well ive been goin out with my gf for a little over 2 years now,which is the longest time i ever dated someone,and now shes always hinting on marrige.im 22 and shes 20.for the holidays i meet her parents for the FIRST time,lol,i always avoid all of my gf's parents for some reason.it was kinda akward cause her parents treated me like i was family.???..that kinda scared me cause all i wanted is to date her and then go find someone else and never get really serious but now its 2 yrs....do all girls cry if a guy doesnt say that he loves her?my ex never did i dont see why my gf does.????if i dont mean it should i still tell her i love her to make her feel good????how can i dump her in a NICE way or a t least tell her that i dont wanna get married without breaking her heart.i guess if i didnt know her for so long i wouldnt care as much.what do you thnk girls?what should i do??

Yo Bro, Never tell her or anyone that you love them if you don't mean it or to stop her from crying..... Enjoy your young life... Give it time....

tough call.

sorry, best of luck!

no, tell her exactly what your telling us, and if you dont love her, dont tell her that!

Not only should you not marry, you should not be screwing her over like that. Have a heart to heart with her and be truthfull. Her heart will likely break, but at least you'll stop crushing her spirit.

You clearly have feelings for the girl to have even asked for advise, so kudos to you
My advise, be honest . . first and foremost. Your both way to young (in my opinon) to be talking about marriage, you need to get out and live a little (and no, I dont mean sleep around!) LOL.
Just be honest with her, but be nice about it. It WILL hurt her, but she will get over it and respect you for it down the road, as oppose to stringing her along if you don't want to continue.
NEVER tell someone that you love them, if you don't!!

thats REALLY good advice, listen to him!

i agree with ladyblack, all you are going to do is cause her more heartache and strife by lying be honest... it will still hurt but not as bad as if you lie

let her go so she can find someone who wants to marry her

Well you are both still young ! But on your part I think you need to get your act together ! you date someone for two years and any woman will think there is more to it then just a date.

Just break it off now and be a man, I think this is the best for you.....and very much the best for her.

thanks for all the advice. ive tryed to break it off before with her but she wont give up.even when i was dating another girl she always called me and told me that i would dump the girl i was dating eventually and be back with her..and sadly she was right.do you guys think she really loves me or just being nice so i will marry her?shes a good looking girl just marrige is not my option cause i think im too young and not ready for it.how young is too young to get married do you guys think??

There is no right answer to that. My folks have a great marrage and they were 20 when they married. But there is such a high divorse rate. The average age these days is around 26. But if you both have different ideas for where you want a relationship to go, it is better to end it than drag it out this way.

Excellent Advice....Memorize this M3....and just be Honest

i would have a heart to heart with her and then stick to your guns.You both need to move on with your lives.

She most likely loves you. Why would she be nice to you to get you to marry you?

However, if you are not in love with her and do not see a future with her, break it off. Yes, she will cry and possibly heartbroken. Do you want to continue to waste more of her time?

I do agreee that you are both too young to be married. That is just my opinion.

M

Honesty is ALLWAYS the best policy.

First of all you're both too young for marriage. Second if you aren't sure you want to marry her, then you don't. So stop stringing her along. If you don't KNOW if you love her, then you don't... so don't say that you do.

Nothing hurts worse than being led to believe there is a future with a man who doesn't feel the same way. In the long run, you'll look like a big jerk and she will have a little piece of her heart ripped out.

Be honest! It will hurt now, but not like it will later. Tell her the truth! You don't have to be mean, but you DO have to be firm.

Turn her loose so she can move on. Sounds like you've been wanting to move on for some time now....

In time, she will see that you did her a favor. And STOP telling her you love her if you don't! That's cruel. I understand your reasoning, but it is sorely misguided.

Good luck............

Nicely said...!

First off hello been dating her 2 years and just now meet her parents shshsshh something funny in the woodpile then you ask to marry her or not and you admit you don't tell her you love her shshshsh. If any time you are so full of doubt its time to back off sounds like to me your just using the girl for the good times and nothing else. I feel for the girl she gives her all and you are there just to enjoy the fruit sad this is why women and men are the way they are today and don't want to give there all any more for being used in the past. Do the girl a favor and cut the strings if you don't care for her. Just the way I see it but then what do I know sure would not want someone to stay with me if they really did not want anymore then some good times.