I am looking to get some opinions from other people. I have gotten one opinion already on what I should do, but what do others think? I have also posted many times on here about this girl I have been seeing. The thing is that she is a virgin at 26, we have been seeing each other for a month and a half. I really like her and she likes me. I have tried to kiss her but she just rejected it, not sure if she is scared or just taking things extraordinarily slow. I have asked her for a kiss and she said not yet, that was a couple weeks ago. I was wondering, by now, should I keep waiting for her to make that first move or should I just go in for that kiss? I am afraid of the rejection again. We are boyfriend/girlfriend.

why not just ask her???? no complete stranger on the net is gonna be able to tell you what she's thinking, go ask her.

I have asked her to kiss me. I have asked her why she won't kiss me, she won't give me a straight answer. I do realize it's hard for people who don't know her or myself to give me advice like this.

Totally agree with the poster above......some advice can be given, but she's the only one who can answer your question. Talk to her, and good luck.

-Drew

you should talk to her about it, but from what you are saying she doesnt seem like the type to make the first move, so might just have to step up and take a chance. Don't be scared of the rejection...she is your g/f.

Not to freak you out or make you doubt her but ... Are you sure she is straight? Is there a possibility she is trying to put on a show for her family to "hide" her true self?

Just a thought ... I may be way off base by it but thought I'd throw it out.

I have thought of that Gina

she's probably just nervous or something.

I do think she is nervous, i honestly don't think she has ever kissed anyone before

and she did have a bad past in school where people called her ugly and she made herself believe she is ugly

Just be honest and keep the lines of communication open...let her know you expect the same from her...Good luck!

thanks

Good point. You can get advice...you can try to "read" her until the cows come home, but ultimately you've got to have a conversation with her. There must have been some talking; you know that she's a virgin - she must trust you to some extent.

Don't forget the other half of the equation, either - you've got to be honest with yourself about how you feel about her reaction to your advance. If she's had some esteem issues she may require patience that you might not be willing to have. Or maybe you are...the point is it's not your responsibility to work through her issues - only if you want to.

I do have the patience, the thing is at this point i'm not sure if she is still not ready or if she is now waiting for me to make the move.

build sexual tension and just kiss her

I don't want to build sexual tension, she's a virgin and I don't want her to think I am moving too quickly

Has she been kissed before? I just got my first real kiss last year. Before that, there was this amazing guy that was really into me and he wanted to be my boyfriend and we spent a lot of time together. Whenever he would try to kiss me, I'd turn him down even though I liked him. The truth was, I was waiting for the right moment and it just never felt right. Also, I was nervous because I was afraid that I'd be a bad kisser. If she's your girlfriend, obviously she likes you well enough to commit to you, she's probably just nervous. Also, does she have anything against kissing before marriage? There are some people who do..although I'm sure she would have clarified that by now. I'd say just relax and let things happen...when it's meant to happen, it will.

if wat she says is true
you two should just hang out more, talk to each other about this
and see if she is truly comfortable with you, from there you two will know wat you both want

then build it slowly
i mean... thats the only thing that can lead to a genuine kiss anyway... in case u didnt know

true dat