I guess being real, a bit wild and truthful...what's your own opinion on this

true, but it's also a process of trust. kinda like allowing each other to be vulnerable and emotional with each other that you don't find it discouraging or exhausting, you find it a necessity to know that your partner has emotions and problems that you're willing to hear them out

the first thing you need is money for your own sanity

You can write an list a mile long with qualities like that, still won't make a woman want you or take an interest in you. These are also qualities of friends you see and even acquaintances.

It's mixture of chemistry, connection, commitment. You have to add something to each other's life and make one another happier, bring joy.
What that is... energetic thing.
It either works or it doesn't. You cannot make it work by doing something. If it doesn't click, it doesn't click.

that elusive tingle

Yes! And for a lasting relationship also the desire to build a future together --> commitment.

Biologically speaking, women use the "heart," emotions and feelings, to ultimately secure resources. Safety/security/social position (for personal and procreational reasons).

Men use resources (safety, security, social position) to ultimately secure emotional and procreational stability/surety.

What "wins" a woman's "heart" is ultimately feedback that her use of the tools, she's most proficient in manipulating for securing the resources she needs/wants, is successful.

This is ultimately why you can only "win" a woman's heart for a limited amount of time (how much time is dependent on a huge number of variables/vectors).

Emotions are based on chemistry. Like any chemical dependence you always need more, different, or greater highs. Are you still as scared of thunder as the first time you heard it? Do seasoned sky divers get the same thrill doing their 3,000th jump as the first time? Are you still as excited and nervous going to work after 5 years on the job as you were on your first day?
Do you still respond to/treat your mother the same way as you did when you were 2 years old?

The more "being real" and "truthful" you consistently are, over time, it becomes the norm, used to, boring. It won't create the same "tingles" that women are looking for and don't want to analyze for what they are.

But the more "wild" you are (emotionally churning to offset getting used to), the less you are going to offer reliable feedback, it hurts communication development for the proper/necessary feedback of success. Not to mention, having to become more and more "wild," as previous levels are acclimated to, affects trust and perceptions of danger/instability/reliability.

And that doesn't even address romantic love/pair bonding.
Which is a tool to keep people together long enough for the sake of any offspring survival. Romantic "love" is ultimately about and for kids.
Not to make people "happy."
"Love" doesn't care if you're bad parents, or bad people, or if you beat each other. It's there to create a degree of emotional attachment so you both orbit each other for the sake of being available to the child for resources that allow it at least the basic minimums for survival.

People like to call all sorts of things "love" but it would be more accurate to call it a "spectrum of socio-emotional entanglement," actually separate from "love."
There's a reason why "forever and ever" and "true love" is mostly shown in fairy tales and fiction rather than documentaries.


So, "What wins a woman heart"
You can't win a woman's heart. It's not a static trophy that you can just "win" and put it on a shelf and expect it to never change.
At best you can get her to focus it on you for a while.
You do that by giving her "the tingles" which at any time could be triggered by things that are contradictory and/or incompatible in nature and go away at any time.

Good luck with that!

I think being a great listener is a great one

I'd say loyal understanding patience make her feel special like she's only one also make her laugh and smile but I could be wrong lol

Being on top of the recipient list.

I can only speak for what wins my heart ... compassion , integrity and humour

Start with INTEGRITY and learn from there.

I would say so, at least to me.

For me a bag of Cheetos and a liter bottle of Mountain Dew. Mmmmhmmm, oh yeah! That's what I'm talking about

agree with this sooo much.

only and only money can win the heart of a girl/ woman.

good

Just be the man you can always real and know her strength & weakness ... try your possible best to make her happy also yourself

Completely off!

How many total deadbeats have you seen that didn't have a woman?

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