Humm it seems to many try to find the fault within the other person when in reality they need to take a hard long look at themselves and their choices...

If you know they have a patchy past with others then it is time to step back and reflect on even going head-on into a relationship with them.. It takes two to start a relationship.

When one has that gut feeling they have issues it is best to listen to those gut feelings..

Maybe they make the best decision after all.
Stripping, a perfectly legal means of making a living
often supports many children and families.

So, they get a great worker, who takes responsibility
and is willing to do a crap job..I salute them.

And you say this makes them 'indecent.'
I say, follow Blondey's advice for yourself.

Waiting on a husband?

You frequent stripper bars and lounges?

Desperation?

Perhaps look in the mirror?


Are YOU looking for your husband in church?

Do you respond to superficial flattery?

You were in love with a man already in a relationship?

Perhaps what you offer is not what he wanted?

After dating you. Does this tell you anything about yourself?

How many men are you looking to be your husband?

I can't see the connection between fools falling in love and children of simpleton parents?

By whom? Foolish men?

Yer searching for a husband. You find many men but they do not fit your preferences of what constitutes husband material. You place all the men you meet into the same stereotype and focus on what you do not want instead of looking at each potential mate for the qualities you do want.

Your selection pool is wrong for the qualities you prefer.
You have a few options which could change your search results.

* Change your qualifying preferences to match the available selection.
* Change your selection pool to focus on only those who are likely to fill your preferences.
* Change your selection process to focus on positive traits instead of negative traits. Stop looking for the 'bad' in people. Focus on finding the "good" and allow the bad to pass on by.
* Treat each potential mate as a unique individual and see that "person" instead of a stereotype.

You won't find a church going man with religious family values in a strip bar. You find them in church.

Try to remember people often change when they get into an intimate relationship. (Intimate as in 'close' not necessarily sex)

Nobody wants to be in a relationship with anyone who constantly evaluates their values. Its difficult to build the needed trust when one must constantly defend themselves. Plus, trust is a two-way street.

When you focus on the negative you only 'see' the negative.

Choose Wisely

I didn't say I wanted those men. However, some of these dudes came to me with their issues as if wanting to change, but they would go back to their own vomit as the Word of God says.

I am making the observation that many men will pass up decent girls these days.

I think this post embodies the term "loaded question".

If a woman wants to make a living and keep her dignity as a person, she can work at a McDonald's. Sorry, but sexual debauchery in the name of "I'm supporting my kids" is lousy. America is in bad shape, but we still have to be mindful of what our reckless choices can do to our sons or daughters.