As I continue to wait on a husband at the age of 36 currently, I have literally experienced and seen on the outside looking in...many men passing up dignified women for harlots or stripper girls. Upon talking to these dudes who have crazy girls as their spouse or partner, the men are usually...never happy, yet they refuse to let go of the problem.

One guy even told me that after feeling pressured at seeing all his pals marry before him, he went to stripper bars to find a girl. Yes, he went after the girls who let men know that they have no class or dignity.

All were terrible including the one he is about to marry. He disregarded meeting his spouse in church (Ideal, but not always likely), but he did at least express some remorse over his carelessness.

Another guy - this one I was in love with, flattered me many times, but he was in an abusive relationship. He told me how abusive his gf was to him (he met her at a Hooters of course). When they broke up, I will admit that I thought I could show him my love (not through sex), but I was careful not to do a full rebound. Things were looking good, his heart was healing, and I thought we were about to hit it off....but he totally shocked me and went back to her; their abusive relationship resumed.

I can bring up more real life stories, but it's just a sad state of affairs in this generation. Too many men DO pass up dignified women and they go after the most problematic women on earth...to make into wives.

The question of "why do fools fall in love" come into play. I suppose the answer is because regardless of the simpleton parents, children will be born.

Sigh...I'm still hopeful to the Lord that one day I'll finally be received and not rejected. But man...what a ride.

If you are not having success ....rather than blame and shame others perhaps reflect inwards on why that might be .

Best of luck .

Men are very visual.

It sounds like you may have to learn to exotic dance and get a double DD boob job to attract and capture these 'desirable'???? men.

Or consider yourself lucky to have escaped these men.

Be patient and don't lower your standards

Too many men DO pass up dignified women and they go after the most problematic women on earth...to make into wives.

The same could be said about the way some women choose their husbands.

Whilst the Jerry Springer show may have once had
entertainment value...

I make a point, to not associate with anyone,
who could potentially be a guest on daytime
crap television.


Moral of the story?
You're running in the wrong crowd.

It's not blaming...but it is shaming because men who do things like that should be ashamed. They could get out of their problems, but getting in the bed is easy. Getting out is the problem.

No, the dudes who pass up decent girls are running in the wrong crowd. The point is that these dudes ACKNOWLEDGE good women, yet they refuse them for strippers.

Yes, it's a two way street. You get the girls who date thugs, criminals, or known cheaters. Yet they can't seem to move on from them.

A story for another thread.

You seem to be encountering a high enough number
of those guys, to have inspired you to ask about it.

No judgement. Asking questions, is how we gain knowledge.

I'm not desperate lol

Ask away. Here in Bexar county...these type of men appear to be EVERY WHERE that's why! I kid you not. Almost every man that wanted to start something with me had a story which was usually "I still have a crazy ex-not-ex-maybe-sort-of girlfriend, but can you be my side dish". The worst are the ones who are married and won't tell you.

Yeah, Bexar County has a slew of broken up men here, and when given the opportunity to go with a decent woman...well, you read my post.

So let me get this right .., you believe

Dignified women are not problematic ..

Strippers , harlots and women who work for hooters are not dignified ..,

Is that right ???!!!

It's called, "the pattern". Women who are in the pattern, somtimes get out of the pattern at about 38 as a rule,........ but shallow visual 5 minute men NEVER leave "the pattern".


I look at those crazy visually pretty stunners, and say to myself..... hmmmm.....

Yep,............. somebody, somewhere, is sick of their shiot. Then I go about my business, drama free.

You're thinking too hard.

Never knew it had a name. My dad said he knew a real pretty girl at his school. He liked her, she liked him...but my dad saw the company she hung out with, and she was full of drama. He made a quick decision. lol

More men should do that instead of trying to "save" the crazy ones.

damm ... I was just getting started .., next I was going to chat about church parables ... like the one about about Jesus and the prostitute .

You do have a personal filter to avoid them though?

Yes. Mainly by prayer and immediate investigation of their personal life. Keywords and phrases such as "I just broke up". Usually, "I just broke up" means that he and his gf are just mad at each other and they'll probably patch things up. So it's not safe to get involved.

It's a shame you gotta go through all these measures due to dishonest people.

We live and learn.

And why would YOU want a man who passes up a decent woman?
I'm not even interested in such men.
In life you get presented with what matches your energy, your current vibration.
So Blondey's advice to take a moment and check what is living inside of you is very sound.
There are plenty of guys out there that are looking for a great girl. If these don't cross your path it's because you are not attracting such men. Find out why not.

The answer is inside, not the outside and certainly not in blame. Blame comes from lack of self-love, which could be a good clue as to why it isn't working out for you.