Topic: Things I Love About Men
hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:43 PM
I fix my own stuff..take my own garbage out..pump my own gas..I don't think I would want someone trying to do things for me that I can do for myself. I'm not a child.

lilith401's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:43 PM


My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it

Agreed. Having coffee brought to me in bed is priceless.

lilith401's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:44 PM

I fix my own stuff..take my own garbage out..pump my own gas..I don't think I would want someone trying to do things for me that I can do for myself. I'm not a child.


Hiker, so do I. In fact, I struggle with letting someone do for me. But it is the idea behind it that I find touching. To have someone do things for me that they think will make my life easier is touching.... and when it comes with the saying that those things are done to be able to spend more time with me? No argument here.

no photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:45 PM

I fix my own stuff..take my own garbage out..pump my own gas..I don't think I would want someone trying to do things for me that I can do for myself. I'm not a child.


It's not a matter of being a child. It is allowing someone, giving them the opportunity to show us, in whatever way they know, they love us.

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:46 PM


My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it


I would be very bothered by a man I had to pretend to be dependent on. If you have to feign weakness in order for him to feel like a man, what's the point?

Beachfarmer's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:46 PM

they can take out the garbage ..
They can hold me after a night mare

the fix stuff even if it is not broken


I can usually find the remote in thier hand ..




laugh If you get lucky....one might even match your cynicism.

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:48 PM


I fix my own stuff..take my own garbage out..pump my own gas..I don't think I would want someone trying to do things for me that I can do for myself. I'm not a child.


It's not a matter of being a child. It is allowing someone, giving them the opportunity to show us, in whatever way they know, they love us.


I guess the whole idea scares me. The idea of giving up my independence, bit by bit, until some dude is controlling my life again. Kinda makes me want to run screaming.

So maybe I am not quite ready for a relationship.. because I know that all the things you ladies are saying should be giving me warm fuzzies instead of cold sweats.

It's me. Carry on. flowerforyou

lilith401's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:48 PM
Hiker, it's not feigning weakness, it's allowing them to do to help. They know you're capable.

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:49 PM
Awwww just had to remind me all the little things I do miss not having a man around sweet memories bigsmile


It has nothing to do with doing the handyman things can do most of them myself I miss the touch mainly.bigsmile

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:49 PM
Edited by hikerchick on Sun 03/02/08 06:51 PM

Hiker, it's not feigning weakness, it's allowing them to do to help. They know you're capable.


I'm just not there yet, lilith.

Sometimes there are good reasons for being single. flowerforyou

lcjw's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:50 PM

Things I love about men...


Having one around. ohwell :wink: drinker


I am with you all the way Teddy!

lilith401's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:51 PM


Hiker, it's not feigning weakness, it's allowing them to do to help. They know you're capable.


I'm just not there, yet lilith.

Sometimes there are good reasons for being single. flowerforyou


I understand. It's not easy for me either. I'm pretty independent. Plus I own a drill, and tools.... flowerforyou

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:52 PM



Hiker, it's not feigning weakness, it's allowing them to do to help. They know you're capable.


I'm just not there, yet lilith.

Sometimes there are good reasons for being single. flowerforyou


I understand. It's not easy for me either. I'm pretty independent. Plus I own a drill, and tools.... flowerforyou


Lilith, I have a chain saw..and I can operate a gas-powered log splitter.

I would just hate to give all that up to bake cookies....

Beachfarmer's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:54 PM




Hiker, it's not feigning weakness, it's allowing them to do to help. They know you're capable.


I'm just not there, yet lilith.

Sometimes there are good reasons for being single. flowerforyou


I understand. It's not easy for me either. I'm pretty independent. Plus I own a drill, and tools.... flowerforyou


Lilith, I have a chain saw..and I can operate a gas-powered log splitter.

I would just hate to give all that up to bake cookies....



and if you did...you'd prolly need those tools just to cut the coookies

lilith401's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:54 PM
Hiker... laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

EtherealEmbers's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:54 PM
Not all of us ladies have been able to appreciate or even have any clue of what the sweet little things are that guys do, because some of us have been through too many bad things to be able to notice the sweet little things... or they were completely lacking to begin with.

I'll never give up hope that I can find that sweetness. I've seen a glimpse on rare occasion.

LIJOMA's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:54 PM
Can I order one of those, who does all that?

tngxl65's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:54 PM



My sister's husband was the guy who gassed up the cars and cleaned them every weekend. He checked her gas gauge all the time, as he hated the idea of her having to pump her own gas. I think that is very sweet. It'd be sweeter if they were still together, but the idea of it... I like.


Some really do have their ways of letting us know they care...sometimes it's a matter of us just getting out of their way, being a 'bit' dependent on them to appreciate it


I would be very bothered by a man I had to pretend to be dependent on. If you have to feign weakness in order for him to feel like a man, what's the point?


Not sure if you're missing the point or whether there's some other underlying thing here.

It's not that you have to pretend to be dependent or feign weakness. It's simply the message that he wants to do these things for you. Not to control you. Not because you can't do them yourself. But because he wants you to appreciate him and this is one of the ways he does it. A man will move a mountain if he thinks his woman will appreciate it.


Lôôking4U's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:55 PM
Me? I just love to make a lady laughflowerforyou laugh

hikerchick's photo
Sun 03/02/08 06:55 PM





Hiker, it's not feigning weakness, it's allowing them to do to help. They know you're capable.


I'm just not there, yet lilith.

Sometimes there are good reasons for being single. flowerforyou


I understand. It's not easy for me either. I'm pretty independent. Plus I own a drill, and tools.... flowerforyou


Lilith, I have a chain saw..and I can operate a gas-powered log splitter.

I would just hate to give all that up to bake cookies....



and if you did...you'd prolly need those tools just to cut the coookies


Hey Beach ..screw you!drinker