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i want a girl who loves me like i love her
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True love does not always hurt. However, infatuation does hurt.
People harm themselves by mistaking infatuation for love. |
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When love goes wrong or is not returned then it can cause hurt . The alternative .. not to love is not ideal either . Stay open to the possibility of love Zorawar . Wishing you the best of luck
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I need true love
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Edited by
Aldtrao
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Fri 05/14/21 08:13 AM
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True love always hurts because we idealize the ones we love truly. We tend to think that they are as good as it is possible for a human to be. We trust completely that they will never hurt us, because we have made ourselves believe that they love us even better and stronger than we love them, because we believe that they are a better person than ourself. And when they are overcome by emotions and temptations, we feel that their behavior was the greatest betrayal, not just because of the closeness of the relationship, but also because the false image that we had built up in our minds of them as a nearly perfect person gets torn down. This leads us either to the false idea that we didn’t know the person as well as we thought, or the idea that the person has changed, which then leads us to question the strength of the relationship and their love for us. Finally, we are preyed upon by the notion that the best part of our life is now over. So really, we are the ones responsible for most of the hurt to ourselves, but when we are blinded by love it is difficult to see what we are doing. We need to fully forgive them and stop insisting that they be a more perfect person than we are.
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True love always hurts because we idealize the ones we love truly. We tend to think that they are as good as it is possible for a human to be. We trust completely that they will never hurt us, because we have made ourselves believe that they love us even better and stronger than we love them, because we believe that they are a better person than ourself. And when they are overcome by emotions and temptations, we feel that their behavior was the greatest betrayal, not just because of the closeness of the relationship, but also because the false image that we had built up in our minds of them as a nearly perfect person gets torn down. This leads us either to the false idea that we didn’t know the person as well as we thought, or the idea that the person has changed, which then leads us to question the strength of the relationship and their love for us. Finally, we are preyed upon by the notion that the best part of our life is now over. So really, we are the ones responsible for most of the hurt to ourselves, but when we are blinded by love it is difficult to see what we are doing. We need to fully forgive them and stop insisting that they be a more perfect person than we are. You only have that when someone still has too much ego -by which I mean issues that haven't been worked out yet that cause low self-esteem, neediness, fear of whatever, etc. etc. As soon as someone is more developed, has worked through their issues much more, you can have an interdependent relationship and then it's entirely different. Then you stand hand in hand, side by side, complementing one another. If it then goes wrong it will still hurt but you don't take it as personally as the ego wasn't involved that much. |
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True love always hurts because we idealize the ones we love truly. We tend to think that they are as good as it is possible for a human to be. We trust completely that they will never hurt us, because we have made ourselves believe that they love us even better and stronger than we love them, because we believe that they are a better person than ourself. And when they are overcome by emotions and temptations, we feel that their behavior was the greatest betrayal, not just because of the closeness of the relationship, but also because the false image that we had built up in our minds of them as a nearly perfect person gets torn down. This leads us either to the false idea that we didn’t know the person as well as we thought, or the idea that the person has changed, which then leads us to question the strength of the relationship and their love for us. Finally, we are preyed upon by the notion that the best part of our life is now over. So really, we are the ones responsible for most of the hurt to ourselves, but when we are blinded by love it is difficult to see what we are doing. We need to fully forgive them and stop insisting that they be a more perfect person than we are. You only have that when someone still has too much ego -by which I mean issues that haven't been worked out yet that cause low self-esteem, neediness, fear of whatever, etc. etc. As soon as someone is more developed, has worked through their issues much more, you can have an interdependent relationship and then it's entirely different. Then you stand hand in hand, side by side, complementing one another. If it then goes wrong it will still hurt but you don't take it as personally as the ego wasn't involved that much. I don’t think that’s always true. Love really is just blind. When we love deeply we place the other person above ourselves on a pedestal. That’s just how it goes. If it happens in an extreme degree that approaches worship and dependency, then yeah, I’d have to agree with what you’re saying. |
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True love does not always hurt. However, infatuation does hurt. People harm themselves by mistaking infatuation for love. This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ |
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Edited by
cleve
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Fri 05/14/21 04:52 PM
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i want a girl who loves me like i love her I AM GOING TO SAY THIS AGAIN,,,,''WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US''. BY WHAT WE WILL EXCEPT, BY WHAT WE WILL NOT EXCEPT, AND BY WHAT WE REINFORCE....THIS STUFF IS NOT ONE HANDED....WHEN WE REFUSE TO SEE AND UNDERSTAND OUR PART WE TEND TO REPEAT OUR BEHAVIOR TO SET OURSELVES UP TO BE HURT AGAIN....SOME PEOPLES STARTING GATE POSITION IS VICTIM HOOD....A VERY WISE FRIEND TOLD ME A LONG TIME AGO ''THE BETTER WE BECOME EMOTIONALLY THE BETTER PEOPLE WE ATTRACT'' IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO ''GET IT'' HAVE SENSE LEARNED HOW RIGHT SHE WAS...BOTTOM LINE ITS HOW WE SEE OURSELVES,,AND HOW WE SEE OTHERS THAT IS THE TRAP....GOOD LUCK..... |
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Edited by
cleve
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Fri 05/14/21 06:36 PM
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P.S.
WHAT KEEPS PEOPLE STUCK A LOT IS THAT THEY FOCUS ON THE SURFACE NOISE....BECAUSE THEY HAVE FAVORITE FEELINGS THEY NEED TO RECYCLE, AND TO VALIDATE BELIEFS ABOUT THEMSELVES AND OTHERS ....EXAMPLE ; THEY CAN SAY SEE I NEW IT ''YOU CAN NOT TRUST OTHERS ''.....WITH TIME THE GAMES BECOME HARDER, AND HARDER TO GIVE UP....THE PERSON WE NEED TO GET TO KNOW THE MOST IS OURSELVES.....THAT'S WHY LOVE CAN HURT...... |
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Why true love always hurts... i want a girl who loves me like i love her So what's going on? Are you saying that you don't actually want "true" love? Or are you saying you're a masochist? Or are you saying you're just throwing out a billboard implying some kind of love virtue signal kinda deal hoping women read this and think "Hmmm, well he must be serious, he said the secret password of love and implied reciprocation, therefore let's hurry up and send him some emails right now!?" ...Just want to clarify... |
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ticket point infatuation is a very dangerous aspect so is lust but now see love can be poison when it's taken in the wrong to meter can you take live out of context can you mix it with anger resentment well then you have one of the worst and deadliest poisons ever
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Agree...
and it's hard to find... wish I will get it someday .. |
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True Love is just a fairytale I quite believeing today
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Love only hurts if the person you love doesn't love you in return. Sometimes you just need to lower your standers and find someone willing to love you not stop going after the people you think are hot.
At least that's what people are always telling me. |
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The hotter the other party is the less likely the true love will survive, if there was true love in the first place ..... life is not a fairy tale anymore ... reality bites ... just saying !!!
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ALL LOVE is true or it isn't love at all...its something else.
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The hotter the other party is the less likely the true love will survive, if there was true love in the first place ..... life is not a fairy tale anymore ... reality bites ... just saying !!! 
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I BELIEVE WHEN I SEE IT, OR IT HAPPENS TO ME HAVENT SEEN IN THIS WORLD NOT FOR MENY YRS JUST MOST OF THE BOYS ON HERE WHO DON'T WANT COMMITMENT I GAVE UP MINGLE2
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I BELIEVE WHEN I SEE IT, OR IT HAPPENS TO ME HAVENT SEEN IN THIS WORLD NOT FOR MENY YRS JUST MOST OF THE BOYS ON HERE WHO DON'T WANT COMMITMENT I GAVE UP MINGLE2 That's because all of the men are here in the forums. |
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