Say the person is residing in a different country

Like Africa maybe? And is looking for someone in the U.S.????

For five years I tried a long distance relationship. I was faithful, devoted, loving, traveled 175 miles (2 1/2 hours) one way every other weekend and every weekend from October through January! He cheated on me claiming that "not being able to see me every day wasn't enough because he got lonely." I took a job I didn't want that gave me the opportunity to transfer closer to him and asked him to help look for a place for us to live together that was closer to him and his kids and he didn't help look.

So no, I don't think that long distance relationships work, no I will never do or be in one again and after my experience I highly recommend against them unless one of you is planning to move closer so that bad weather, distance or temptation dont become an issue.

Wow !! A Jamaican musician who does not smoke !!

As long as they are not just trying to gain entry to a better lifestyle or access the other persons money it is possible but hard work

Yeah, or the EU, like Germany, Netherlands, UK, cos the healthcare and well-fare over here are good...

Does Ireland count? Even if the healthcare sytem here is in tatters?

sure; but, women don't even try to be friends, they usually just harass me for a really really serious relationship.

You tell me. All I've ever heard is that Ireland is poor as bleep. If that's the case I don't think it'll be on the list, haha.

I had a friend who lived there for years cos her then partner was Irish. What she told me about it... I wouldn't want to live there.
Buses don't arrive when they should. Prolly cos they're milking or something? Hihi.
When she moved inland a bit more, no proper warm water facilities or heating. Only if you had the money to buy a truckload of oil. And they couldn't always afford that, couldn't buy smaller bits only truckloads, and were then stuck without warm water and heating. I was kinda shocked. Didn't know this was still going on in a Western country, haha.

The other day, however, I was told Ireland is investing like crazy in solar panels. Well, kinda logical. If most of your people are freezing to death that could be a solution. Provided there's enough sun, haha.

@Larsi, I do hope you are going to enlighten me about the Ireland situation! You get ausländer there as well and so on. Curious!

Probably not.

Most certainly not

We are pretty much a multicultural society, especially in Dublin. But this has nothing to do with the failure of the current government to sort out the crisis in the health sector.

Or the dating situation here? My ex wife was Irish, I gonna keep away from them

Probably not, but I would be open to it if they were from one of the countries Crystal mentioned. Since I primarily live in employee housing through seasonal work, I would be the one moving if it got serious, so I wouldn't want to move to a country that was worse than the one I already live in.

The other condition would be that we'd have to meet within a month or two and he would have to come here to visit me first. Long distance relationships seldom work or last unless they meet face to face in a short time. Otherwise it's just a virtual relationship based on fantasy and wishful thinking.

My own personal experience with falling into that fantasy world was a very painful and rude awakening when reality hit home a year later... not something I'm willing to invest my time or heart into again.

My experience has been that long distance is a long drawn out form of torture in the guise of imaginary love. I’d rather get a tattoo.

it depends on the relationship for me. a more open relationship may work for me if it is long distance.

At this stage in my life, which is getting shorter everyday, I just want to love and be loved .. and adored, I want to be adored. LDR is ok for me, even if we don't ever meet. That's me.

But for you young people, you do what your heart desires. LDR is difficult specially if you live in different countries. Been there, done that. If you have not experienced LDR, go for it, just because it didn't for me and other people doesn't mean it would not work for you. Be adventurous.. just be aware that it might be an uphill battle or at least a bumpy ride.

my two cents

This is how I feel also. You'll never know what you're missing unless you try. It's hard, I've done it. Twice. Once in the states 1000 miles away & one out of country. Both times I felt adored, but wasn't ready to move so it didnt work out as they grew impatient.
Love is worth a chance.

Nope done tried one from a different state... Too far and you really don't get to know each other.. Except when they seem to be at their best....

Myself unless they live within a hours drive it is not gonna happen for me...

He offered to move, then he did and well he was like dr jekyll and mr hyde from the day he walked in my door.. Good thing he had his own house where he was from and keep it.. Less then 3 months later he was moving back home... never more~~~

It works for some and not others..

Plus my kids/grand kids / family all live within a hour of me I'm not willing to move at this point in my life...

I had a friend that went to New Zealand to start a new life with a woman from there, he came home after a few months saying it was full of sheep farmers and racists, I wouldn't fancy going there..

I think I would be comfortable with it depending on what she expected of a relationship. I have no desire to live full time with someone or see them every day. A relationship where we see each other regularly if only every month or 2 for an extended period of time could be acceptable. I have my life and you have yours. We make plans to each step out of our regular lives and into something together for a short period of time yet know that other person cares about us even if we aren't physically together every day.