oh well! I think I'm close to not being able to trust men even at 0.1%. Maybe its a fear that I have come to develop. I dunno if I can still get over with how men lie and cheat. I could be the best lady for a man but please I deserve someone who treats me like a real lady. I'm not gonna settle to be number two. I've worked my *** of to get a degree so never gonna lower myself's standard for someone whose a douche canoe. My last attempt would be when I come to Canada. If that fails I'm just gonna get a sperm to have kids. sigh

You attract what you yourself exude.
In other words: the kind of men that come to you or that you encounter are a result of how you see yourself, your life, your worthiness and deservedness.
It's all energy you know, vibration. You cannot expect to attract in a man of high vibration (= a quality man) when you are not on that vibration yourself.
Then you point fingers and blame men, but the cause is within you...

Happy people attract happy people...
grumpy people attract other grumpy people
Depressed people attract other depressed people
Inspired people attract inspired people...

A great quality man will want and attract a great quality woman. If they skip you... well... you're not on that same vibration.

I agree, but somewhat disagree. Some men, like narcissists, are looking for prey. A nice and naive woman could end up being duped. On the other hand, it is up to her to decide that she deserves better and leave. (Could be vice versa!) Nice people can end up with trash, but it's up to them to have the strength and courage to walk away.

If you're tired of what's coming your way, you might just need to take a break and decide if you really want to keep doing this. After all, if you're fed up, you may not recognize someone genuine, and no one would ever be enough.

I dont think its still a problem on me haha or maybe am just not destined to meet and marry somebody just like my sisters. sigh

It has nothing to do with nice. It has to do with self-confidence, self-worth, and inner strength. You can be incredibly nice and have none of these qualities.
No one who has that in place will attract in a narcissist or a-hole.
Narcissists go for sensitive, vulnerable women who lack these things on some level.

Good luck with that then.

cynicism is when you judge people correctly

from a sperm donor?

your contributing to the fact.....Fatherhood is unfavourable

US Supreme Court Ruling


Trust is the Most Expensive Thing

hello yhellow there is absolutely nothing wrong with having standards And preferences when it comes to dating . Perhaps though you need to work on your trust issues . At some point you do have to take the risk and be vulnerable to developing trust . Labelling men as douche canoes is probably unhelpful (even if that is your experience).. if anything it reflects more on your attitude and unresolved issues . You are pretty and clever .. don’t let fear hold you back . If all else fails perhaps your sisters can help you find a successful match

I find it funny that those who say "All (men/women) I have known have lied and cheated" If all you have known truly were that way, the fact is the common denominator in all of those relationships is YOU.

Since all (men/women) do not lie, cheat, or act in some particular way in unison, it must be YOU that are making the poor decisions and choices if all you have known are liars and cheaters.

So, close relationship with a sample of men has not worked for you...

It is what it is.

I suppose it can be frustrating.

beggars can't be choosers

I suppose it is Relationship with men that she does not like, not “men.” (?)

You can learn from mistakes or you can keep making the same ones over and over.
When you learn from your mistakes you gain wisdom.
Mistakes are not necessarily bad as long as you gain wisdom from them.

If you are not finding someone right for you, you are not doing it right in some way. Change your methods.

Use your experience and choose wisely from now on and you will find someone right for you.

I hope you will stay among us. We enjoy having you on here.

sparkingcrystal IS 100% CORRECT.......LISTEN TO HER......EVERYTHING IN THIS LIFE IS BELIEF, WE ARE ALWAYS RIGHT, A PART OF US WANTS TO SAY " SEE I TOLD YOU SO ".....ITS THE OLD "GARBAGE IN, GARBAGE OUT.....ITS HARD TO CHANGE A BELIEF BECAUSE ITS CONNECTED TO "FAVORITE FEELINGS". WHEN WE DISCOVER THE REASON WE BELIEVE SOMETHING ITS FROM CHILDHOOD....THAT IS NOT HERE AND NOW , WE HAVE TO GET OUT OF OUR CHILD AND INTO OUR ADULT TO SOLVE PROBLEMS.....OR WE STAY STUCK.......

Please try not to give up I believe that soon you will get that kind of man that God made specially for you

Some people are just easier to be picked out of the herd. So stay strong, choose wisely, ( like Tom says), stand by your values, and don't give up and " settle".