Maybe they make the best decision after all.
Stripping, a perfectly legal means of making a living
often supports many children and families.

So, they get a great worker, who takes responsibility
and is willing to do a crap job..I salute them.

And you say this makes them 'indecent.'
I say, follow Blondey's advice for yourself.

Waiting on a husband?

You frequent stripper bars and lounges?

Desperation?

Perhaps look in the mirror?


Are YOU looking for your husband in church?

Do you respond to superficial flattery?

You were in love with a man already in a relationship?

Perhaps what you offer is not what he wanted?

After dating you. Does this tell you anything about yourself?

How many men are you looking to be your husband?

I can't see the connection between fools falling in love and children of simpleton parents?

By whom? Foolish men?

Yer searching for a husband. You find many men but they do not fit your preferences of what constitutes husband material. You place all the men you meet into the same stereotype and focus on what you do not want instead of looking at each potential mate for the qualities you do want.

Your selection pool is wrong for the qualities you prefer.
You have a few options which could change your search results.

* Change your qualifying preferences to match the available selection.
* Change your selection pool to focus on only those who are likely to fill your preferences.
* Change your selection process to focus on positive traits instead of negative traits. Stop looking for the 'bad' in people. Focus on finding the "good" and allow the bad to pass on by.
* Treat each potential mate as a unique individual and see that "person" instead of a stereotype.

You won't find a church going man with religious family values in a strip bar. You find them in church.

Try to remember people often change when they get into an intimate relationship. (Intimate as in 'close' not necessarily sex)

Nobody wants to be in a relationship with anyone who constantly evaluates their values. Its difficult to build the needed trust when one must constantly defend themselves. Plus, trust is a two-way street.

When you focus on the negative you only 'see' the negative.

Choose Wisely

And why would YOU want a man who passes up a decent woman?
I'm not even interested in such men.
In life you get presented with what matches your energy, your current vibration.
So Blondey's advice to take a moment and check what is living inside of you is very sound.
There are plenty of guys out there that are looking for a great girl. If these don't cross your path it's because you are not attracting such men. Find out why not.

The answer is inside, not the outside and certainly not in blame. Blame comes from lack of self-love, which could be a good clue as to why it isn't working out for you.

You do have a personal filter to avoid them though?

It's called, "the pattern". Women get out of the pattern at about 38 as a rule, but shallow visual 5 minute men NEVER leave "the pattern".


I look at those crazy visually pretty stunners, and say to myself..... hmmmm.....

Yep,............. somebody, somewhere, is sick of their shiot. Then I go about my business, drama free.

So let me get this right .., you believe

Dignified women are not problematic ..

Strippers , harlots and women who work for hooters are not dignified ..,

Is that right ???!!!

What you say in a forum, like Mingle2, is it what you would say to people in day to day, face to face living?
Do you feel you represent yourself accurately, as much as can be, when on the internet?
Would you say what you say on the forums, in real life?

You seem to be encountering a high enough number
of those guys, to have inspired you to ask about it.

No judgement. Asking questions, is how we gain knowledge.

Men are very visual.

It sounds like you may have to learn to exotic dance and get a double DD boob job to attract and capture these 'desirable'???? men.

Or consider yourself lucky to have escaped these men.

Be patient and don't lower your standards

Too many men DO pass up dignified women and they go after the most problematic women on earth...to make into wives.

The same could be said about the way some women choose their husbands.

Whilst the Jerry Springer show may have once had
entertainment value...

I make a point, to not associate with anyone,
who could potentially be a guest on daytime
crap television.


Moral of the story?
You're running in the wrong crowd.