it's hard enough to date after 50, but even more discouraged with people on a "dating site" looking primarily for tail . . . guys, they are called hookers, not dates.

Just suggesting that you would give a "gift" in exchange for some level of sexual activity is ILLEGAL!! Some communities spend many dollars trying to apprehend men and women looking for consensual pleasure.

Hello. I agree with you. Women 50+ are encountering a lot challenges when truing to go back to the dating arena. When i see these very young kids even looking and liking my profile, i wonder if they think we are desperate! And then are the fake and scammers that i feel target women in our age range, and again, i question myself: jeez, do I come across as that desperate because i am in a dating site?

Something lots of people misunderstand about dating websites like this is the fact it is, by its nature, prone to all types of people.

Each of us have the ability to choose which ones we will interact with. Sadly, most of us find that number is very small.

Setting mail filters helps a lil but most of it is on us. We must separate the grain from the chaff.
We must use a bit of wisdom as well.

Sites like this are merely tools to help us find potential candidates, if it is used as a tool it can and does work.
It is always up to us to make that ultimate decision on our choices. This tool can't do that for us.

If we focus on what we don't want, we may miss the few which we might want. Allowing the negative results to cloud our minds it gets too murky to find the one we DO Want.

Its best to ignore the junk and focus only on the jewels.

"Dating" is not an arena, a zero-sum swipe right or left fight to the death. It's social interaction. Like Tom said, "Its best to ignore the junk and focus only on the jewels."

Date if you want but if you're over 50 and can't control what you do on a date you should stay home.
If you're out dating just let nature and respect take it's course.

Concerning the historical term related to Union Civil War General Joseph Hooker...
There is a popular legend that "hooker" as a slang term for a prostitute is derived from his last name because of parties and a lack of military discipline at his headquarters near the Murder Bay district of Washington, DC. Some versions of the legend claim that the band of prostitutes that followed his division were derisively referred to as "General Hooker's Army" or "Hooker's Brigade." However, the term "hooker" was used in print as early as 1845, years before Hooker was a public figure, and is likely derived from the concentration of prostitutes around the shipyards and ferry terminal of the Corlear's Hook area of Manhattan in the early to middle 19th century, who came to be referred to as "hookers". The prevalence of the Hooker legend may have been at least partly responsible for the popularity of the term. There is some evidence that an area in Washington, DC, known for prostitution during the Civil War, was referred to as "Hooker's Division". The name was shortened to "The Division" when he spent time there after First Bull Run guarding D.C. from incursion.

(From Wikipedia)

Most all I encounter is just men looking for one thing as well

yes it does some of us need a freind or 5 so we can have fun without being commited to sex re-find ourselves for 1 reason or another

At my age, I think wasting time is just a futile life. I want to go as far as I can whenever the opportunity strikes. Every day gone, will never come back. We are getting older by the second.

At my age, I think wasting time is just a futile life. I want to go as far as I can whenever the opportunity strikes. Every day gone, will never come back. We are getting older by the second.

well dogs do hookup it's not pretty but neither are the woman wanting money. Much like the woman over 50 that don't want sex because that stops at 35 crazy ppl..

Ozz,

There many women over 50 that enjoy intimacy.

Ozz,

There many women over 50 that enjoy intimacy.

you can come over and play checkers
after you king me
we can get intimate

Wow, I was wondering too. When I brung up my afe thet ask me, does the age gap bothers you. Well yes, I am looking for a partner not a play boy or a scammer.

Sorry there is no edit button. What I meant to say; when I bring my age, they ask me "does the age gap bothers you?

I as well just turned 50 and new to ALL this online dating since my 20 year relationship ended 2 months ago. I have Been doing some self reflection and working on me and decided to dip my toes in the deep end and see how the dating scene has changed in 20 years. Well I have realized that I am def old and learned a new text term OMO LOL Apparently is means Old man out and the person I was chatting was in their 40's so I was like WTF and had to google the term hahahah So I am enjoying the experience and just being myself and enjoying the banter. Possibly Online friendships can happen yet just realized the community forums is def the best place to hang and have fun LOL Like I always say keep smiling and Enjoy the journey...Life is too short to get caught up with trying to be someone I am NOT. For us old timers "STAY GOLD PONY BOY/GIRL" :)

Everytime I get on a dating site if I say I just want to be friends with cool people woman keep saying they don't get me or understand me. it says you can just make friends before I down8 the app. so I don't get what I'm doing wrong. not really into hook ups

OMO gonna have to remember that one lol.
Im 55, professional, as soon as that comes up..All I get is how much do you make? and can I take care of them..wtf. Im not here to be your daddy, I raised 6 children Im not putting you through school too. I get spammed constantly non stop..I haven't met a legitimate person without HUGE BAGGAGE yet..or anyone besides catfishers..sadly. nobody reads your profile, which is the first thing I read!!?? Unfortunately after paying for the site, Im still getting the same scams over and over Im thinking these sites are run over by this type of thing and the administrators can't or won't keep up..