As I continue to wait on a husband at the age of 36 currently, I have literally experienced and seen on the outside looking in...many men passing up dignified women for harlots or stripper girls. Upon talking to these dudes who have crazy girls as their spouse or partner, the men are usually...never happy, yet they refuse to let go of the problem.

experienced and seen ... many men passing up dignified women for harlots or stripper girls.

Upon talking to these dudes

men are usually...never happy, yet they refuse to let go of the problem.

He disregarded meeting his spouse in church (Ideal, but not always likely)

this one I was in love with, flattered me many times

he was in an abusive relationship

he totally shocked me and went back to her

their abusive relationship resumed

Too many men DO pass up dignified women and they go after the most problematic women on earth...to make into wives.

The question of "why do fools fall in love" come into play. I suppose the answer is because regardless of the simpleton parents, children will be born.

I'm still hopeful to the Lord that one day I'll finally be received and not rejected.

That's why I only date short slender women. I can pick them up and lock them in the bedroom when they misbehave.

And why would YOU want a man who passes up a decent woman?
I'm not even interested in such men.
In life you get presented with what matches your energy, your current vibration.
So Blondey's advice to take a moment and check what is living inside of you is very sound.
There are plenty of guys out there that are looking for a great girl. If these don't cross your path it's because you are not attracting such men. Find out why not.

The answer is inside, not the outside and certainly not in blame. Blame comes from lack of self-love, which could be a good clue as to why it isn't working out for you.

Waiting on a husband?

You frequent stripper bars and lounges?

Desperation?

Perhaps look in the mirror?


Are YOU looking for your husband in church?

Do you respond to superficial flattery?

You were in love with a man already in a relationship?

Perhaps what you offer is not what he wanted?

After dating you. Does this tell you anything about yourself?

How many men are you looking to be your husband?

I can't see the connection between fools falling in love and children of simpleton parents?

By whom? Foolish men?

Yer searching for a husband. You find many men but they do not fit your preferences of what constitutes husband material. You place all the men you meet into the same stereotype and focus on what you do not want instead of looking at each potential mate for the qualities you do want.

Your selection pool is wrong for the qualities you prefer.
You have a few options which could change your search results.

* Change your qualifying preferences to match the available selection.
* Change your selection pool to focus on only those who are likely to fill your preferences.
* Change your selection process to focus on positive traits instead of negative traits. Stop looking for the 'bad' in people. Focus on finding the "good" and allow the bad to pass on by.
* Treat each potential mate as a unique individual and see that "person" instead of a stereotype.

You won't find a church going man with religious family values in a strip bar. You find them in church.

Try to remember people often change when they get into an intimate relationship. (Intimate as in 'close' not necessarily sex)

Nobody wants to be in a relationship with anyone who constantly evaluates their values. Its difficult to build the needed trust when one must constantly defend themselves. Plus, trust is a two-way street.

When you focus on the negative you only 'see' the negative.

Choose Wisely

Maybe they make the best decision after all.
Stripping, a perfectly legal means of making a living
often supports many children and families.

So, they get a great worker, who takes responsibility
and is willing to do a crap job..I salute them.

And you say this makes them 'indecent.'
I say, follow Blondey's advice for yourself.