOTE: To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street. The first floor has wives that love sex. The second floor has wives that love sex and have money. The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited. SO WHAT DOES THIS TELL US ABOUT MEN GIRLS??? ------------------------ women want to much and guys settle to soon |
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ive dated my fair share of unfortuante looking women based SOLEY on personality. thats another thing that i gained from being a rejected nice guy.
this isnt an overgeneralization either. women do not respect "nice guy" types. you see it as bootlicking and weakness. women think they do but its much much different in practice. im not saying women like to be treated like **** or dont enjoy kindness (both of which i still give in abundance) but presenting it directly and honestly will not work for a man who isnt physically attractive. |
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As I sit back and watch the response to this post, I feel that it has indeed accomplished it’s purpose so far. I have posted this before at another dating site where the response was not this good.
The post itself, while aimed at women in this case, surely doesn’t exclude men, and in no way should it be said that women don’t get hurt as well, I’m sure they do. The whole point of the post is basically, Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you are going to go out with a player, then accept your own fate. Am I a “nice guy”?, at times. Am I an asshole?, at times. But am I afraid to say it?, never. After all I am a real Outlaw, what do you expect. Outlaws are the nicest people you will ever meet. BTW guys while you are figuring out just which way this will go, I can honestly say that it has gotten me several visits from many women that I may have never even seen. Good luck. |
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