A man asked me why should men always make the first move towards a relationship?
It really surprised me, is that how it is in your world? I think in this day and age it is equal, both men and women can make the first move.
Do you think men should still make the first move or not? What are you comfortable with?

As far as who "should" make the first move, I think these days it's either. It's become a lot more common for women to at least initiate conversation, although as far as actually inviting the other out, I still think it's more common for men than it is for women. Hopefully that will change.

As for me personally, I have never asked a man out first and I am not sure I ever would. However, this would be more about me being too chicken rather than about any notion of gender roles.

I have sometimes and I shall continue to make the first move if so inclined. I find men are flattered.

In actual fact woman has always made the first move. In the past we dropped the handkerchief or lace to let the man know we were interested, and to give him a proper reason to drop by to return it and to being courting you.

Now we don't drop lacy hankies anymore but we make first contact in most cases by eyecontact, smiling etc. All to give a man what's called "rejection protection": he knows you're interested and his fragile ego won't get hurt and he can safely approach you, knowing he won't get rejected.

I don't take it further than that myself. Primal instincts are a lot stronger than 'in this day and age'. Men still work the way they always did, just the clothes they wear that changed. They still like to win, feel like a winner, and feel they got the prize --> high value woman.
For some it may be different, like if you are a more masculine energy woman and/or dealing with a more feminine energy man. Then the balance flips a bit too of course.
But I'm a feminine energy woman and I want a masculine energy man.
And I know from experience that if you go after a man yourself it will not work out. You will end up being friend-zoned, or a booty call. It will set you up to get used, and in the end you're the one to get hurt when he falls in love with a woman that didn't chase after him.

Ha, ha. The handkerchief reminds me of "The bend and snap" move from Legally blonde movie.

http://youtu.be/BBopMCrpmxk

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For your question, madam, I dont think men should make the first move nor female. What I mean is the one who feels it might be something should make the first move

Ok.

Doesn't matter.
As long as HE thinks he made the first move ;-)

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Yes. That!

Hahahaha, that was funny!

I am not trying it lol.

I ain't either, haha. And certainly not on high heels! Pffff...

I did have a guy tell me recently he liked my ***. (((Rolls eyes))) What a winner!!! 🤢

Matters not, who makes the first move.

I'm just looking forward to the day
Blondey and I can move to the music.

I’m old fashioned so believe the man should make the first move.

Today's most enlightened "handkerchief dropper" uses NO perfume, NO scented products on hair nor skin and even uses scent/dye free laundry detergent, and does her Kegel Exersizes (contracting the Pubococcygeal Muscles) relentlessly in private.

When geographically proximate to the male of her desires, especially upwind or up airflow from HVAC, she engages in a torrent of her Kegels to express maximum Pheromones....Her Aromatic Pheromones enter the man's nose, are absorbed into his olfactory lobes, bypass his apparatus of smell and traverse the olfactory nerves directly into HIS FRONTAL LOBE.....SHE thus has Neuroendophysiologically Pheromonically HOOKED the boy by HIS Primal Brain....

HE WILL pursue HER, and just as the ladies have alluded, his all important ego remains intact, because he thinks this was ALL HIS IDEA.

I did an inordinate degree of marital intimacy and relationship intimacy counseling....and single females that followed my above prescribed M.O. WERE ALWAYS successful in snaring the man they desired... .... However the relationship did not always work out, primarily because the girl did NOT adequately screen the dude or some sort of background check.

If one is desperate or wants quick action or reaction, One only need collect some of their own Pheromone Rich Smegma when in washroom, rub it into and about their upper lip & nares........then just Exhale in the direction of the target or directly toward the target when speaking to the target.

Thus Endeth the Lesson! LOL

I'll make it just idk who I'm supposed to be making my move on???

men will always be hunters .... but sometimes being hunted has its advantages ... just saying ...

Though I have the confidence to make the first move it would be something I would only do if there were clear signals of mutual interest . I really haven’t needed to resort to that .. most who are interested will contact me first.

I do wonder if men would misinterpret woman contacting them first with a romantic agenda as seeing her as an easy conquest . It also opens the door to being “used to serve a purpose”.. I am sure I don’t need to spell that out ., . Perhaps mingle men can shed some light on that ?