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Topic: How to choose
Ahmad shalabi's photo
Wed 08/12/20 12:51 AM
Now I'm in trouble, i have a crush on two girls, they both great
I can't decide which one of them i should ask out.
I like one of them more than the other one, but the other one is so cute and kind, and she likes me a lot, even more than i do
So if you were me, you would pick the one you love or the one who loves you

JulieABush's photo
Wed 08/12/20 01:47 AM
Pick the one you love first and see how it goes and if it seems that one doesn’t work out then go out with the other one.

person L 's photo
Wed 08/12/20 02:40 AM
a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush

Fallon's photo
Wed 08/12/20 03:01 AM
Weigh in on your preference why you want to pursue the right woman :)

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Wed 08/12/20 03:55 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž on Wed 08/12/20 03:56 AM

Now I'm in trouble, i have a crush on two girls, they both great
I can't decide which one of them i should ask out.
I like one of them more than the other one, but the other one is so cute and kind, and she likes me a lot, even more than i do
So if you were me, you would pick the one you love or the one who loves you

Sounds like you should wait for this crush to pass and wait for another option.
Choosing someone because they like you a lot is totally lame.
Choosing someone who doesn't like you isn't even an option, no matter how much you fancy her.

Caitlin0204's photo
Wed 08/12/20 04:25 AM
Awesome

mortalez's photo
Wed 08/12/20 07:49 AM
you choose the one who likes you better, if you choose the one that you are more into and if she's not as into you then she will always have power in that relationship, if you choose the one that you find attractive but she is more into you than you are into her slightly you are going to be the one with the power in that relationship. it's very sad that it's like that but that's how it goes.

Poetrywriter's photo
Wed 08/12/20 08:06 AM
You have to go with your gut feeling. You make the choice we can't make it for you.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Wed 08/12/20 09:50 AM
Wait...
Are these girls online or people you have met in real life?

moomin's photo
Wed 08/12/20 10:00 AM
Presumably you have met up with them both , at different times of course and hung out for a bit , well surely then you know which one you gel with the most :rolling_eyes:

Larsi666 😽's photo
Wed 08/12/20 10:07 AM

Presumably you have met up with them both , at different times of course and hung out for a bit , well surely then you know which one you gel with the most :rolling_eyes:


Let's assume, he did meet them in real life, why is he signing up here? I gonna scratch my head oops

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Wed 08/12/20 12:23 PM


Presumably you have met up with them both , at different times of course and hung out for a bit , well surely then you know which one you gel with the most :rolling_eyes:


Let's assume, he did meet them in real life, why is he signing up here? I gonna scratch my head oops


:thumbsup:

no photo
Wed 08/12/20 12:38 PM
Look Out Here Comes Tomorrow

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Wed 08/12/20 12:41 PM
Areh you are muslim ,you can have 7 wives .

no photo
Wed 08/12/20 01:27 PM
How to choose

If you really can't tell, then maybe invite them both out to dinner, and ask them to help you figure it out.

Solves multiple problems at once, and potentially a lot of insight into who they are.
You get to learn their problem solving skills, how they really feel about you, how they think, maybe a greater understanding of their perspective in general, how they deal with competition and possible conflict, if they can help in serving your interests.

All sorts of things that would actually help you in any type of relationship with someone that asking random strangers on the internet can't.

So if you were me, you would pick the one you love or the one who loves you

Based on the little information provided on these women...Neither.

You say " the other one is so cute and kind, and she likes me a lot, even more than i do"
And it very well could be that she seems or acts that way because she is trying to passive aggressively communicate she wants you to "make a move." She could be responding to your having another girl to pick. She knows you aren't invested so she is in a sense overcompensating in her "like you" behavior in order for you to "get the hint."

But she doesn't seem to be clearly saying "I want to date you romantically. I want a romantic relationship with you."

And the other one seems to possibly be so intimidating to you that you can't adequately communicate what you want, and she doesn't seem to be clearly saying what she wants from you. Which just shows there are going to be problems with communication in any future relationship. But you don't really say much about her except she's "great" and you like her more than the other one.

So for me (if I was you and didn't have your personality, was just me in this hypothetical) I would choose neither.
I don't have enough information, and what information there is shows a potential heavy bias towards negative traits and compatibility.



I mean if I was sitting around with my friends and said to them "hey man, heard you were dating someone. What are they like?"
And the best description they gave to me to describe this wonderful person was either:
"I like one of them more than the other one"

Or she is "so cute and kind, and she likes me a lot, even more than i do"

Then I would listen and in my head say "yikes. That's not going to last very long."

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Wed 08/12/20 02:06 PM
Hello Ahmed .. suggest you tell them about each other and let them choose biggrin waving

feelyoungagain's photo
Wed 08/12/20 03:37 PM

Now I'm in trouble, i have a crush on two girls, they both great
I can't decide which one of them i should ask out.
I like one of them more than the other one, but the other one is so cute and kind, and she likes me a lot, even more than i do
So if you were me, you would pick the one you love or the one who loves you


I cannot tell you who to pick. You got yourself in this pickle. You can take your time before making this decision. Maybe it's best if you move on and continue your search and hopefully find someone that does not present this problem. I would advise against picking someone who loves you but you don't love her back. That's just wrong and very very selfish. That person is hoping and expecting the same feelings from you and should not be lead on under false pretenses. That is a train wreck waiting to happen and there is nothing good that will come out of that. You should know better than to take somebody's feelings and time for granted just because that's what (only) you want. Feelings should be mutual. It's not all about you when you have somebody else's heart in your hands. You need to be considerate.
I agree 100% with Blondey111. You should have told each lady upfront that you are not going to commit to anyone right away so that they know you are seeing other people. That's what I do and I've never had an issue. What got me in trouble was being deceptive and then having to figure who to hurt. So unfair!

feelyoungagain's photo
Wed 08/12/20 03:39 PM


Presumably you have met up with them both , at different times of course and hung out for a bit , well surely then you know which one you gel with the most :rolling_eyes:


Let's assume, he did meet them in real life, why is he signing up here? I gonna scratch my head oops


He might have met them in person after having talked to them on here and then agreeing to me.

Ahmad shalabi's photo
Thu 08/13/20 02:47 AM
Real life for sure

Ahmad shalabi's photo
Thu 08/13/20 02:48 AM
Is that really ok Haha?

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