Another thread has made me think about this
You are in your sixties or similar and you manage to find a new friend ,at first you just meet for days out cinema coffee etc, after a while you hug cuddle and kiss, neither of you has done this for years and you are not sex driven like when you were younger,
Before either of you go any further and given there is a lot of baggage with both of you what do you do regarding health ?, Do you both get tests?, Do you try protection? (I could never get going with this even when younger) do you not do penetration and rely on other stimulation ?

Talk to her about it, ask her how she feels and what she thinks.

I agree with Crystal, talk with her about it. When it comes to getting any kind of tests to ensure your healthy, if that's important to you then do that for yourself and express that it's important to you to your partner.

yes good idea

Thanks I have yet to meet anyone but this crossed my mind

There's hope for you yet old hand..

I never thought that any western senior guy would ever think or ask all that at this stage of life. When it comes to sex, the west is far open and ready to mingle without too much reservation.

Not any I know

Surely that's Generalising..

Did the Karma Sutra not come from the East?

Exercise and get fit a bit, so you don't ruin a nice time with a heart attack or stroke. That could slow things down somewhat.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, especially not since you haven't met anyone yet.
THese things tend to sort themselves out by themselves.
There's more men who have difficulty with condoms, even when younger, you're not alone!
And when the woman's also slightly older she's likely through her fertile years so if you both get tested there'd be no need for protection, provided you both only have sex with one another and can really trust that fact.

Several parts to this:
I too dislike condoms and only consider one if it is a casual, one night. Otherwise I need to know you and your background well enough to trust you.

We will have a serious discussion well before getting into the bedroom or similar situation together. This is both to make sure sex is something we are comfortable with together and to talk about recent sexual activities and if testing is appropriate.

Personally, I get tested if I have had penetration with someone and I have any doubt about their health status. Sometimes that is a special trip to a clinic but most often done as part of my annual physical. They already have my blood sample, why not have the STD test done at the same time if you have had any exposure.

Rut roh, one of my 3 'never done that' items (have never seen
a condom except in the 2nd grade the boys at school used
them for water balloons)..so much as the good ideas flow here,
in the moment, they are most often forgotten.

I amenable to testing and packing protection.
Mostly though, dialogue might get you where you want to go ;-)

You're worried that in her sixties she's still giving it up to everyone? That doesn't make sense. Or are you worried you're passing her some unwanted crabs?

Darlin'..there are (so I hear) a LOT of older women who are quite fee and easy WRT sex these days...
So, it is always better to be safe than sorry....

Edited to add: If this has not been *your* experience, maybe it is a *you* problem, not a *her* problem..maybe the various women you have approached just didn't find you attractive in that way..
If guys can be picky as h*ll regarding looks,..women get to be also...

There is a saying when you have sex with someone you have sex with all their previous partners ,
I was not thinking along the line of the present and know I have no problems but there is a vast array of serious STD's , Crabs !!!! not heard these mentioned for decades

I am already very fit , I don't smoke or use alcohol ,I wish to remain so

Hi

BINGO!!!
She's right son.....

I have full STD tests about every 4 years.
Even when I didn't have sex.
I do this because my test results are in my secure VA lab results report and I can easily show them to an interested party.

I also have the courage to buy condoms when I first meet someone I 'might' have sex with. I have no issue buying condoms until she trusts me enough to show me her own test results.
After that, I no longer use condoms (unless I suspect she sleeps around).
But, If I suspect she is sleeping around, I stop having sex with her.

At my age I no longer have sex to satisfy an overwhelming urge.
Sex is an embrace of intimacy with someone I trust.
Part of that trust is honest communication.
The honest communication comes before the sex.

I'll be 60 in about a year and a half.
I've never been with a prostitute and I don't ever foresee me doing it.
Hell, I don't even know how to pick one up and probably couldn't afford one (in more ways than money).

There are two important reasons to use a condom.
1. To prevent unwanted pregnacies.
The women who appeal to me have all passed menopause so no more eggs, no more babies.
2. To prevent STD
STDs do not have age limits. You can get them until you die.
If you must have sex with an untrusted partner (sorry for you), at least protect yourself.