Topic: Things I Love About Men
gaijingirl's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:08 PM
Edited by gaijingirl on Sun 03/02/08 07:11 PM
My boyfriend (who I met on this site, by the way)offers to drive, carry the groceries, pay for going out, and fixes my computer. Not because I am incapable (although, I am with the computer)but because he is a gentleman and considerate. His car is newer, carrying groceries hurts my bad knee, and I cook when we are at home. If anything, it shows that we are equals because he appreciates all the things I do and this is how he shows me.

Also, when you meet the right one, there is nothing more freeing (and scary) then trusting someone enough to be vunerable with him. That's not feigning weakness, it's the riskiest and bravest thing you can do.

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Sun 03/02/08 07:08 PM
Edited by bassman1959 on Sun 03/02/08 07:10 PM




My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it




I would be very bothered by a man I had to pretend to be dependent on. If you have to feign weakness in order for him to feel like a man, what's the point?


It's not a matter of feigning weakness or pretending to be dependent on...it's allowing them to do what they do. Everyone needs to feel needed. I am very independent, spent more of my life single than as a couple, but I still recognize there are things I cannot do that a man can, things I might be able to get accomplished on my own, but I'd rather have man's assistance with.

If you do not allow them to show you they care, they love you, allow them to feel needed......then what's the point?



If you want to be loved, you have to allow yourself to be loved. These days it is really hard to find a woman that really wants to be loved. I see a lot of bitterness in some of the posts.

But instead of cutting wood and gassing up the cars, what else is there? Isn't there anyone that just enjoys intelligent conversation? How about just sitting there watching a good movie on TV with a guy knowing that you are safe? Once you have been married and divorced you start to look for things you didn't think of when you were younger. I know there are a LOT of things I look for in a woman now. Maybe I am picky....or maybe it's because I really did learn something about myself. One thing I learned is no matter how much you do for someone...it won't make any difference if the don't love you.

bgeorge's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:11 PM
i love everything about men...the good the bad and the uglyflowerforyou

Beachfarmer's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:12 PM

i love everything about men...the good the bad and the uglyflowerforyou




We can't all be like Clint.

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:13 PM





My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it




I would be very bothered by a man I had to pretend to be dependent on. If you have to feign weakness in order for him to feel like a man, what's the point?


It's not a matter of feigning weakness or pretending to be dependent on...it's allowing them to do what they do. Everyone needs to feel needed. I am very independent, spent more of my life single than as a couple, but I still recognize there are things I cannot do that a man can, things I might be able to get accomplished on my own, but I'd rather have man's assistance with.

If you do not allow them to show you they care, they love you, allow them to feel needed......then what's the point?



If you want to be loved, you have to allow yourself to be loved. These days it is really hard to find a woman that really wants to be loved. I see a lot of bitterness in some of the posts.

But instead of cutting wood and gassing up the cars, what else is there? Isn't there anyone that just enjoys intelligent conversation? How about just sitting there watching a good movie on TV with a guy knowing that you are safe? Once you have been married and divorced you start to look for things you didn't think of when you were younger. I knwo there are a LOT of things I look for in a woman now. Maybe I am picky....or maybe it's because I really did learn something about myself. One thing I learned is no matter how much you do for someone...it won't make any difference if the don't love you.


well, see that's the thing. I can gas up my own car but I can't make myself laugh (usually) or keep myself company. I want someone who can teach me something..not do my chores for me. i guess I am picky too..or maybe psycho...

bassman1959's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:15 PM






My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it




I would be very bothered by a man I had to pretend to be dependent on. If you have to feign weakness in order for him to feel like a man, what's the point?


It's not a matter of feigning weakness or pretending to be dependent on...it's allowing them to do what they do. Everyone needs to feel needed. I am very independent, spent more of my life single than as a couple, but I still recognize there are things I cannot do that a man can, things I might be able to get accomplished on my own, but I'd rather have man's assistance with.

If you do not allow them to show you they care, they love you, allow them to feel needed......then what's the point?



If you want to be loved, you have to allow yourself to be loved. These days it is really hard to find a woman that really wants to be loved. I see a lot of bitterness in some of the posts.

But instead of cutting wood and gassing up the cars, what else is there? Isn't there anyone that just enjoys intelligent conversation? How about just sitting there watching a good movie on TV with a guy knowing that you are safe? Once you have been married and divorced you start to look for things you didn't think of when you were younger. I knwo there are a LOT of things I look for in a woman now. Maybe I am picky....or maybe it's because I really did learn something about myself. One thing I learned is no matter how much you do for someone...it won't make any difference if the don't love you.


well, see that's the thing. I can gas up my own car but I can't make myself laugh (usually) or keep myself company. I want someone who can teach me something..not do my chores for me. i guess I am picky too..or maybe psycho...


Hey Hikerchick,

Would you like my opinion?

Poetrywriter's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:16 PM

My boyfriend (who I met on this site, by the way)offers to drive, carry the groceries, pay for going out, and fixes my computer. Not because I am incapable (although, I am with the computer)but because he is a gentleman and considerate. His car is newer, carrying groceries hurts my bad knee, and I cook when we are at home. If anything, it shows that we are equals because he appreciates all the things I do and this is how he shows me.

Also, when you meet the right one, there is nothing more freeing (and scary) then trusting someone enough to be vunerable with him. That's not feigning weakness, it's the riskiest and bravest thing you can do.


Amen on that! And congrats on finding the right one!

no photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:17 PM
My ingenuity.

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:18 PM







My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it




I would be very bothered by a man I had to pretend to be dependent on. If you have to feign weakness in order for him to feel like a man, what's the point?


It's not a matter of feigning weakness or pretending to be dependent on...it's allowing them to do what they do. Everyone needs to feel needed. I am very independent, spent more of my life single than as a couple, but I still recognize there are things I cannot do that a man can, things I might be able to get accomplished on my own, but I'd rather have man's assistance with.

If you do not allow them to show you they care, they love you, allow them to feel needed......then what's the point?



If you want to be loved, you have to allow yourself to be loved. These days it is really hard to find a woman that really wants to be loved. I see a lot of bitterness in some of the posts.

But instead of cutting wood and gassing up the cars, what else is there? Isn't there anyone that just enjoys intelligent conversation? How about just sitting there watching a good movie on TV with a guy knowing that you are safe? Once you have been married and divorced you start to look for things you didn't think of when you were younger. I knwo there are a LOT of things I look for in a woman now. Maybe I am picky....or maybe it's because I really did learn something about myself. One thing I learned is no matter how much you do for someone...it won't make any difference if the don't love you.


well, see that's the thing. I can gas up my own car but I can't make myself laugh (usually) or keep myself company. I want someone who can teach me something..not do my chores for me. i guess I am picky too..or maybe psycho...


Hey Hikerchick,

Would you like my opinion?


yes, unless you are going to say that I am being a baby and a thread hog because I already know this.

chevylover1965's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:19 PM
i like it !flowerforyou

bassman1959's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:19 PM








My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it




I would be very bothered by a man I had to pretend to be dependent on. If you have to feign weakness in order for him to feel like a man, what's the point?


It's not a matter of feigning weakness or pretending to be dependent on...it's allowing them to do what they do. Everyone needs to feel needed. I am very independent, spent more of my life single than as a couple, but I still recognize there are things I cannot do that a man can, things I might be able to get accomplished on my own, but I'd rather have man's assistance with.

If you do not allow them to show you they care, they love you, allow them to feel needed......then what's the point?



If you want to be loved, you have to allow yourself to be loved. These days it is really hard to find a woman that really wants to be loved. I see a lot of bitterness in some of the posts.

But instead of cutting wood and gassing up the cars, what else is there? Isn't there anyone that just enjoys intelligent conversation? How about just sitting there watching a good movie on TV with a guy knowing that you are safe? Once you have been married and divorced you start to look for things you didn't think of when you were younger. I knwo there are a LOT of things I look for in a woman now. Maybe I am picky....or maybe it's because I really did learn something about myself. One thing I learned is no matter how much you do for someone...it won't make any difference if the don't love you.


well, see that's the thing. I can gas up my own car but I can't make myself laugh (usually) or keep myself company. I want someone who can teach me something..not do my chores for me. i guess I am picky too..or maybe psycho...


Hey Hikerchick,

Would you like my opinion?


yes, unless you are going to say that I am being a baby and a thread hog because I already know this.


Nope, I wasn't going to say that. Still want it?

no photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:20 PM

come on ..if the guys did a column about what they like about women, strap ons would be in there somewhere


Well....let's just see.......

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:20 PM
Bassman, yes, give it to me

egoodrich's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:23 PM

Sweet little ways they have of showing they love you that they'd never admit to their buddies.


i am so guilty of thisbigsmile

bassman1959's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:24 PM

Bassman, yes, give it to me


Ok, This is a dating site. Right now.....just bassed on what I have seen here you are a very bitter woman. What makes you think any man would want to date a woman with your attitude? Like I said earlier....If you want to be loved you have to allow yourself to be loved. When are you going to allow it?

bgeorge's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:24 PM


i love everything about men...the good the bad and the uglyflowerforyou




We can't all be like Clint.

touche'

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:28 PM


I love men.never had a negative experience with a man ,its the assholes that frost my cupcakes.explode




flowerforyou That's right Jax......not all guys bring sh!tfrost to the bake sale.

amen my friend !

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:29 PM


Bassman, yes, give it to me


Ok, This is a dating site. Right now.....just bassed on what I have seen here you are a very bitter woman. What makes you think any man would want to date a woman with your attitude? Like I said earlier....If you want to be loved you have to allow yourself to be loved. When are you going to allow it?


Just out of curiousity ,why do you say I am bitter? And what is it about my attitude specifically do you see as problematic? I may consider allowing someone to love me when someone decides to try, but I am in no hurry. Sorry, but love is scary, you know? there is just so much at risk. I honestly dont' feel bitter, though..I am not angry at anyone, certainly not men - some of my best friends are men.

I wonder if you are saying that a woman has to be all hearts and flowers in order to be loved - if that is the case, I am doomed. I am more into bawdy humor than romance novels. Does that make a woman unlovable?

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:31 PM


Bassman, yes, give it to me


Ok, This is a dating site. Right now.....just bassed on what I have seen here you are a very bitter woman. What makes you think any man would want to date a woman with your attitude? Like I said earlier....If you want to be loved you have to allow yourself to be loved. When are you going to allow it?

I don't know her background but having been in relationships with controlling,abusive a-holes.I wasn't in too much of a rush to bring a man into my life.Sometimes ya don't want to deal with the drama.I don't think she's bitter,I think she faces life with a good dose of humor and sarcasm.rock on hiker

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 07:31 PM


Bassman, yes, give it to me


Ok, This is a dating site. Right now.....just bassed on what I have seen here you are a very bitter woman. What makes you think any man would want to date a woman with your attitude? Like I said earlier....If you want to be loved you have to allow yourself to be loved. When are you going to allow it?


whats interesting to me is that you would say this after I quoted you and posted pretty much agreeing with everything you said. But you are entitled to your opinions, and I thank you for your honesty.