How important is it to you that he can provide the lifestyle you want?
Is it important that he is a good provider?

Yes, I find that important.
Men who aren't doing too well in that area usually don't feel to good about themselves either.
As for amount of money: I sure as hell don't want to go below what I got.

Not important at all..I have always done my own thing, sink
or swim.

What WOULD bother me, is if he did not live up to his
OWN standards.

It's not his job to 'provide' me with a lifestyle, so that is not as important to me as whether his lifestyle and mine are compatible. Also how he feels about himself as far as his status in life matters to me.

When it comes to who is the main provider/money maker in the household, I might have a problem if it were me. It depends on the circumstances, such as what is causing him to make less money than me. When I'm in a relationship, I prefer not to work full time just to make ends meet. Working part-time to supplement our income needs so I can give more undivided attention to our relationship, while still having 'me time', works better for me. However, if he fell ill or became disabled, I'm not going to end things just because I make more money.

There are many other ways he can be a good provider besides making money. Does he provide me with feeling safe and loved in our relationship? Does he provide me with his attention, understanding, and respect? Does he provide me with emotional and spiritual intimacy? In that sense, then yes, it is very important to me that he is a good provider.

I've known a couple very wealthy ladies. They didn't work out just like their poor sisters. Oh Well LOL

It's not important to me that they can provide for me.. For I have my own job and take care of myself..

It is important to me that they either have a job or some type of money coming in for them to provide for themselves..

i'm not here to provide a lifestyle for her

At this stage in my life, I am financially comfortable. I don't need anyone to support me and I don't want anyone who cannot support themselves.

Wait. What century are we in now?

girl I know thats right

What Rosie said! :)

I'm just here to take notes.

^5 Bastet

I'm so gonna die alone!

Sounds sugardadfyish/sugarbabyish.

I'll pass.

This question might better apply to younger women. I'm never going to remarry, so there is no question of anybody providing a lifestyle for another. He needs to be self supporting and able to afford to date. When there is an activity we both want to do, I want him to be able to pay his portion without the cost being a barrier.

That.
It's so funny everyone seems to think about money only.
And most slip into fear of lack, having to share, unwillingness to share.
It's natural for a man to want to provide, take care of, give to his girl, make sure she's doing okay and safe.
Just goes to show how few men are connected with that and are still in the old fear-based energy. I suppose mostly because they were giving once with an ex, got hurt, and now are rigid.
That's NOT the kind of man I want by my side. I've been with such a man, NEVER again!
I'm very generous myself, if a man isn't like that, f*(k him!

And also the last part. That's mostly what I'm getting at with being a good provider too. It's part of that.
It's being emotionally and psychologically healthy. Operating from a heart-based energy.
That's what I want.

I talked to my son about this a while back, asked how he felt about this.
He wouldn't mind his woman NOT working if she didn't enjoy work and it didn't make her happy.
He does get happy from work and really likes it, so he has no problem with working, and also no problem of being the sole provider. Of course if the finances were in bad state he would want her to work to help out. But if not necessary, he'd gladly be the only one making money.
He said, it doesn't make me feel less or used, if nothing else, IT MAKES ME FEEL MORE OF A MAN!

I can tell you, I was mega super proud of having raised such a great man! Because his words, that is the natural, innate masculine way of being.

Hi dear

You’re right